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I belong to an organization called Angels That Care {ironic, ain' it?}. ATC's goals are to help people abuse victims and educate the public about the issues that are involved. The message board proves what experts are saying: abuse is reaching -- or has reached -- epidemic proportions. In the case of the message that triggered the short response you are about to read, a woman wrote to say that she was being abused by friends. She said she would provide details if the group could 'guarantee' help. ATC owner and monitor Marcia Duning asked me to respond. I decided to post a copy at Author's Den in the hope of getting feedback. Having been a teacher and therapist {as well as mother, grandmother, writer &...recovering nut?], I've been thinking of putting together a self-help e-book. Think I should? Would you like to contribute hints? What self-help methods or 'tricks' do you believe in? What is "normal?" Should we shoot for it or ignore it? Let me have your thoughts. T h a n k s, 'Pea'

There is one person that I guarantee can help.  That person is you.  Every good self-help book I have read -- and I have read a l o t -- emphasizes the "self" in self-help.  Because the thing is, if we do not find ways to increase our own feeling of self-worth, we project our self-hatred onto others. In other words, we think they hate us, because we hate ourselves [and there are always people who will 'cooperate' by acting hateful].  S__, honey, no one can m a k e you feel bad about yourself. Honest! You have to allow it to happen. . .in a way, want it to.   What your mind and heart are saying to you is: You are all the bad things people say {or think they say, or think}.  What can you do about it? Every time you feel yourself disrespecting yourself, STOP and substitute something good about yourself. Make a list of a l l the things you like about yourself, and pick one. Next time, pick another. Doesn't matter what it is. Can you talk? That is a good thing. Do your legs and arms do what they are supposed to? That is a [very] good thing. Do you see where I am going? Maybe you have a nice laugh. Maybe you have a strong chin. Maybe you have fought hard to survive. Write the best thing about yourself 50 times, or a 100. Or more!! Then go do kindness for a friend or family member or stranger. Now you have one m o r e good thing about yourself to
put on your list.
If you can afford short- or long-term therapy, go for it. If not, read some of the books in the self-help section of the nearest public library. Social Services may be able to find a counselor you can afford. Ministers offer counseling free.
There is a Great Spirit who is not only willing to help, but wants to. Doesn't matter if you call it god or something else. It is there.
You are made in its image!
Please keep in touch and let us know how it goes.
Many of us -- if not all -- have had to fight for self-esteem. It is a battle that has to be fought many times, but when you win, wow. It is a wonderful feeling, I'm here to tell you.

Love from us all. . .and most of all, yourself.

'Pea  {Marcia calls me Pod:) }

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Reviewed by Elizabeth Price 7/27/2007
Wise words and the fight for self-esteem is a never ending battle in my world. Having bipolar disorder makes coping a real challenge daily. Abuse. I've had enough thank you. Your words ring so true and inspiring that yes, we have to do it ourselves. Excellent. Liz
Reviewed by Debra Conklin 11/28/2004
Survivor of 17 years of abuse by a pedophile father. Through counseling and a determination not to let HIS shit and HIS crimes against his family, keep me down I've fought my way out of that self-hating cesspool and tried to make a good life for myself and my family. It's a struggle, each day, to keep the positive aspects of my family, to the forefront, but after 41 years, I'm starting to get the hang of it. You're only a victim if you let yourself be. You can overcome and change your life around. My article, "Life in a Small Town," tells a little of my story.

Write that self-help book, Phyllis. There are probably a ton of us out there who have a little bit to contribute. If it helps another person survive, then you've accomplished your goal.
Reviewed by Safi Abdi 9/23/2004
Phyllis, I've posted on AD an article , a review of a book titled: "Don't be Sad", this is a great book for anyone who wishes to get on with life, irrespective of their background or life experiences. Would appreciate if you could check it out.
Thank you!

Reviewed by Tami Ryan 7/17/2004
As a Counselor to those who are victims/Survivors of Sexual Assault and, also, Domestic Violence, I'd love to contribute hints. I have articles on both sexual assault and domestic violence posted here at AD, and I'm working on a sexual assult article that is more specifically geared toward self-love and the healing process. I have always said that even if I help one person (especially if it's a child), then it will have been worth my efforts.
I conduct a weekly support group for women who have been victims of Sexual Assault, and my main focus during these groups is self-esteem and teaching women that in order to love others, we must first love ourselves. (As a Survivor of Sexual Assault, I remember how difficult this struggle was to overcome.) I am also in the process of starting a new support group for "significant others" in the victim's life, so that they may learn how to help/support these wo/men.
I'd be happy to offer any suggestions. I think this is a most wonderful idea, Pea! Bless you!

A thousand hugs,
Reviewed by Mark Carroll 7/17/2004
ATC's goals are to help people abuse victims and educate the public about the issues that are involved.

You may have missed a word or two here.

Like PEA, I believe one of the easiest way to learn about ourself is to listen to how we critisize others. More often than not the way we describe others is more likely the way we are.

Stephen Covery says "we all think we see the world as it really is, when in fact, we see the world as we really are". If you have not read some of his work, you should.

Good luck and I enjoyed reading your work.
Reviewed by Marcia Duning (Reader) 7/17/2004

Pod does a better job of helping me with those that are abused than I ever could. Sometimes we don't know if we help people.Even if one is helped, then we have done our job.

Self help!It works if determined enough and believe in yourself. If not "go for it."

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