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Success is an inside job. To be successful we must first think that we ARE successful.
Everyone measures it differently. Some measure it by how much money they make. Others measure it by their career path and corresponding title. Then you have the people who measure it by the things that they have such as the size of their house, their art and jewelry, and the number of cars that they own. Others measure it by the state of their health.
As children, many of us measured success by the friends we had. Were we in the "in-group" at that back table in the cafeteria, or were we outside looking in?
So I'll ask it again - how do you measure success? It's different for everyone.
As I sat down at my computer today to put together our newsletter, I decided to search on-line to see what articles I could come up with on this topic. So I did a search on the words "success articles" to see what other people have written about it.
You know what I got? Thousands of pages of success stories. from health to business to website marketing to you name it. Page after page of advice on how to be successful at this and how to be successful at that.
Gave me quite a headache. It sure seems like everyone has an opinion on what I should be doing and how I should be doing it.
In my humble opinion, success cannot be measured in the material things that I have, nor can it be measured by my job title (and I have a lot of those). To me, success is an inside job. To be successful you must FEEL successful on the INSIDE.
You can have all the money, houses and status that you like, but if you do not FEEL successful on the inside, then you will feel like a hamster running on its wheel in a cage. You'll be chasing success all your life and will never achieve it.
Easy for me to say right?
Listen, I have been in your shoes and have been on the brink of despair many times. I have been in the eye of the storm more times that I care to count. I have lived through a dark childhood, I have seen negative numbers in my bank account, and I have seen the loss of both my parents to name a few. I made it through to the other side because I never gave up, and I decided to change how I felt about it all.
You see when life gets you down and throws you to the ground, you have two choices: you can lie down there and wallow in it and feel sorry for yourself, or you can get up. I chose to get up.
Not really because it sometimes took me years to get up. Now as I sit here and write this, what song comes up on the radio? Gloria Estefan singing, "Get on your feet, get up and make it happen." She's right actually... NOW GET UP!!!
What I have learned over the years is that you have two choices. You can live your life in fear or in love. If you choose fear (like I did for years) it becomes a life-changing thought that can propel you into a direction that you don't want to go. It feels like a runaway train that you are incapable of stopping and can't jump off, and consumes you until you can't think of anything else.
You become focused on the outside and obsess about what you should do and where you should go. You focus on how you should fix what is wrong in your life, and what you should be doing. You begin to get sick and tired all the time and sleep a lot. Then you begin to think that the answer to your life can be found on the outside in someone else... is there a book I can buy? A person I should visit? A doctor I should see? A tape I should listen to? Certainly someone has the answer I seek!
I did it for years and years.
Today is a brand new day. It's a brand new world. You can see the world as positive, abundant and prosperous or you can choose to live the old way and see the negativity, lack and fear. It's your choice!
I have no answers for you because the answers you seek are already inside of you. You know them already. It's just a matter of getting quiet and listening to your intuition. Your inner voice if you will. You know where you should be going and what you should be doing. You have all the answers!
Follow your heart because it knows the way.
If you want to be successful, then you must first think of yourself as successful!
I suggest that you write a list of what you are proud of in your life. Write each accomplishment on a piece of paper. Mine looked like this:
Graduated from college with a BA
I have an incredible husband and wonderful children
I am healthy
Wrote three books
And so on
BRAG ABOUT YOURSELF! You deserve it!
Now read the list. See? You already are successful! Look at how much you have done already!!! Be proud of that because you did an excellent job! Do I have to get Barry Manilow to sing "Looks like you've made it" for you to believe that you already are a success?
So back to my original question. How do you measure success? Do you measure it by... money? Relationships? Career? Health? Sales?
If you THINK that you are successful, then you will BE successful. Whatever you think about yourself. You're absolutely right!
How did I do it? I followed my inner voice and chose to see myself as successful. I ignored the negativity and looked at life as abundant, compassionate and prosperous. Then, when life got me down and threw me to the ground (which it still does occasionally), I got up.
So stand tall everyone! You have so much to be thankful for!! Look UP and not down. Choose your new path and start walking! YOU DESERVE IT!
And when life and stress get you down?
Look up my friend. Look up.
