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Do you ever feel unhappy with yourself? Do you worry that you are never going to get where you want to in life? Would you like to improve your self-self, your self-image and feel like you have some direction in your life?

Do you ever feel unhappy with yourself? Do you worry that you are never going to get where you want to in life? Would you like to improve your self-self, your self image and feel like you have some direction in your life.  If you want to look in the mirror and like the person who you see, look at yourself with respect, then this may be the most important article you are ever going to read.

Changing yourself mentally, physically and spiritually does not happen overnight.  The process of change takes much time and energy, so do not get discouraged.  While focusing on this seven step plan you will begin to see the changes in yourself as they start to occur.   I felt exceptionally proud of myself when I saw myself begin to change for the better.  My self-esteem improved and I no longer cared what others thought about me.  For the first time I was concerned about what I thought, not what others thought.  Believe me, once you begin working on this program you will begin seeing results and realize that this program is worth doing. 


Remember, you cannot say you want to change; you have really to want it to do it.  The motivation to want to change has to come from within your heart.  Saying you want to change is easy, but you have really to want it to do it for it to happen.  Otherwise, the change will never occur.

Below, are the seven steps to the beginning of the transformation process.  The transformation process begins when you realize it is time to change and you finally develop the stamina to do what it takes to improve yourself.  I created seven steps so that starting the program the right way will be easier for you.  Your mind, body and soul all have to be on the same track, functioning as one or else the program will not work for you.  The most important part of the program is the beginning.  You have to have the correct perception of what you will be doing now and where you will be headed for the future.


I used these seven steps myself to help me change my outlook on epilepsy.  I was able love myself and not be ashamed that I was epileptic.  I felt capable to live the life that I wanted to.  I felt like a different, better person.  I strongly believe that if you follow this program it will help to live your life as an epileptic proudly, creatively, and happily. 


 Below are the seven steps to lead you to a new beginning living with epilepsy.




            PATIENCE - This is the first step to living a happy and healthy life with epilepsy is developing patience.  You will need patience to work this program successfully. Changing your outlook on epilepsy is going to take time, devotion and hard work. Succeeding with this program comes by being patient in wanting to see results.  


 This exercise will help you even if you are already a patient person because it will relax you and increase your motivational skills simultaneously.


1. Take a hot bubble bath for fifteen minutes.  Also, place an oatmeal bath in the water. 

            2. Lie in the bathtub and close your eyes, take four deep breaths slowly. 

3. While you are taking these deep breaths clear all thoughts from your mind.  Focus on the feeling of the warm water touching your body and the breathing techniques that you are doing at that moment.

4. Think about something positive and pleasant.  Envision something that makes you happy. Focus on something that makes you feel good about yourself.

 5. Let go of any negative thoughts that you have stored in your mind.  Just to think about one thing that makes you feel good about yourself.

6. Take four more deep breaths, relax for a minute and get out of the bathtub.

7. Get dressed, go to a quiet place and sit on the floor.  Close your eyes and slowly bend forward, relaxing any tight muscles that are causing you tension. Bend to the left, stretching your arms as far as they will go, then stretch to the right, repeating the movement.

8. Take five more deep breaths and say aloud “I have the patience to change myself and become the person I want to become in life.” Say, “I have epilepsy and there is nothing wrong with being an epileptic.”

9. Repeat step seven and eight

10. Take five more deep breaths and listen to yourself when you are doing this exercise.  Concentrate on yourself while doing this exercise.  Do not let any distractions impose on your quiet time.  Do not think about anything except this exercise and the techniques it


You need to change your outlook on epilepsy by not letting your epilepsy take control of you.  As I was growing up, I always made believe that I did not have epilepsy.  By doing this, I was only hurting myself.  Accepting epilepsy into my life has helped me tremendously.  I have released much of the anger that I held inside myself, and have focused on other parts of my life; as a result, I have become a stronger person, extremely proud of the person I have become.  You need to do the same.  It may take time to get to this point.  That is why you need to have patience to come to believe you can do anything you put your mind too.  Thinking positive thoughts about yourself will help you get a long way in life.



Step 2 teaches you how to recognize all the wonderful things about yourself. Judging other people is very easy.  Looking at ourselves honestly, however, is difficult.  Sometimes we do not focus on ourselves because we have become so preoccupied focusing on everyone else that we forget number one.  This step helps recognize all the good things about you.  You will begin to have a more positive outlook on life.  First, you need to ask, “What do I have to change about myself? What parts of my life need to be readjusted?  What are my strengths?  What are my weaknesses? 


Before you answer these questions, get yourself a notebook. To document your answers to these questions and keep track of your progress.  The journal helps you see your characteristics and change the ones you dislike.   Look at the positive things about yourself and commend yourself for the accomplishments that you achieved and work on changing the negative characteristics that we all carry within us.  Begin the journal by listing all the positive things about yourself on the first page.  Make a list from 1 to 10, call this list the “THE POSITIVE STRENGTHS  ABOUT ME.


