Money Can't Buy Me Love
edited: Tuesday, October 07, 2008
By D. Scott Arant
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Posted: Tuesday, October 07, 2008
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Scott speaks about the current financial problems we face.
Money Can’t Buy Me Love
It seems like everyone in the world has a focus on money right now. It does make sense though because of the money situation in America right now, as well as how this situation will affect the world at large.
Since, I am in the sales profession I hear it day in and day out… “Don’t have it in my budget, have you seen the stock market today, and the worse…I am broke”.
Don’t get me wrong there is a genuine crisis going on in our world. Big money institutions that we thought were solvent at one time have crumbled before our very eyes. This truly is disconcerting if we only see what’s on the surface of things.
Yes, your world and mine have been rocked, and shocked, and perhaps will never return to their original state again. If your money is in the “shock” market you will have to admit that what you had at one time is not the same as it is today…probably smaller than what was there before.
Now, don’t think I am one of those “gloom and doomers” out their that are constantly telling us that the “sky is falling”, because I am not that. I am actually an optimist at heart and always think that someday, somehow, things will get better…and I truly believe they will…in time.
Some of you have already lost hope and given up on “the system” and that is actually a step in the right direction. It is preposterous for us to think that our “Big Brother, Uncle Sam” will take care of us forever. This is a ludicrous thought.
So, what are we to do in this financial crisis we face? Einstein said, and I paraphrase, that if we think we can solve our problems with the same thinking that made the problems, we are wrong. I agree. It is up to us, not up to them to do something.
Some of you might think that the answer is in a change of the guards so to speak, a new president, a new congress, a new senate, even a new constitution. I am not saying a change is all that bad, but is this the real answer to our current dilemma? I don’t think so.
It is actually kind of a cop-out if you ask me. What happened to the original constitution makers that started it with the phrase… “We the people?” Who is your daddy? Is it the government, your church, your leaders, your husband or your wife? In other words who do you trust in?
If we trust in man, or anyone outside ourselves we are in dangerous territory indeed. We must look inside and take the credit for bringing ourselves to this point of financial devastation
We must take personal responsibility for the shape we are in. The financial crisis is only indicative, and a symptom, of what’s within. Instead of taking the high road, we have unfortunately opted for the low road of relegating responsibility to others…and blaming them for the situation at hand.
What can we do about this…or better yet…what can I do about this current situation? I know many of you will say, get involved with local and national government, vote at the polls etc…but I don’t believe this is all that can be done.
Let’s take stock of our own lives first. Have we been greedy? Have we conducted our business with absolute integrity and honesty towards our fellow man? Have we been guilty of taking advantage of a system in order to help ourselves? These are the real issues we should take stock of.
The easy road is to blame everything, and everyone else, while not looking at ourselves to see if we are part of the problem. This article will unsettle some of you and make some of you angry, but why don’t we take personal responsibility for our own actions?
The law of karma is a law of action and reaction. I am not purporting a religious thought here, but if the religious thought has truth in it, then we need to take heed. Jesus himself taught us this same principle in our Christian religion that many of us hold near and dear to… “What you sow, you reap”. He used this metaphor of farming to let us know that if we plant a certain seed in the ground, it will not come up some strange plant that was not intended or planned. No, if I plant corn seed, I get fully grown corn crops…and in abundance.
Don’t make the mistake that others have done and say, I don’t understand how we got in this financial mess, because that kind of thinking will just give us more of the same. The definition of insanity some wise person once said was, “Doing the same thing over and over again, expecting different results”.
If our financial system is broke, we must take responsibility to fix it. Start with yourself first, and then when you have fixed yourself, start with your fellow man. This has always been a Biblical and solid principal in life. Jesus said, “Love your neighbor, as yourself”.
Look carefully at what was said; take a minute to digest this saying of Jesus. My thought is this, yes, you must love your fellow man, but you really can’t until you love yourself first. (My paraphrase) In other words, before we can change anything, including our brother (which is everyone), we must change ourselves first. We must look within, before we look without, or outside of ourselves first, then we can indeed love or change the world at large.
On first glance this statement seems selfish and self-centered…but is it? No it is not… selfish…loving yourself is the best thing you can do for your fellow man and yourself. Actually, I am of the belief that if you don’t love yourself first, it is preposterous to think you can love anyone else too.
I was listening to a sales training CD this morning on my way to work. It has some very sound principals in it. I am not disparaging the author, which by the way, is a very famous speaker in today’s sales circles. He has built a financial empire with his tapes and CD’s, and DVD’s he has produced.
I was in my car and I heard the words…again paraphrased… “We have to realize that our time is money, and until each one of us starts realizing this we will not waste our valuable time with things that don’t make us money”. I stopped the CD and asked myself, is what he is telling me the truth? I went inside myself for a brief moment and Joseph my spiritual guide immediately started to speak to me. He said, “Scott, this will make sense to anyone who has the ambition and desire to place money above all things, but this is not your course in life”.
I immediately began to cry while driving in the car. Joseph reminded me briefly of my sales path on this earth and how in sales, or business, time is money…but he said to me… “Scott this might be true if that is your total desire in life, and there is no judgment attached to anyone who might go in this direction, but is that your path?”
He reminded me of my soul’s purpose and how I came to follow a different path than just making money. He told me that… “Scott, you have tried to focus over and over on this pathway of success and money only to end up not ever reaching it…and why? …because you have a different calling than just making money”. He said, “It is not wrong to make money, in fact it is essential, but that cannot be my final end all…be all…focus”.
I must follow what is in my heart and that will bring me to true inner success and inner fortune. He told me that “What the world really needed and wanted but most were not able to get…was love”. Then I heard the words from the Beatle’s album come to my mind… “Can’t buy me love, love…Money can’t buy me love”.
Then if finally dawned on me…that although money is essential to our human evolution, it can’t buy the things that really matter…loving relationships, love for ourselves, and love for others. Let this be the energy behind your business…let the energy be transformed from a feeling of doom and gloom and hopelessness, to that of love.
Love is the most important thing to seek right now. Love will lead you to real success and true inner fortune. I am reminded of the words of the famous movie made by Frank Capra, “It’s a Wonderful Life”… at the end of the movie he hears the bells ring, knowing that Clarence got his angel wings and then the infamous words were spoken… “No man is a failure who has friends”.