First Things First…
Let’s be clear on this critical point; the concept of marriage originated solely with God. Mankind had absolutely nothing to do with the institution of marriage; except for being a recipient of its manifold blessings. It was God who decided that it was not good for man to be alone and made a helpmeet for him. After which, He (God) presided over the first ever wedding ceremony recorded in history.
From that glorious moment forward, countless men and women have been joined together in holy matrimony. Yet, with every generation, these spirited questions keep reoccurring, “Why get married? Why not just live together? Is marriage really necessary? Isn’t Marriage Obsolete? What is the purpose of marriage?”
Why Did God Create The Institution of Marriage?
Years ago, Myles Munroe made a profound statement when he said, “Where purpose is not known abuse is inevitable…” The word “abuse,” is the combination of two English words: abnormal and use. When a person does not understand the purpose of a thing, they almost always abnormally use or abuse that thing and marriage is no different.
Therefore, it is of vital importance that we understand the true intent and purpose of matrimony.
The Four-Fold Purpose of Marriage
One of the primary purposes of marriage is partnership. Or, I could more fittingly call it, companionship. When God created us, the scripture says, we were fearfully and wonderfully made, (See Psalms 139:14). Part of our make up is; God DID NOT create us to be alone. He specifically wired us for companionship and declared this revelatory truth when He stated, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” (See Genesis 2:18).
The yearning we have for companionship is part of our spiritual DNA. God designed the partnership of marriage to fulfill that yearning. This divinely inspired partnership was designed to fortify both participants in ways that mere words cannot aptly express or define.
One of the ways this partnership fortifies, invigorates, relaxes and pleasures the participants is through sexual relations. Religion has taught us that we were not to enjoy sex. Not only do such doctrines contradict one of the crucial purposes for which God designed marriage; their sermons leave many couples gripped in harmful sexual bondage.
The truth is; God hot-wired us with a sex drive, and He intended for man and woman to express and joyfully fulfill their sexual desires with each other through the rites of passage of a covenant marriage.
Meditate on these facts; God engineered our body parts to fit perfectly together, (male to female). He programmed our bodies to respond to touch, taste, sight, sound and aroma. He installed in us the ability to become sexually aroused. Once aroused, our bodies automatically emit chemicals, aromas and sensitivities that heighten the sexual experience.
He wired us with capabilities to experience intense and immeasurable pleasure from foreplay and sexual intercourse. To top things off, He gave us the capacity to climax and enjoy orgasms. With all of those irrefutable truths and facts, pious religious folks continue to try and convince us that sex was never meant for pleasure. Go figure?
It shouldn’t take a 20-year study by Harvard researchers, a PhD, or a doctorate to understand and accept the fact that God gave us these capabilities for the sole purpose of enjoying sexual pleasures and for no other reason! (See Song of Solomon 4:11 and Proverbs 5:18-19).
Another vital purpose of marriage is procreation; the conceiving and bearing of offspring. The Lord God revealed this part of the four-fold purpose of marriage when He released these commanding words:
Genesis 1:28 (Amplified Bible)
And God blessed them and said to them, Be fruitful, multiply, and fill the earth…
5 Build ye houses, and dwell in them; and plant gardens, and eat the fruit of them;
6 Take ye wives, and beget sons and daughters; and take wives for your sons, and give your daughters to husbands, that they may bear sons and daughters; that ye may be increased there, and not diminished.
His vision is to fill the earth with righteous men and women who bring forth righteous children, The Lord intended on parents instilling in their offspring - godly morals and family values, (See Proverbs 22:6). His plan is for this model of the family to multiply and flourish until the earth is filled with men and women who reverence and obey His Word.
In His infinite wisdom, the Lord God purposed for marriage to protect us from the consequences and devastation of a society engrossed in moral chaos and sexual immorality. Meditate on His words carefully…
Hebrews 13:4 (The Message)
Honor marriage, and guard the sacredness of sexual intimacy between wife and husband. God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex.
Make no mistake about it; God draws a firm line against casual and illicit sex. Marriage was and is the only pathway the Lord has ordained for a man and woman to engage in sexual relations. (See 1 Corinthians 7:2 and 1 Corinthians 6:9-11).
The Lord has drawn this clearly marked point of demarcation because of the disastrous effects of promiscuity and loose sexual morals. (e.g. birth defects, unplanned and unwanted pregnancies, fatherless children, paternity fraud, HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted diseases, emotional torment, heartbreaking disappointment) and the list goes on.
A marriage union between an honorable man and a virtuous woman protects a man and woman from the impurities of casual and illicit sex.
The Manifold Blessings of Marriage
The manifold blessings of being in a union ordained of God are innumerable. You delight in the most glorious, precious, beautiful and purest intimacy known to mankind. You engage in unfettered romance. You experience true love as it was sculptured by God.
You have the assurance that you are protected from the ravages of sexual degradation and immorality. You develop confidence and a clear conscience from knowing you did it God’s way. Countless men and women lie down with each other, but get up with a guilty conscience. With every sexual encounter they are tormented, knowing in their hearts that God adamantly disapproves of their casual and illicit affairs.
Concerning offspring; children need both parents! The joy, satisfaction and security of growing up in a balanced, loving and stable environment with both father and mother are immeasurable. I could go on and on describing and defining the benefits and blessings of marriage.
Know this; when marriage is done right, it is magnificent, beautiful, romantic, marvelous, awesome, exquisite, grand, fascinating, splendid and much, much more! Now that you know the four-fold purpose of marriage, may God bless you with a joyful and enriching union!