Copyright 2007-2010 by Katharine Giovanni
About the Author: Katharine Giovanni is an international Concierge Training Expert, Award Winning Author and consultant, Certified Concierge Specialist (CCS) and Speaker. She is the Founder and Chairman of the Board of ICLMA - The International Concierge and Lifestyle Management Association as well as President and co-founder of Triangle Concierge, Inc. Katharine can be reached via her website at http://www.triangleconcierge.com ">http://www.triangleconcierge.com/">http://www.triangleconcierge.com
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|Reviewed by daphne hart
I was just checking on some inspirational articles when I notice this one from you;I have to admit this is a very good thought.
But personally, when I think of my success, It was when I succesfully turn from the world, and turn to CHRIST.
He has made the difference. Everything else just fell into place.
May God Bless you, and keep up the good work. I will definatly read more of your work Daphne.
|Reviewed by Manny Bermas
I agree fully with your approach to the subject matter. Especially your making a list of all the good accomplishments you have made. You are already a successful person.
I hope more people will read your article.
When you have the time, check out my stories and articles.
My focus is 1) ultimately to save a person's soul and 2) to keep the person healthy while still in this planet.
All the best to you, your family and your business. I will read up your other articles.
|Reviewed by Janice Scott
|Good advice, Katharine, spot on. Wealth, status, power etc. are fleeting in the happiness and success stakes. If success equals happiness (and I think you're more or less saying that it does), it can only be lasting if it starts from the inside and is allowed/encouraged to blossom outwards. Great post.|
|Reviewed by Bill Colenso (Reader)
|A funny thing happened on the way to success for me. I am a waiter, and have been for most of the last 27 years. I have waited on the rich; the super rich, celebrities and I have waited on the poor and the average American. In 27 years I have probably waited on over a million individual people. Remember McDonald's signs in the 60's? 5 million burgers sold and then 6 million sold, until it became billions and billions sold? Well with all of that personal contact with people and listening to their stories, I started to feel luckier and luckier each year. When I was a kid, I thought my family sucked, but I only knew ten families. I thought for sure that we were number 10 out of 10. I was making decisions about my life from a very small information sample. After waiting on about 35,000 families, I run up to my mom now and hug her, and I realize how lucky I was. 10 out of 35,000 isn't so bad is it? When I was 7 I wanted to be Howard Hughes the richest man in the world at the time. I even had to have my birthday at the Desert Inn in Las Vegas because Howard Hughes lived on the top floor, which was only 7 floors high in 1969. "thanks mom!" I wanted to be the richest man in the world. That was my plan. But as I waited on more and more people, I started to realize that the more money you had, the more fame you had, the more prestige and power you had, the more problems you had. Look how money worked out for Howard in the end. Or so rich and famous that the only way you can sleep is by taking Propoval like Michael Jackson. Today I have something called Joy, which is more powerful than happiness. Joy is not dependent on things of this world. Rocky Stone is correct when he says in his post that bank robbers can be happy, if only temporarily. You can take the most depressed person and let them pick out any car they want, and they will be happy, if only temporarily. As I talked above about the small sample I was using to make my family ranking decisions on, and as the sample got larger and larger, I was finally able to really appreciate how great my family was. This is a key to all readers out there who are struggling with happiness. Increase the size of your sample. Do you measure you success by what Bill Gates or Warren Buffet have done? Well then you are in for disappointment. What blows my mind is that as a waiter in the United States of America, I am one of the richest men in the world. I didn't say I was one of the richest men in the United States, because that would be ludicrous. But like an Iceberg that only shows about 10 percent above water, and 90 percent below water, most of the people in the world will not even make a thousand dollars this year. So if you want to be really happy and joyful, learn to realize every moment of the day how truly lucky you are, and that's how you measure success.|
|Reviewed by Rocky Stone (Reader)
|Interesting...but if succes is to be measured by happiness or achieving a goal, many bank robers do both. Would you consider them or their life a success? Or are they successful, because the obtained what they wanted? It has been said, "a bull dog could whip a skunk, but it would not be worth it". Some think they are successful...but to others...they smell pretty bad. Are you sure your comments were a success, or were they just a passing glance?|
|Reviewed by kristine mercurio (Reader)
|thanks for this article. very inspirational indeed.|
|Reviewed by John Domino
|I really LIKE YOUR style!
|Reviewed by Denise Contreras
|This is a wonderful article Today I believe my success in my life is that I am alive, I enjoy life, I wrote my story so others can know that no matter where we came from, we are good people, and we can have a wonderful life. We have the strength from inside of us the Spirit dwells inside of us.
|Reviewed by Reginald Johnson
|Your article gives all who are hungry; food for thought, Ms. Giovanni.
It is informative, challenging, and exceptionally well done.
Reginald V. Johnson