The Most Important Skills
You Must Learn
In Order to Help You Be Kind
Learning to Be Kind
“The Kindness Act”
THE KINDNESS CAKE RECIPE
1 CUP OF GOOD THOUGHTS
2 CUPS OF SACRIFICE
1 CUP OF KIND DEEDS
1 CUP OF CONSIDERATION
2 CUPS OF YOUR THOUGHTS
ACTS OF KINDS TO FOLLOW TO MAKE YOU AND THE WORLD AROUND YOU A BETTER PLACE TO LIVE
- Send someone a hand written note of thanks.
- Make a card at home and send it to a friend for no reason.
- Tell someone how much they are appreciated
- Give a huge tip to someone when they least expect it.
- Tell all your family members how much your appreciate them.
- Take time out to appreciate the little things we take for granted.
- Using crayons make your own card for someone you love or care for.
- Create a craft for someone as a gift
- Make cards for your parents telling them that they are the best.
Children and Teens
- Do volunteer work
- Mow an elderly neighbor’s lawn
- Treat others with dignity and respect
- Apologize if you interrupt someone’s conversation
- Don’t talk behind someone’s back
- Always say, “Please.”
- show respect for others
- Treat everyone equally
- Show respect for others no matter what their financial situation, religion, or even personality.
- Gather up kids in your neighborhood and take them to a local orphanage or shelter to deliver some balloons and cookies.
- Always say thank you
- Bake brownies or cupcakes with a youngster and have them pass it on to the mail carrier or sanitary workers.
- Share or give your things to others if you are able to.
- After your child, plays at their friend’s house make sure they clean up the mess.
- Deliver a hand-made card to your neighbor.
- Help with your friends chores.
- Make friendship bracelets and necklaces for your friends.
- Be friends with someone at school who is lonely or left out.
- Offer to be a volunteer with at a sports event. Organizers always need people to take registration or to distribute T-shirts. Children can pass out water or even hold the ribbon at the finish line.
- When you are mad, do not yell, and speak calmly.
- Hold the door for others
Cold Winter Months
- Donate your unused winter-wear to those who might not have a home or cannot afford a new jacket.
- Arrange a clothing drive in your neighborhood.
- Arrange a food drive in your neighborhood.
- Give a compliment about your waiter / server to his / her manager.
- Compliment the employee who is helping you and thank them for their time.
- Pick up a piece of trash you notice as you walk along the street.
- Pick up trash at playgrounds
- Pick up trash at schoolyards
- Pick up trash at community areas.
- If someone new moves to your neighborhood, stop by and welcome them.
- Send a thank you note to a person or business helping your community.
- Post a list of random kind acts in a public place.
- Help people find their way if they look lost.
- Donate to a nonprofit organization that is doing work in your local community.
- Help a friend build a deck
- Do some electrical work for someone at no cost
- Help a friend put up a pool
- Unclog a friend’s toilet
- Help unclog a friends sink
- Help a friend paint
- Help a friend pack up and move
- Help a friend unpack from moving
- Get all children books you own and do not need and leave them in the children’s section at the hospital.
- Donate anything you don’t need to an organization instead of throwing it away
- Donate monthly to a nonprofit organization that has a true meaning in your life.
- Donate your frequent flier miles to someone who has family far away that they cannot afford to visit.
- Give away something important to you.
- Give gently worn home furnishings or household appliances to a person or family who might need them or donate them to an organization.
- When shopping, buy a couple extra non-perishable food items and take them to a food drive or pantry.
- Move over into the far right lane and allow faster traffic to pass on the left.
- Put some coins in someone else’s parking meter.
- Give another driver your parking spot.
- Don’t cut someone off
- When drivers try to merge into your lane, let them in, wave, and smile.
- Stop and help someone replace his or her flat tire.
- If someone has their hazards on parked on the side of the road, see if you could help
- If someone gets in an accident, stop and see if you can help (call 911, police, etc...)
- Let someone go in front of you
- Give another driver your parking spot
- Pay the toll for the car behind you.
- Smile at the person next to you
- Volunteer your help in the classroom
- Offer to be class mom
- Bake cookies or cupcakes for the class
- Offer to read a book to the class
- Help plan a class trip
- Donate school supplies for the classroom
- Volunteer to help in the library
- Volunteer to be a lunchroom aid
- Volunteer at school events
- Help plan a school event
- Donate to school causes
- Ask the teacher what you can do to help him or her
- Donate books to the library or classroom
- Make goodie bags for the class
- Help out the school office
- Invite someone for dinner that would otherwise be spending the holiday alone.
