Heart of a Woman- Self Image
edited: Thursday, January 18, 2007
By Poet Pablito
Rated "G" by the Author.
Posted: Saturday, January 13, 2007
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How do we develope good and bad self images?
Heart of a Woman: Self Esteem
How do people develop good and bad self-esteems?
Think of a person being a house. In each room of the house there are windows to look out at the world. Yet, outside each window that we can see the world. There is also a window to see back into the house. So depending on which room you go to in the house. You see a different mirror of what is in the house.
It’s the looking out of the window that depends the view of the house. Other people are the windows to how we see ourselves. They tell us we are attractive, smart, interesting, boring, fat, and skinny, sexy or ugly.
The problem is that those people can never see the whole “house”. Ie a example of this might be an attractive woman who many mirrors tell her is attractive. Yet, they never see the other side of the house. The days she is lonely, afraid, scared, needy. Then she decides she is only going to show them what side of the house she wants them to see. Never wanting to show them what they whole house is really like. Let them only see what she wants.
The need? To let someone in to see the whole house. Each room, each closet, to know that this is nothing to hide, nothing to fear, to know that someone can walk into the house and accept it all. The good and the bad.
What pain develops when someone is allowed into the house and leaves. Rejecting the house as either to big, to small, not right for them. Next time, the person is more afraid about letting someone come into house. Keep them out.
But what joy when someone comes into the house and finds it perfect. They see the closets, the rooms, the color of the paint. They see how the door crackles and creeks. They know the bathroom needs to be redone. They accept the house as is. No need for change. No need for improvements. Not that the person themselves does not what to fix up the house. But they want to fix it up because of the person who accepts the house as is.
This person who comes into the house makes us want to be better. Not because they are not happy already but because they bring happiness with them into the house. Joy breeds joy, happiness breed’s happiness. It’s like the fire that roars from two logs, whereas one log on fire goes out. Two logs on the fire keep the fire going.