This Thanksgiving, if you have a faithful spouse or significant other, you have a lot to be thankful for. With infidelity now at epidemic proportions, faithful mates are in short supply.
Infidelity in one form or another, -- emotional infidelity, internet infidelity, same-sex infidelity, workplace infidelity, female infidelity -- now affects 80% of all marriages and committed relationships today.
Infidelity Studies Confirm that Most People Cheat
As an infidelity expert who is frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news, I make it a point to keep abreast of the latest research in this field. Recent infidelity studies drive home the point that people who honor their marriage vows are now the exception rather than the rule. Check out the infidelity statistics and studies below:
- 50% to 70% of men cheat on their mates.
- female infidelity has increased 50% in the past 10 years.
- In one study, 70% of married women and 54% of married men whose spouses were cheating had no idea their partner was having an affair.
- In another study, 60% of those who admitted to cheating, said their partner did not know about their affair.
Earlier this year, medical journals published three separate studies which revealed that even happy husbands cheat on their mates, and good marriages are susceptible to infidelity, too.
It’s clear from the statistics that faithful mates are few and far between. So be very thankful if you can count your spouse or significant other among the faithful few.
False Assumptions About Having a Faithful Mate
Most people who are married or in a committed relationship automatically assume their partner is faithful. But as the statistics above indicate, only a small percentage of people can truthfully make that claim. This doesn’t mean you should be suspicious of your mate, but your best bet is to “trust -- but verify.”
Still the Last to Know
I find it highly disturbing that in this day and age, the infidelity victim is still the last to know. Especially since cheaters ALWAYS leave telltale signs behind. However, since most of the signs of infidelity are subtle, they are easy to overlook. Knowing what to look for is the key.
Too many people still rely on the top 10 signs of infidelity to tell whether or not they have a faithful mate. Those who do can easily be misled. The classic signs of infidelity - the so called “top 10 signs” - are the first signs a cheater will attempt to hide. So even if your partner is cheating, you may never see those top 10 signs. Unless you know what else to look for, you’re doomed to be the last to know.
How More Marriages and Relationships Can Be Saved
I firmly believe that if more people knew how to recognize the early warning signs of infidelity, more marriages could be saved. That’s one reason I devoted so much time to researching and writing Is He Cheating on You ? – 829 Telltale Signs. It documents practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs most people usually overlook. Despite the title of the book,most of the signs it contains apply to both cheating woman and cheating men.The sooneryou spot the subtle signs of infidelity, the greater the likelihood that you can get your marriage or relationship back on track.
How to Be Sure Your Mate is Faithful
You can see from the infidelity statistics why a faithful mate is something to be thankful for. But what if you're not really sure that your spouse or significant other is among the faithful few?
Then be thankful you read this.
And request a free copy of my tip sheet, Is He Cheating? Is She Cheating? – 21 Ways You Can Tell by e-mailing InfidelityInfo.gmail.com with 21 Ways-adt in the subject line.
If it turns out your spouse or significant other is cheating, you’ll be thankful you did.
About Ruth Houston:
Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs, which lists practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook.
Frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news, Ruth has been quoted in USA Today, the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, New York Daily News, Cosmopolitan, the New York Post, the Chicago Tribune, the Houston Chronicle, the Toronto Sun, Maclean's, Chatelaine, MSN Lifestyle, FoxNews.com, ABCNews.com, msnbc.com, Divorce360.com, iVillage, Reuters, AP, UPI and numerous other print and online media.
Ruth has been a guest on The Today Show, Good Morning America, CNN, Fox & Friends, The Morning Show with Mike and Juliet, NBC News, BBC, CBC, WCBS, ABC News, Fox News, 1010WINS, Sirius Satellite Radio and over 470 other radio and TV news and talk shows in the United States, Canada, Europe, South America, Australia, New Zealand, Africa and the Caribbean.