- Take some time out to create a card for each member of your family, write a word of thanks to each of them.
- Send flowers or a plant to your mom or dad.
- Buy your sibling a gift you know they wanted for a long time
- Make your sibling a gift you know they wanted for a long time
- Buy your mom or dad a gift you know they wanted for a long time
- Make your mom or dad a gift you know they wanted for a long time
- Get in touch with an old friend whom you would like to reconnect with in the near future.
- Let a friend know how much you care about them.
- Write them a letter expressing what your friendship means to you.
- Let them know how special they are to you.
- Thank a friend for sticking up for you in the past.
- Email a friend in another state with a friendly e-card.
- Buy a friend a gift for no reason – just to give it.
- Express your happiness for someone who had something good happen to him or her.
- Lend an ear. Listen to a friend who is going through a tough time.
- Write a poem to your friend. For example:
Your optimistic personality brings a sense of hope into world
Your encouragement brings others a new meaning to life.
You help me see past the clouds on a glooming day
You bring sunlight everyday
Each day has so much more meaning when their spent with people who believe such as you.
Happiness is when you are with people who love you for who you are not what you should be,
This is the true meaning of friendship,
Each day you are reborn with love and joy when you realize that you have people by your side that care and know how to be kind.
You are that person,
That person is you,
It is wonderful to know that you care for me.
It is evident through your actions of kindness,
Because actions speak louder than words,
And because of this, you are and always will be my friend.
- Buy a lottery ticket for a stranger.
- Buy a coffee for someone.
- Send someone a small gift anonymously.
- Teach a child about generosity by asking them to donate one of their toys this Christmas.
- Treat a friend for a night out or dinner for no reason.
- Pay for the drinks at the next table at the bar, café or restaurant you hang out at.
- Buy a home coming gift for a new neighbor
- Make someone’s wish come true .
- Forgive someone who owes you money. If they owe you, it is obvious that they cannot pay it. Ask only that they do the same for someone else in the future when their situation changes.
- Knock on 10 doors and give them a snack.
- Drop off a big box of doughnuts at the fire or police station.
- Leave flowers on the doorstep of someone you do not know and run!
- Leave flowers on the doorstep of someone you care about and run!
- Leave a dollar bill on the ground for someone else to find.
- Buy a homeless person lunch.
- Give gifts at a nursing home
- Knock on 5 doors and give them a snack
- Stand outside a supermarket and give people reusable shopping bags.
- Find three stories of earth-friendly people and share them.
- Hand out long-life light bulbs to those around you.
- Give an eco-friendly gift to at least one neighbor.
- Plant a fruit tree where it will grow well.
- Make and post signs with tips to reduce water use.
- Plant a tree
- Use green cleaning product
- Drive a Hybrid Car
Health & Wellness
- Cook a locally grown, organic, or vegetarian meal for your friends.
- Close your eyes and practice absolute silence for 15 minutes.
- Buy organic
- Avoid processed food (be kind to your body)
- Practice Yoga
- Eat healthy
- Stay away from fatty foods
- Try to think positively all the time
- Exercise regularly
- Encourage others to treat their body with respect.
- The next time a friend looks frazzled and overwhelmed ask them: “What can I do to help?”
- Cut your neighbor’s hedge.
- Offer to pick up your friends kids if they need a ride to school
- Pick up and drop off your friends kids at the bus stop
- Offer to donate money for a holiday gift for the bus driver
- Offer to donate money for a holiday gift for your child’s teacher.
- Help an elderly neighbor carry the garbage out
Hero’s and Mentors
- Write them a letter about your experience with them and explain how they have been a big influence in your life.
- Make an extra serving of dinner and bring it to a homeless person in your neighborhood.
- Next time you are on the streets, take some soup or hot chocolate for a homeless person.
- Help The Homeless. Contribute your professional clothes to an organization that helps people get back into the workforce.
- Take warm clothes, blankets, or food to a homeless person that you see on the street often.
- Leave a stuffed animal for a child in a hospital.
- Leave a gift for someone at the hospital who doesn’t have family
- Volunteer at a hospice for the terminally ill.
- Visit your friend at the hospital
- Bring a little gift to your friend or family member
- Send flowers to someone who is sick
- Give someone a plant to celebrate that they are coming out of a lingering sickness
- Clean up after your mess
- Respect other under the same roof
- Say, “Please” when you ask for things.
- Ask your pen pal to do something kind in his/her local community.
- Email your distant family member to have a discussion with the homeless and write, call or email you about it.
- When you run across trash or litter anywhere, pick it up and dispose of it properly.
