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Fear of Potential Relationships
By Michel Massicotte   
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Last edited: Sunday, November 16, 2008
Posted: Friday, October 17, 2008

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This article was going to focus on what people can expect to go through when not with their soul mate after establishing contact with them. But in seeing more and more relationships affected by outside influences, I think a common thread is developing and it goes beyond how soul mates feel about each other. Being an empath and a person who works in the metaphysical realm, I tend to go through things most people would not understand, and would not want to experience. Fear affects everyone, including sensitive people like me, and sometimes maybe more so because of that. So maybe you will be able to relate.

People, I call clients, want explanations for the indescribably bad things happening to their relationships, or potential relationships. They ask for reasons why their relationship is not going as they planned or hoped. I feel for them for having gone through --or rather going through-- the same thing. I see fear from the energy representing the person who was supposed to be with them. Fear induced by jealous peers or family not wanting them to enjoy one of the greatest pleasures two people can share. Fear from a potential mate not believing the potential relationship with the client could make them happier than they could imagine. Fear of the potential pain from losing that incredible love and not being strong enough to recover from that loss.

Fear continues to be a powerful inhibitor to people. It subdues quiet people and makes them less likely to take a chance on things which might make them feel better and change their life. Fear is like a fuel to abusive people. Call them bullies. It makes them want to control and manipulate other people, as they hate the thought of other people enjoying relationships they deem the person as not worthy of experiencing.  Bullies are always drawn to beauty to balance their own insecurities, and they want to find ways of controlling it or destroying it if they cannot possess it. Yes, a cliché, I know, but things seem to work out that way, at least temporarily.

Clients come to me with questions such as, “I don’t know what happened? We seemed to be going great, we were both happy, and then he stopped talking to me. What’s going on?” Incidentally, most clients are women. I suspect many men are in a similar situation, but I think they recover more easily and tend to settle.

In almost every situation with a client, I see the energy representing them and the energy representing their potential relationship. I see the resonance when their energies are combined and most clients are meant to be with the other person. The outside forces, on the other hand, namely peers and family, surround the person like black clouds ready to attack should the person attempt to form a relationship with the client. In some cases I see the fear being absorbed by the person. Call that the person settling for his or her current environment for fear the budding relationship will end miserably. Fear, as well, will come from peers afraid of losing their friend or relative to a bourgeoning love life, or jealousy from the friend or relative not in a loving relationship and not wanting the person to enjoy one. In any of these scenarios, the bourgeoning relationship between client and person is sacrificed to the fear which seems more overwhelming than the love or care the client and person might be able to nurture.

But what could happen when two people know they are meant to be together, but the reality of fear is a more powerful force, and both people practice metaphysics? You develop a symbiotic connection, and the universe tries to sustain it. What is a symbiotic connection? Well, think of two living beings attached to each other, like a fetus to a mother, though a symbiotic connection between two adults provides a more equal exchange of information. In situations like mine, that will mean things felt from a distance.

You might think, “wow, neat.” It is neat, passionate, and the most gratifying feeling when the connection is being nurtured in reality. You feel settled, like everything in the world is perfect. Fear, on the other hand, exposes you to a new level of extremes, like riding a roller coaster. With moderate pain, the longing is like your heart and ribs are being squeezed, and you can think of nothing else than being with that person. During the worst moments, the pain can feel like betrayal, like standing beside the bed and watching them make love to someone else. That feeling can be confusing when the person comes to mind most of the time in a good way, such as visions of them being frisky with you.

You might be thinking, “you’ve got a healthy imagination my friend. She’s not feeling like that and avoiding you at the same time.” Well, people can surprise anyone with the dualities they develop. A person can be agreeable to family and friends while wishing desperately to be with the person they love, though they will never admit it, and not take action for a long time due to the fear.

Sometimes a metaphysical or symbiotic bond can be the greatest connection two people can share, at least when the other person is not succumbing to the fear stopping them from being with their love. Unfortunately, people in general are abandoning their intuition in favor of logic, which is being controlled by fear, which is unfortunately influencing, or tainting, their free will.

We should all push through our fears, since in doing so, would allow us to look back and see the bullies and in an ironic way, help them overcome their fears should they want our help. We would all live better lives that way.


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