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Why would anyone enter into a life-long relationship, making a commitment to Love, Protect, Cherish, Respect and Honor one another if they haven’t gotten rid of the effects of their old fears, worries, angers and disappointments? Unfortunately it happens all the time. People are caught up with the feeling of being in love that they have no thought that their history and all the experiences and baggage they bring with them from the past will have anything to do with their future.
If you don’t get rid of those things beforehand, you willingly bring them into the marriage and end up measuring your new spouse against old history. Is that fair to them?
It’s like saying,
“Oh…Honey…I love you so much…I want to spend my life with you…So…here…would you help me carry around my bag of trash?”
Is that absurd or what? That’s exactly what people do to one another. They spend thousands of dollars on a wedding and then blame their spouse when things don’t work out later.
Success is a choice.
A successful marriage is a choice.
A successful family life is a choice.
Preparing yourself to be the best contributor and partner to the relationship…by getting rid of old baggage is a choice. It’s also a sign of strength and maturity. Imagine that you were going to run an important foot race and the outcome would have a direct impact to the rest of your life.
You’ve eaten. You’ve trained. You bought the best running shoes, and you have new designer running clothes. On the outside you look good. Yet, all the while, you’ve been carrying sharp, heavy rocks in your pocket. As you approach the starting line you notice that you still have the sharp, heavy rocks in your pocket. These rocks will over time slow you down…and dig into your skin with the sharp edges…reminding you they are there.
Does that make sense? No…of course not…but that’s what people do when they prepare for marriage. They do all the things to look good on the outside but they choose not to deal with the sharp, hidden rocks that direct their focus away from their new spouse and their future.
Transformative Life Center consists of ten individual sessions. There are five private sessions with the bride and five private sessions with the groom… and they stay private. I don’t share with the other party.
Our intent is to clear out the old false perceptions and prepare each person for a long…happy future together. We get rid of the false perceptions that impacted you in the past…so your tomorrow is successful. The value to this process is that you can both focus on your new life together.
This is an opportunity to prepare yourself and show your future spouse that you mean business. You have an opportunity to show them that they so valuable to you that you are willing to begin your new life together at a “Centered” state. You can build a future and a family and be successful in your careers without unnecessary baggage holding you back.