- When you go into the movie theater shut your cell phone off
- Don’t speak too loud during the movie
- Throw out your popcorn and candy at the end of the movie. Do not leave it on the floor.
- Throw out all your trash before leaving.
- Let the person behind you go first to buy their movie tickets.
- Smile at the cashier
- Say, “Thank You” to the ticket holder
- Say, “Thank You” at the concession stand
- Spend time listening to others. Keep the elderly company.
- Prepare a special meal or dessert for nursing home residents.
- Walk or visit with a senior that you know.
- Find safety information from firefighters and police and share those tips with seniors living alone.
- Bring them the newspaper
- Bring them a surprise gift
- Complement them
- Tell them how good they look
- Offer to get things they need for them.
- Send a meaningful card to an elderly who has been an influence in your life.
- Share with the person you are with by telling them how much they mean to you.
- If your spouse needs to go, somewhere offer to take them.
- Be kind to your kids and they will be kind to you and others.
- Reward kind acts
- Offer to babysit a working mothers kids at no cost
- Show your kids how to share
- Read to your child.
- Make a big deal when they do share or give
- Explain to them why they should not bully. “No Bullying.”
- Give them hugs. Teach them to ne affectionate
- Give them tasks to do.One study out of the University of Minnesota showed that children who did housework had better feelings of responsibility and self-worth years later. Children who feel good about themselves are more respectful and kind to others.
- Help others.
- Do your research. There are many organizations teach people how to be kind.
- Let your child think of ways to help victims of hurricanes, earthquakes and other disasters and then act on it.
- Teach your children the importance of speaking kind to other people.
- If you have money to give to charity, ask your children to help you decide whom to give.
- Initiate a fundraiser through school to help people in need.
- Encourage your child to befriend someone at school who is lonely or left out.
- When your child does a kind act, when you witness something kind or even when you are the recipient of kindness, show your joy.
- Contact your local Parks and Recreation department to see if they need help on trail clean up. Kids can help staff create trails, plant flowers, and maintain park facilities. One park in Bellingham, Washington, uses volunteers with donkeys to clear trails.
- Offer to bring a meal
- Offer to bring dessert
- Offer to bring a bottle of wine
- Offer to bring an appetizer
- Offer to set the table
- Offer to clean up
- Thank them for inviting you
- Thank them for having you
- Invite them to your home for the next get together
- Bring alcohol as a gift
- Buy something for their home
- Compliment how beautiful their home looks
- Compliment how beautiful the host looks
- Tell jokes
- Give hugs
- Give everyone a kiss on the cheek as a symbol of a warm hello
- Give everyone a kiss on the cheek and a hug as a symbol of a warm goodnight
- Walk your friend’s dog.
- When you walk your dog pick up the poop.
- Create an inviting space in your yard and garden for butterflies, hummingbirds and other creatures.
- Adopt a pet from a shelter or rescue
- Build a birdhouse and put it in your garden.
- If your dog is barking too much outside bring him inside the house
- If a dog is lost, don’t let them wander, bring them back to the owner
- Keep your dog healthy by scheduling regular checkups with the vet.
- Pick up the pet if its small and give it a friendly hug
- Show affection to your pets
- Keep the water clean change it daily.
- Give your dog or cats extra treats
- Support no-kill animal shelters
- Call an animal shelter and donate at least one item they need.
· Smile a lot.
· Be positive
· Support others
· Inspire others through your acts of kindness
· Be funny
· Be friendly to the people around you
· Strike up conversations
· Tell funny stories to make others laugh
· Say, "Yes" a lot more than "no" when your spouse asks for a favor or for help.
· Share that last piece of dessert or favorite food because being kind is all about being generous.
· Listen with your heart not with your ears
· You do not interrupt your spouse.
· Do not argue if it can be avoided if you try
· Say you are sorry when you are wrong.
· Say "Please" and "Thank You" when speaking to your spouse.
· Open a door for your spouse when you’re out
· Share your jacket if your spouse is cold.
· You show respect for your loved one.
· Think before you talk words can hurt
· Keep the toilet seat down!
· Write a song, poem, or a note for a loved one.
· If you have nothing kind to say then don’t say it
· Let your spouse know how much you appreciate them.
· Do not roll your eyes when your spouse says something you disagree with or something you think is trivial or boring.
· Look for the good in your spouse.
· Be helpful.
· Do not express any unkind comments to your spouse.
· Be careful when you tease. Make sure that your teasing is fun and not hurtful.
· Make their favorite meal
· Cook breakfast for them in bed on a weekend
· Hold hands
· Share your emotions; explain how valuable they are to you.
