An article by Sha'Tara...
Happiness, Covetousness, Hope and Other Delights
[thoughts of a ~burning woman~ Sha'Tara]
"O, how bitter a thing it is to look into happiness through another man's eyes!"
(As you like it - Shakespeare)
What is happiness? How would "the average Joe" describe such a state of beingness? Having never known that happiness is not a feeling but a state of mental and physical balance, the answer would be as varied as Joe has moods. It would ultimately be a meaningless answer.
I would say, after a few years of observation; of "eavesdropping" on conversations, that for most, happiness is what someone else is experiencing or it's something that's about to happen. It's something I will buy as soon as I fix my credit rating. It's something I will have in bed as soon as I can seduce that other to share my sexual intoxication. It's something I'll have when I get married, have kids, when the kids leave home, when I retire, if that damn weather ever changes, when I win the lottery, when I get my new boat.
Indeed, a meaningless exercise in wishful thinking.
Have I ever met a truly happy person? I've smiled at babies in carriages and shopping carts and seen happiness, however short-lived. I've interacted with mentally challenged individuals and seen happiness through their smiling eyes. I wish I could say I've met professionals and working people who were truly happy, but I cannot.
Funny thing about happiness: you will find it in those who are totally self-empowered and self-motivated. Those who take complete responsibility for every aspect of their lives. Those who no longer blame... and therefore no longer hope. Conversely, you will also find happiness in those who are totally dependent on others and accept their condition without question; who live within a sort of dream state that things are good, no matter what, and can only continue to be good - no matter what. Where the choice to create change is non-existent.
The problem with happiness when it comes to "normal" people is, it cannot exist alongside of fear: fear of not getting, fear of not having and fear of losing. Another way of putting it is, happiness cannot exist where there is any kind of attachment. Momentary pleasures, perhaps, but not happiness. Those who seek happiness through attachments (or through control of situations and events) will forever be looking for it through the window of covetousness.
And here's another word for covetousness: hope. So much of "hope" I find is nothing more than covetousness' poor cousin. I "hope" I win that lottery this weekend. I "hope" I get that new job, I hope he asks me to marry him. Such "hope" describes a mindset that says someone, the world, God, luck, a lover, whatever, owes it to me to make me happy. I don't have to work for it; I don't have to prove I'm capable, I bought a ticket... I signed my name on the list... I slept with him... now I deserve it.
And then? As Shakespeare says, when the other wins, or gets the coveted supervisory job, or he goes after another, you see happiness only through their eyes. A sad thing. Now come the recriminations; the gossip, the lies, the blame, the conspiracies. The winner is forgotten. The new supervisor is despised. The ex-boyfriend and his new girlfriend are hated with passion. And it starts all over again with the next cartoon.
Earthian life wobbling forth in hope of something, anything, except what it started out to be about.
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|Reviewed by Elizabeth Price
|Hope to me is that yearning for better than what I am now. And I don't expect someone else to make me happy. That is my responsibility as you say. Good write. Liz|
|Reviewed by Irina Karstein (Reader)
|Yeah, I agree, I'm not really a big fan of the word "hope" or whatever it means. The most unhappy people I know often use the word "hope" very often in their conversations. Insightful piece!|
|Reviewed by P-M Terry Lamar
As always in your works, you have shown insight and intelligence.
|Reviewed by Mary Grace Patterson
|Happiness is a state of mind and well being. It comes in many ways , forms and acceptance. I enjoyed the article. It brings out a lot of good "THINING" thoughts....M|
|Reviewed by Morning Star
|To be alive is something that makes me happy
But as we all know happiness is a state of mind
In life has its ups and downs!
A very interesting question enjoyed reading
Love Peace and hugssss....Morning star
|Reviewed by Staci Gansky-Wagner
|I agree with this article, many valid points about happiness.|
|Reviewed by Bonnie May
|If I have a choice I'd rather be happy as everyone would even the little things in life make me happy. Just to have life, makes me happy. Great write, Love, Bonnie|
|Reviewed by Georg Mateos
|They that can say, "not guilty!" should be happy, the rest, amend their ways and see if they deserve to be.
|Reviewed by Pierre Ortega
|I think all states of mind have their upsides and their downsides.
I think the downside of happiness is that we won't allways be happy, yet the upside of sadness is that we won't allways be sad. I think hope can be covetous, yet it can also serve a purpose in the expanded mind to channel positive energy to accomplish good. I think
what Sheakespeare was trying to accomplish through his works was getting the message across that most of the problems in the equation of everyday life can be solved by the expansion of the mind,but in order to solve all the problems of Mankind the heart and the soul must be expanded also, A somewhat harder task. Excellent write!
Take Care, Pierre
|Reviewed by Karen Vanderlaan
|true, very true words--i enjoyed the thoughtfulness this work brings forth|
|Reviewed by John Leko
|...in looking within...this write again...gives light...and as always provokes thought.
Thank You Regis...
|Reviewed by Ron (sketchman) Axelson
|No, happy and sad won't work as one.
Fine writing..very informative.
|Reviewed by Mary Coe
|Very well written. Enjoyable read.|
|Reviewed by Jon Willey
|Not only can happiness not coexist with fear. No two conflicting beliefs can coexist within our minds. It is called cognitive dissonance. We are not capable of holding two conflicting beliefs at the same time. Can all hope be classified as covetousness? I think not. It is reasonably possible for everyone to want something they do not have, to hope for something, without wishing they had something that belongs to someone else. So all hope is not in fact covetoiusness. Another thought provoking article. As I said in my poem , "Poetry - Sock it to Me". Challenge me, make me think. I love it! Jon Michael Willey|
|Reviewed by Susan Phillips
|Happiness is a choice. I choose to be happy, every fibre of my being is happy, even if parts of me get annoyed, surprised, saddened now and again, they begin each day in happiness. It's the springboard from which I launch myself into projects, outings, even conversations.|
|Reviewed by Sandra Corona
|Happiness is a perfect state of being, a fleeting moment that most cannot long sustain.
It touches everyone at one point of their life or another but often is mislabeled.
Covetousness is, unfortunately, an all too-human emotion in that instead of being grateful for what another has, we resent that THEY have/got it instead of us. That feeling, in most cases, is also (thankfully) fleeting.
Hope is sustainable ... it means being positive that things will improve, not just change. However, it can bring about action as well. If you HOPE someone doesn't starve, you may take them a food basket, etc.
All of these things depend upon the individual and how THEY look at life: all can be positive, negative or mean absolutely nothing.
Personally, I think this is introspective ... makes us dwell on ourselves, our purpose, goals, outlooks.
|Reviewed by Tinka Boukes
|Very well said....happiness is something we all need in our lives....and one happiness for me is hearing from you...and reading you!!
Love TinkaSWEETS $*!*$
|Reviewed by Debby & Gordon Rosenberg
|love it! been there, done that, seen it, and know it...well said! Burn on!|