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Infidelity Expert, Stephany Alexander, advises on whether to spy on a mate
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Last edited: Tuesday, April 05, 2011
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Is it morally wrong to spy on your partner? Get advice if you suspect infidelity and are considering spying on your partner.

As an infidelity expert who has given infidelity advice to thousands of people since early 2000, spying on your partner can be tricky and risky business.  The question is whether spying on your partner is moral.  The answer is it depends on the situation. 

Some people think that spying is always morally wrong no matter what the circumstances.  Others believe that knowing the truth is the most important thing.  According to an infidelity poll conducted by of 143,799 women, 54% had caught their man cheating red handed, 54% had suspected but never caught him and 10% had never been cheated on.

Most people seem to agree that spying on your partner without their knowledge without having just cause is wrong.  However, is it always wrong to spy if your partner has given you indication of infidelity?  Most people suggest open communication if they suspect infidelity but many times the cheating partner will lie about being unfaithful and cover their tracks better.  Unless you have concrete, factual proof of the infidelity, cheaters often deny any wrongdoings.

If your partner is being unfaithful, it is likely the relationship will eventually end whether you spy or not.  However, if you spy and confirm that he or she is cheating, then you have the option of either trying to save the relationship or leaving.  By not investigating at all, you may be living a lie.  The ultimate mistake is to do nothing and bury your head in the sand.  Whether it is communication, counseling or spying, the goal is to get the truth out in the open.

There are currently many technological surveillance devices on the market to catch a cheater - everything from a computer keystroke logger that tracks every keystroke to a voice activated digital recording device.  There are now even GPS tracking devices no larger than a pack of gum that trace everywhere a car goes.  For your own safety, please make sure that you check your local laws before spying on your partner.  The ultimate decision on what to do if you suspect infidelity is up to you. However, as the old saying goes, “the truth shall set you free.”

Infidelity Expert, Stephany Alexander, B.A., Author, Women's Speaker
Ms. Alexander is the founder of, the world's largest database rating men, one of the most popular women's sites on the net (top 1%) receiving millions of hits per month.

*Founder - highest trafficked abused women's message board on the net
* Author of 'Sex, Lies and the Internet,' A Survival Guide to Online Dating
* Author of 50+ relationship articles & 22 quizzes
* Creator of 10 women's comedy cartoon e-cards and 6 online games
* Internet Polling Expert surveying over 350,000 women

Ms. Alexander is frequently called on by the media as the nation's leading Infidelity Expert. Featured on:  E! Entertainment, CBS, FOX, the Mike & Juliet Show (repeat expert), Esquire, Wall Street Journal, the New York Times, the National Enquirer, Sirius-XM, KROQ, KIIS & countless radio and internet shows.

To interview infidelity expert, Stephany Alexander, please email womansavers at womansavers dot com.



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Reviewed by Tanay Das
So is there a way to Spy your cheating spouse without having trouble with the law?

The answer is YES! There's really no need to use any kind of surveillance equipment or hire a private investigator. Use your own eyes and ears. Use your mind and knowledge of your spouse. I mean, it's your spouse! You should be able to tell if he/she behaves strangely or changes his/her habbits for no reason.

And what are the signs of a cheating spouse?

Men and women behave the same when they cheat on their spouse. The secret is to know what to look for. There are different types of extramarital affairs (Emotional, Cybersex, Same sex etc). And there are different types of "cheating signs" (Work habbits, everyday behavior, car and telephone and computer signs etc.)

Is the affair serious or just a game? How long has this been going on? These are some of the considerations you should make. For example an online affair with an unknown person is not that serious as if your spouse is meeting with someone in person every other day.
Reviewed by Trisha Ward (Reader)
It's a tough one but when you feel so emotional you just want to know the truth. There are lots of products on the market, such as phone spy software, key loggers etc but you have to comply with the law.
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