Why are boys sometimes so difficult to raise? How is our modern society addressing some of these issues and what more can be done?
Points on Successfully Raising Boys
The single most important factor in successfully raising boys is that every boy from birth should have a holistically positive male “father” figure and female “mother” figure in their lives to:
provide tangible expressions of love, belonging, support (emotional, physical and spiritual) and purpose (through culture),
provide an image or model of a positive life path,
provide verbal and non-verbal direction towards holistic development, and
provide clear expressions of acceptable conduct and if necessary provide corrective measures to negative, unacceptable conduct.
These mother and father figures should ideally be present in the young males lives from birth to death on a day-to-day basis. These mother and father figures should also build a community of surrogate or stand-in mothers and fathers who play these same roles for these boys when they are not able to or when the traits of these surrogates that they do not possess are more effective. Where mothers and fathers are somehow absent from the lives of young males and females, the community, including the government social services, must step in to ensure suitable surrogates take their place, not mannequins of the system. Communities in many parts of the world must be considered in a crisis state in regards to this issue and national governments and the community at large must acknowledge and work towards alleviating this particular deficiency of wholistically positive male and female mother-father presence and support.
Alas, mothers must support the fathers physically, mentally, and spiritually and fathers reciprocate. Communities must make this job easier through continuing to work towards alleviation of poverty on a social, economic and cultural level. Those in government must work at the grassroots to ensure the above points are happening and that the community is aware of their necessity. This can be done through holistic development programs and institutions that provide necessary elements towards development on a community specific basis.
David has given lectures in Herbal medicine, eating and nutrition, and environmental wholeness including recycling and organic farming. He has been studying, applying and teaching the principles of Wholistic Health for the past 7 years. David serves as an active member of The Ethiopian World Federation, Inc. Medical Unit and is often sought after to give advice on health and healing. At home he maintains an active herbal pharmacopoeia and garden and is very versed in healing with herbs as well as their identification both locally and internationally. He lived and studied for two years in Jamaica and has lived for brief periods in Tanzania, Ethiopia and in Ghana. In all places he pursued research in the fields of native herbs and herbal treatment and traditional healing technologies.