· Write a note of appreciation and leave it for you loved one to find.
· Leave work early and spend quality time with the one you love and care for.
· Do an extra errand around the house and leave a card.
· Surprise the one you love with something that they have been wanting for a while.
· Tell them how good they look
· Tell them they look like they lost a few pound
· Compliment their outfit
- Leave an extra big tip for your waiter. Write a note on the back of the bill thanking them for their service.
- Complement the waitress
- Tell the waitress how well she performs her job
- Let the chef know how delicious the food tasted
- Let the manager of the place know how well they perform their job and how friendly they were to you.
- Don’t yell or speak too loud
- Shut your cell phone off so the ringer does not disturb anyone meals.
- Pull out the chair for the female
- Ask the female or spouse what they want to order.
- Order their food first
- Offer them a drink
- Pay for an unknown person's meal anonymously.
- Have your child write a thank-you note for the server.
- Pay for the person behind you at a drive-thru.
- Share your umbrella with someone at the bus stop who does not have one.
- Share some of your lunch if someone does not have anything to eat.
- Share your snacks
- If someone is, cold and you have a blanket over you then ask him or her if they want to come underneath the blanket too.
- Run a race to help fund research for a fatal disease.
- Run a race to help fund research for a disorder such as epilepsy.
- Tell the players how well they played
- Tell them how much you enjoyed watching them play
- Give thumbs up when they look at you
- Smile at them
- Cheer them on
- Tell them how great they did even if they lose the game
- Reward the player after the game
- Buy them ice cream
- When you are at the grocery store take a cart from the parking lot in with you and take it back to the front of the store when you are done.
- When you are at the grocery store take a grocery basket from the parking lot in with you and take it back to the front of the store when you are done.
- If you decide not to buy a product put it back where it belongs
- Let Someone go in front of you
- If someone drops something pick it up for them
- Compliant a parent and tell them their kid is cute.
- Say thank you to the cashier
- Say hello to the cashier
- Tell the cashier to have a great day!
- If its Friday tell the cashier to have a great weekend
- Pick up flowers at the grocery store and after you check out, give them to the cashier or the bagger with a big smile.
- The next time an employee at a store does his or her job well make sure that you let their supervisor know. So often, we are often quick to complain if someone does not do their job well but we often forget to offer gratitude and appreciation when someone goes out of their way to do a good job - make a change by letting the manager know they are doing their job well.
- Hold the door open for someone carrying packages.
- Offer to bring someone’s groceries to his or her car.
- Buy a box of girl scout cookies
- Donate to the VA
- Drop a dollar in the jar for the cause they’re raising money for
- Hide spare change where a stranger will find it within the hour.
- Tell a public service employee how valuable they are.
- Hold the door open for a stranger
- Buy bottles of water and hand them to passers-bys with a smile.
- Pay for the person behind you in line.
- Create five cards with positive messages and leave them in a mailbox or doorstep for someone to discover.
- Find a stranger around you and tell him or her joke to make them smile or laugh.
- Smile and say, “Hello” to five strangers.
- Offer inspiring advice to someone in the room.
- Smile a little extra at a stranger.
- Leave a flower in an empty seat for the next person to get
- Call a teacher who inspired you to say thank you.
- Write a thank you note to a teacher who inspired you.
- Find your favorite elementary school teacher and send him/her some 'thank-you' flowers anonymously.
- Pay them a surprise visit
- Tell the teacher what a great job they’re doing
- Let them know how well your child is excelling
- Thank someone for something they did for you
- Send a thank you note to a person who has helped you in the past
- Acknowledge an act of kindness by someone else and thank him or her.
- Give up your seat on the bus, subway, or train to someone who looks tired.
- Don’t talk loud
- Be considerate to the people next to you
- Give the person next to you a complement
- Tell the driver their going a great job
- Give a gift to the driver around the holidays
- Offer gum or candy to the person sitting next to you.
- Give your seat to the elderly or mothers with children if it is crowded.
- Give a flower to the bus drive
- Give a flower to anyone that looks like they need it.
- When you sneeze or cough cover your mouth
- Volunteer your extra time at the library
- Volunteer your extra time at a soup kitchen
- If a friend is going on vacation, offer to feed their pets and water their plants.
- Visit the hospital and find out to volunteer your services.
- Participate in a walk or run that raises money for a good cause.
- Donate regularly to the local food bank.
- Register as a dog walkers
- Volunteer your time at a church
Yourself (Be Kind to Yourself)
- Give yourself a bubble bath
- Spend some time in silence, listen to your heart, and follow it.
- Write a list of what you are grateful for and share with friends and loved ones.