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Absolute Love
By J. Allen Wilson
Last edited: Wednesday, June 18, 2008
Posted: Wednesday, June 18, 2008

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Absolute love endures even when love is not returned. Absolute love is the willingness to give one hundred percent of yourself and never expect anything in return.

Absolute Love


Someone recently made a comment that somewhat took this individual aback. They are well aware of my wife’s recent illness and of the struggle it has been to see to her care and still work fulltime at my job. Their well meaning, but misguided comment was to the effect that I needed to take care of myself and not let this situation in life do me in.




I personally believe that in times like this God gives us what we need to do what needs to be done. Sure it’s hard; sure it’s tough to watch the once lively and energetic person that you love become very ill and confined to a bed. Sure its tough, but absolute love is even tougher. “Take care of myself”, hmm. By taking care of my wife, I am taking care of myself. For when two are joined together with love in its most pure form then taking care of the other is taking care of oneself for you are not two…but one.


For me, commitment is another absolute. When one is committed to another and times get hard or strenuous then that becomes the litmus test; this becomes the test of true devotion and love for another. To only love in the good times is in my opinion selfish and shallow and unfortunately I know of people like this. They like to say that they would do anything for their wife, girlfriend or husband, but in fact when things don’t go exactly as they planned in life, well they suddenly turn and look for the easiest way out….that is not love, but selfishness.


Now I don’t think that this individual meant any real harm in what they said, but if one were to analyze the content then one can most assuredly see that it carried with it overtones of looking out for number one.  Sure I am up and down all times of the day and night making sure my wife has her needs met. Sure I am still working full time or else we don’t eat, and sure I am stressed; tired, worried and confused. However I see these tasks as something that one does when one loves sincerely. The way I see it is that one cannot draw the line on where love stops and love begins because there are no boundaries to true love. There is no such thing in absolute love that says I will love you if you love me back.


Absolute love endures even when love is not returned. Absolute love is the willingness to give one hundred percent of yourself and never expect anything in return. I love absolute and if my eyes seem a bit weary, then say something nice to lift my spirits. Please don’t suggest that I lose my burden so that I may appear ever how it is you think I must appear. Encourage me, don’t bring me down and if you think I could use a hand, well offer and mean what you say when you do so. I would most likely say thanks for offering but we will be fine. Don’t be afraid to love. Don’t run from the trial that you are in, but try to be as strong as you can and remember to always love absolute.


J. Allen Wilson 6/2008



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Reviewed by Larry Matthews 3/15/2010
Many have not been tested yet in this life and thus cannot understand that true love is unconditional and one does not have the option of looking after oneself when the committment that comes with love is required of you.They do not understand you have no choice and that you could not go on knowing you had not given your all.God knows and understands.His love for you is unconditional. Luke
Reviewed by Flavia Stanciu (Reader) 1/2/2009
I was just randomly searching on writings about "absolute love" and have found your article; I hope that your wife is fine since June 2008 when you have written about her. I hope that your own love made her well and sound!
Believe it or not, I had learned the Faith in God through "Absolute" Love and not vice-versa. This is how was "handed" to me and perhaps to you too.
As the absolute love can not be removed, destroyed or hidden; it will resist and endure everything despite someone’s will and resurface again through own remorse, in which case will be at least shared or perpetuated into something else like power of creativity or endless kindness.


Reviewed by John Domino 12/25/2008
Trials in life - Our Lord Jesus knows about tough trials because He has been there and He cares about all our difficult trails in life.
Unconditional love, absolute love and agape love come from God. Jesus provides us with truth and true love while man trys to conquer and divide us. If we Focus on The Lord and we will have all the love that we need. I prayed for you today and I know God answers prayer.

Reviewed by m j hollingshead 9/20/2008
well done
Reviewed by Cryssa C 9/8/2008
Golden rays of wisdom! If only... if only everyone in this world would love as you do!

Reviewed by Valerie Roeske 7/24/2008
Your committment to your wife is as One, you will get thru this, God gives to us what we can handle, and you will make it thru, I loved reading this, Take care of the both of you, May God Bless You on the journey together, Hugs to you, Valerie
Reviewed by Lois Christensen 6/19/2008
You are going through a trying time now. God seems to be testing you and keeping you thinking and the care you give your wife will be rewarded to you. I am sure it is your duty to do this, why would it be otherwise, you promised to love her in sickness and in health. I admire you for the courage to express your thoughts at this time and the courage to stay in love and go on taking care of her. Time will heal and you will be made whole too.

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