Summer is cheating season. Even men who aren’t habitual cheaters may be tempted to indulge in a summer fling this time of year. This is prime time for summer infidelity and seasonal extramarital affairs.
Is your husband or boyfriend one of these summer cheats? According to infidelity expert Ruth Houston, founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com there are three types of men who typically have summer affairs. You could unknowingly be a victim of summer infidelity, if your husband or boyfriend is one (or a combination) of the types below:
- recreational cheater - This man treats infidelity as a summer sport.
- seasonal cheater – This man has his summer fling while his wife or girlfriend is away on vacation.
- opportunistic cheater – This man will only cheat if he sees an opportunity to do it without getting caught.
All three types of cheaters consider summer the ideal time to initiate a short-term affair. But they’d never even think of cheating on their wives or girlfriends at other times of the year.
Summer Affairs Usually Go Undetected
According to statistics, anywhere from 50% to 70% of men cheat on their mates. A lot of this infidelity takes place during the summer months. Ruth Houston, author of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, says summer flings usually go undetected because most women aren’t familiar with the signs of summer infidelity. Below, Houston describes some of the tactics cheating men use to hide their summer affairs.
Sending You and the Kids Away
Many cheating husbands will send their wife and kids to a vacation home, the beach, the lake, or to visit relatives in another state. Or a summer cheater may treat his wife or girlfriend to a vacation he knows she can’t refuse (a cruise, spa, or fancy resort) But what’s he up to, once he’s got you safely out of the way? Where is he? Who is he with? How is he spending his time?
Fake Fishing Trips
Some cheating husbands or boyfriends disguise a summer getaway with their lover by pretending it’s a deep-sea fishing, rock-climbing, white-water rafting or similar “guys-only” trip. Men know that certain rugged outdoor activities or extreme sports are unlikely to be questioned by the women in their lives. Instead of para-sailing with Steve and Sam, he’s really somewhere soaking up sun with his summer love.
Many summer cheaters cover up a tryst with a mistress by faking a counterfeit convention or bogus business trip. But even a legitimate trip will give him a chance to cheat away from the sight of prying eyes. He’s got a hotel room at his disposal, plus a company expense account to wine and dine his summer sweetheart. He can even pad his trip with an extra day or two to allow for additional fun and games.
The Separate Vacation Scheme
The separate vacation scheme is a common ploy used by cheating men to lay the groundwork for a summer affair. Has your spouse or significant other started talking about taking separate vacations this year? Where does he want to go? What does he want to do that doesn’t include you? If he’s seems too eager, too insistent, or pushes too hard for time alone, you may want to re-think your summer plans.
How to Prevent a Summer Affair
If you think your husband or boyfriend may try to run one of the summer scams above, there precautionary measures you can take. Remember, for the most part, these men are not habitual cheaters. If the situation looks too risky, or he feels he can’t pull it off without getting caught, most of these men won’t take the chance. Safeguard your relationship by being aware of what’s going on around you, and don’t make it easy for him to cheat. The free Summer Infidelity tip sheet offered at SummerInfidelity.com has several checks and balances you can easily put into place to keep summer infidelity from happening to you.
How to Short-Circuit His Summer Affair
What should you do if you see signs of summer infidelity about to develop, or signs of a summer fling already taking place? Speak up! Let your husband or boyfriend know that you’re onto him. Tell him you want it to stop. Some women are inclined to ignore summer infidelity. But treating a summer fling lightly could prove to be a fatal mistake. If you don’t address the issue, he’ll think he got away with his summer adventure. And he’ll have no qualms about doing it again next year. Worse yet, instead of ending when summer is over, his summer fling could become a permanent state of affairs. He could leave you, move in with his summer love, or even ask you for a divorce. So take action before the situation gets out of hand. For more information on dealing with summer infidelity, request a free copy of the Summer Infidelity Tip Sheet by sending an e-mail to SummerInfidelity.gmail.com with "Summer Affairs ad” in the subject line.
About Ruth Houston:
Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, which documents practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs women usually overlook. For a free copy of the Summer Infidelity Tip Sheet, e-mail SummerInfidelity.gmail.com with "Summer Affairs - ad” in the subject line.
Ruth has been quoted in USA Today, the New York Times, the Los Angeles Times, Cosmopolitan, Chatelaine, ABCNews.com, FoxNews,com, iVillage, MSN Lifestyle and numerous other print and online media worldwide. Ruth has also been a guest on The Today Show, CNN, Fox News, 1010WINS, NBC News, ABC News, BBC, CBC, Sirius Satellite Radio, Telemundo, and over 320 other radio and TV news and talk shows worldwide. For more information about infidelity, cheating men and extramarital affairs, visit www.InfidelityAdvice.com