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If You Live Long Enough
By Regis Auffray   
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Last edited: Saturday, February 14, 2015
Posted: Saturday, February 14, 2015

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An essay by Sha'Tara, local writer and friend.

If You Live Long Enough

[thoughts from ~burning woman~ by Sha’Tara]
If you live long enough you will arrive at a place where your mind will meet with its memories.
The most lucid memories I’ve encountered of late are those of parents, teachers, educators and would-be way-showers. And, I think, they were selfish. They were arrogant, bigoted, and narrow-minded. At times they were violent, brutish, and oppressive to endure. True. These memories are trustworthy.
But then I realize I’ve become an adult and I can allow myself to judge as an adult, no longer as a dependent child. I take a new look at those memories of parents and assorted up-bringers and I allow that they did the best they could with what they had; with what they knew and understood. There was nothing else; no other rabbits for them to pull out of the hat their own society had plunked down on their heads. There was nothing more they could have done. And I realize this: that they were merely human.
Now what? Now it’s all up to me, just me, if I desire to be more (or less) than were those who “had” me, raised me, educated me, taught me, and without quite being aware of what they were doing (to me), tried to make me like them. But I neither liked them, nor did I choose to become like them. Instead I became me and I know the difference.
         Now here’s my self-empowered conclusion of the matter: If they’re out there and they can see, even if they cannot speak, they have no choice now but to approve. Why? Because they are now powerless to do anything else. All that power they once possessed and used to lord it over me, has passed into my own hands to do with as I see fit. Interesting, isn’t it. But of course that’s only true to the degree that I allow myself to realize this.
         So now, let me simply state that I approve of what you did to me, and for me, and I thank you. It gave me the power to choose to rise above your thoughts and expectations of me. The bread of adversity, like any bread, can be buttered on the one side or as “they” say, “What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.”

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Reviewed by Jena Ayro 2/15/2015


The most important thing is
you learned that only you in
your life is responsible for
how you choose to be and

Most go through life not
ever learning that and do
continue to blame anybody
else except their selves
for their ways of living

Mostly saying they did all
that they were told to do
and how to be, so why did
everything go pear shaped
for them

Not realizing ya can't
follow somebody elses
itinerary and expect the
very same results

Life copies only the basics
of each and every thing that
lives, only, nothing that
made change stayed in the
basic mode

In every case it followed
its own instincts and in
the doing of that, new
theories, species and ideas
have changed everything

Well almost everything, man
as a species is the slowest
thing to change and evolve,
as it fears change

Thanks for you insightful

Reviewed by - - - - - TRASK 2/15/2015

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Reviewed by G. Roscoe 2/15/2015
Regis you hold the power, regardless of the past. It's never how they beat you down, or kick you around, it's about knowing;that you have the will, and power to rise again. If the memories are good keep them, if not let them slip away like a candle flame in the wind. Out of mind out of sight. You're the best Regis.
Reviewed by Jon Willey 2/15/2015
We are each of us responsible for our own actions and not for those of others. Many in today's society attempt to pass accountability off to someone else. That is where most people are confused between responsibility and accountability. Until we have matured enough to expect to be held accountable for our own actions we will act as children. Good piece of work here Regis. Thank you for sharing. May peace and love be always with you. Jon Michael
Reviewed by Ronald Hull 2/15/2015
Although we are of the same sentiments on many things, my experience seems to have been much different. Fortunately, my very young parents, while struggling, were not at all restrictive or judgmental, and allowed me to "grow up" and make my own decisions and take responsibility for them at a very young age, perhaps before I was 10. This permissiveness, coupled with many mentors, both teachers and advisors that I cherished, were people of high ideals, kind, honest, generous, and nurturing. They taught me the right way to live.

I do recall a couple of my mentors, people of high learning and great achievement, who told me that, "I hope I did no harm." For requiring so much of me and other students to try to be as high achieving as they were. It was only in later life, both at the corporate and higher education level, that I ran into people that were unscrupulous, vicious, and determined to serve the self before those they were supposed to serve.

Perhaps you grew up in the "me" generation. I did not. I grew up in the "moon is only the start" generation that made love, not war, and overcame the Cold War with a peace sign.

Reviewed by D. Vegas 2/15/2015
Yes, Sha'Tara one has to move on and realize you are
not a child anymore and know the choices are yours


Reviewed by Jane Noponen Perinacci 2/14/2015
My sentiments exactly! This is something I needed to read today. Thank you!

Love ya!


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