No relationship is perfect, and every couple will have their fair share of ups and downs. For many, when things get unbearable, therapy is a solution. It is a great way for couples to have an unbiased third party listen to their problems and offer beneficial suggestions that will help aid communication. However, not all couples are fortunate enough to enjoy the experience of a professional therapist. First, it takes both partners in agreement for therapy to be successful, and if one partner isn’t in agreement, therapy can become a waste of time. Additionally, therapy costs money, and many couples simply can’t afford to go to therapy, no matter how great the benefits might be.
By performing your own therapy, mostly studying and working on issues together, in a fun, enjoyable manner, you can avoid the trip (and cost) to the therapist’s office. For those who simply can’t afford it, or for the couple with one unwilling partner, working on relationship therapy yourself is a great solution. Make certain that your partner is willing to engage in these activities with you. Many of the exercises are fun and involve role playing or skill builders to increase communication. When both partners are willing to participate in therapy, the results will be effective. It can be extremely frustrating and difficult for one partner to work on the relationship when the other has lost interest.
Taking your relationship therapy into your own hands can encourage a reluctant partner to take an active role and begin working on the relationship. Some simple steps that couples can take include reading books together that are therapeutic in nature. It doesn’t cost much to purchase a book or a course, but for those who find that money is an issue, a trip to the local library is all that is needed to access some of the greatest minds and counseling advice on relationships. Check for books or courses that include plenty of activities that you and your partner can engage in to strengthen and build communication.
Sometimes all a relationship needs to get back on track is for a couple to spend quality time with each other. The pressures and stress of finances, bills, children, and the unexpected things such as sickness or unemployment are heavily taxing on a relationship. If a couple doesn’t devote time to getting away from the stresses of life to just enjoy each other in a fun environment, a relationship will become strained. This is often the time when a couple begins to speak to one another in a hurried or insensitive manner. Poor communication can be detrimental to a relationship as well.
The wonderful aspect of doing your own therapy at home, is that you have the freedom to try a number of different methods and techniques. If you find that one method isn’t working for both of you, then you can easily try another technique. By working together and with a firm commitment to your relationship, you can take control and steer your relationship into a positive direction.