Your positive points are the strengths that will take you through life. Start your journal with these positive characteristics about yourself.  Seeing your strengths itemized in your daily journal will give you encouragement.  Each day as you open this journal, you will be looking at all the good things about yourself that will give you motivation to make this program achieve your highest potential.  On the next page, create a list and write down your weaknesses.  Make a list that looks as the following.  Remember, be honest with yourself and make sure you focus not only on your strengths, but also on your weaknesses.  Reviewing our weaknesses can help us see more clearly, what has to be changed in your lives.  Make a list from 1 to 10, call this list “   THINGS ABOUT MYSELF THAT I NEED TO WORK ON.”   


On the next page, list ten goals you want to do this week to change your outlook on epilepsy and how you feel about yourself.  This will help you gain some insight into what you need to start doing for yourself.  Start planning what you want the new you to be like.  Each time you accomplish a goal, put a star next to it.                                       




Then I want you to list ten long-term goals of what you want to have accomplished and where you want to be in a month’s time. Focus on how you are going to accept your Yourself.  You need to be proud of the person you have transformed in too.  And how you are going to change the characteristics about yourself that you are unhappy with. Call the list


Goals for the Month


Create a page in the beginning of the book called the priority calendar.  Ask your self these questions.



Priority Calendar


1. What do you regret not having made more time for? (List ten things)


2. If you had more time, what would you do with it? (List ten things)


3. What are the top ten priorities in your life right now? (List ten things)


4. What are your family-related goals? (List ten things)


5. What are your business goals? (List ten things)

In the back of the journal, take a quarter of the notebook and title it your Daily Diary.  Dedicate the diary to someone you care about and feel close too, someone who would be proud to see you accepting that you have epilepsy and living the life, you want to lead. Dedicating the journal to someone, you care about gives you motivation to want to change for the better.  Write about the goals you accomplished and explain how it made you feel to reach them.  Write about these achievements are making you into a better person and how their helping you with your epilepsy.  Describe what you had to do to achieve the goals.



Step 3 is about the importance of self‑determination and how to develop it.  Self-determination requires that you make an agreement with yourself and keep it. You must have faith in yourself that you are going to do anything that you put your mind to.  Your motivation to accomplish this program will become easier as each day goes by.  Saying you’re going to improve is easy, but you cannot just say you are going to improve; you have to get out and accomplish the goals that you have set for yourself.  You cannot accomplish too many goals in one day. Changing takes time and as step one says, "You need to have patience.”   Try to accomplish one goal a week at first.  Maybe two goals, if you have the time.  Then accomplish another goal each week until you get to ten goals.  These goals do not have to be difficult.  You can set several little goals maybe only one large one.  Working on yourself can be tough if you have a busy schedule; nevertheless, do not let that stop you.  You have to make time for yourself. Remember; you come first in life.  You need to believe that you are the best.  You cannot take care of the people who mean the most to you or do the things in life that you want to do, if your mental, physical and spiritual well-being is not intact and strong. 


Reward yourself every time you achieve a goal. Your achievements are important and you should not treat them lightly.   For example, take in a movie or reward yourself with some quiet time to relax and focus just on yourself.  To me there is nothing better than having sometime alone with you.  Do something that makes you happy.  Remember, you cannot make others happy until you are happy with yourself.



In your journal, make a list called Record of Successes and itemize all the achievements that you have accomplished. Create a list of everything good you believe you have done for yourself.  This will make you feel good about yourself.  For example, include the following:


(List ten things)


My Achievements (List ten things)



Develop a special time in the day for quiet time.  Studies have shown that individuals who have a daily quiet time are less likely to become ill, and heal faster from illness than those who do not.  Take a few minutes during the day to write in your journal. Try to make it the same time each day.  Perhaps when you are by yourself or in the morning, just before you start the day.  You could also wait until everyone goes to sleep so that no one will bother you.  Give yourself at least fifteen minutes to a half hour. Relax, and while you are writing and relaxing ask yourself the question; “Where am I headed in life and where do I want to be a year from now?” Then write about it.  Make sure you are focusing on the things you want to accomplish in life.

The only way you will succeed in this life is making sure that epilepsy does not control your life.  You need to feel proud of the changes you are making with this program.  Focus on what you have accomplished.  Think about how you feel about having epilepsy while writing in this journal.  The goal is to let yourself open up and write intimately and honestly about how you feel.  This method helps heal your wounds so you can get on with your life.  You have to learn to understand why you have reacted the way you have about having epilepsy.     Think of ways to strengthen yourself spiritually and emotionally.  Make sure you do not limit yourself because you feel sorry for yourself because you have epilepsy.   That is self-pity and it is unhealthy.  You will never get anywhere in life if you pity yourself.  Free yourself from any walls you have built around yourself.  This program will help you do that.  Become the person you want to be.



Now repeat the 7-step process each day.  Once you complete the seven steps go back and review the things you have written in your journal. These steps are a new way of life. Keep doing these seven steps each day until you get to where you want to be and you have become completely satisfied with yourself.    There is so much knowledge out there for us to learn. It is there for anyone who wants it. I always add more goals to my list. You should always work on bettering yourself.  Everyone is special everyone has something unique about them.  It is your job to find out what those unique qualities are in you and how to make them work for you.

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Reviewed by Karen Lynn Vidra, The Texas Tornado 12/10/2004
thanks for sharing this, a much needed write! well done!

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