A review of Violet Blue's book, "Fetish Sex: An Erotic Guide for Couples"
Eventually, every sex worker will meet a client who needs more than a typical session to maintain satisfaction. Such a client may require props, scripts, special costumes, or just an ounce of imagination for a truly special encounter. Depending upon experience, a sex worker can tolerate these demands. But, sometimes these requests often ask for mental, physical, emotional, and verbal strength. Considering the outbreak of sex books for couples that have flooded the market over the past few years, it is especially difficult to find a book that can counsel anyone-let alone prostitutes and mistresses (polite term for “dominatrix”)-on embracing a fetish, identifying its presence, and exercising these pleasures within healthy boundaries. I just recently snagged a copy of Violet Blue's Fetish Sex, a DIY guide specifically for couples on how to exercise those uninhibited pleasures that often go untapped.
Quite frankly, any author that chooses to dive head first into the lurid subject of fetish is pretty bold, considering the perceptions of fetishistic sexual acts in mainstream society. Blue doesn't get into the messy politics of the term, which works for and against her. She essentially and casually breaks down the “how-to’s” of establishing one's fantasies and using them in the bedroom that is most comfortable for all parties involved. The book comes complete with questions, lists, and guidelines to insure that the reader and her/his lover are aware of each other’s boundaries and fantasies. There are also tasty little short stories by fetish writer Thomas Roche, which will inspire many readers to come up with scenarios of their own. Roche's breathtaking tidbits are anything but generic; the first short entitled Mother Superior pretty much says it all.
At first, Fetish Sex starts off a little shaky. Blue makes a valid but sloppy effort to define a fetish in comparison to, say, an attraction or interest, which is very confusing. For example, she lists several scenarios in a bedroom setting and identifies which are fetishistic acts and which ones are not. However, some “fetishes” (she lists the fascination with big breasts as one of them) are also mentioned in the book as mere evidence of mass appeal to a body part. However, as she details different types of fetishes, the definition of one becomes clearer. As far as specific information that a sex worker should know (pricing, timing, how to lead each fetish-based session, etc) there wasn’t much to discover. Sex workers may find nuggets of wisdom sprinkled throughout the book, as well as a treasure chest of resources that may help them better understand a fetish their client enjoys.
Fetish Sex is a great starting place for couples that are determined to either spice up the bedroom or find support and encouragement for a particular fetish. Blue is highly skilled and highly informative in fetish. She treads upon even the most taboo subjects with elegance, and provides resources for almost every fetish. I suggest sex workers who are not well-versed in even the most basic fetish sessions should definitely pick this up. Tons and tons of great suggestions are added that are universally acceptable for anyone.