A Work in Progress Alexandra Madden
I am not perfect, in any way, shape, or form. I mess up, everyday, even when I try my very best. My very best has not been reached numerous times. When my best is sought, I often do well, but even then, there is a chance that I may not reach it. What am I saying? I am addressing a topic that we all can relate to. Any animal, any species, can relate. Nothing on this earth is perfect. This is not necessarily a bad thing. We all have our flaws, even those who make it to the very top. The mistakes made are necessary for growth. With this said, many people become discouraged when they make mistakes. Many people do not have a support system that they can use in order to reach their potential. This must be changed. We all need a support system. We all deserve a support system. What needs to be done to make this happen for everyone? First, our way of thinking needs to be improved upon. Many times, we judge or stereotype an individual based on their outer appearance. Doing this allows for alienation of this certain kind of person from your life. Even in the melting pot America that I live in, I am not accustomed to speaking with every single type of person, even every single type of American. This is frustrating because I would like to understand the reasoning behind their way of life, their way of thinking. I would like to understand why we are so different, even when we live in the same climate, same environment, maybe we even share the same back yard. Even so, we are completely different, with different ways of thinking. To change one’s ways of thinking could be seen as nearly or even completely impossible. One could say that if it was easily changed, they already subconsciously agreed already. The goal is to welcome even the most alienated, “far-out”, different ideas that you would not even dream of. This is a very difficult idea or image to even grasp, but I do believe it is possible.
What don’t I understand? I was at a restaurant in my home town. I smiled at person. I smiled numerous times at two different people at the same table. Neither one wanted to smile back at me. This made me very sad and very discouraged. I wished to talk to them or ask them how they were doing, but this was only, simply, to see how they would react. I wondered if it was something about me, about my appearance. Were they racist? Were they resistant to people outside their own culture? I asked my dad later, why they didn’t smile back at me. He told me that sometimes people will not communicate with other kinds of people. I was frustrated and disappointed, that there are people who will not have a conversation with someone outside their own community. I still was resistant to the idea that they did not want to have anything to do with me. I thought to myself, “We are all human. Why can’t we all get along?” I simply slumped in my seat and stared out the window. I didn’t understand.
I was raised as an African American. I am light skinned and was adopted into an all black family, yet my entire family accepts me as one of their own. Let me address what I just said. Black- and white-No wonder we have so many problems with race. These are entirely opposite colors. Why we chose these colors to describe skin color is beyond me. I also would like to address the idea of the African American being branded the universal stereotype of “Ghetto”. With this stereotype, there comes automatic ridicule, by some people, which leads to racism. Many see the ghetto as something negative or something to make fun of. I, myself, have fallen into that trap many times without being aware. When I am, that is, with those who do not understand the living situation. I then think about what it is we actually making fun of and I then correct my thinking, not necessarily theirs.
I don’t know exactly, why we stereotype, but I know that I do not like the idea. I would love to be apart of every type of world in this immense melting pot I live in, even those who aren’t even apart of it. I am fascinated by our world and I would love to improve it, but also see the beauty that we have created and work from there.
Is it right, or okay, to wish to change someone’s way of thinking? The reason I believe that it is acceptable is because I am in the journey with you. I have a long way to go in every aspect of life and living it. Without being apart of the journey, it would be wrong to force it upon others. I am simply asking you to join me.
I am a non-believer of God. The reasoning behind it is simple. I just do not think that it is possible, that it makes any sense that someone is watching over us. This is a very difficult subject, a very sensitive subject, for me. I sometimes speak, hoping that someone can hear me, out loud about needing assistance. What does this mean about me? It means that I wish for it to be true at times, but I know it is not true . The reason for wishing it true is also simple. I want to be able to relate to the believers. Many or all of my friends and family are believers of a higher power. I don’t want them to think any differently of me when they see that I am actually different from them in an enormous way. It is a test to see if we can still relate to one another. We most definitely can. “Why” and “How” are the questions that I am sure you are asking? I am certain that religion is a big part of many lives, so big that many cannot fathom ever going without it and may not understand what it is like to be without their beliefs. I know that I need to understand all beliefs now that I know I am a non-believer. I need to do my research and attempt to understand the thought processes behind it. Is there a fine line or a thick line between believers and non-believers? It may be thick, but the fact that we are all human on the same earth can allow the line to be cut permanently. This needs to be done so we can talk to one another about our different ways of life and create a permanent peace pact and understanding of why we are so different.
Not just anyone should be able to be president of the United States or anywhere of that matter. It takes a special person. Thinking about what I just expressed in words, I was taken back at these words. Shouldn’t we all have the opportunity to be great? Yes, we all should have that opportunity. It does take a special person, but the person it takes is most definitely inside all of us. It may take work for some to find it, but is there. So when I say this, that it takes a special person, I even need to think about where that person comes from. They can actually come from anywhere. It can be anyone.
Today I am very hopeful and centered. I need to continue to feel this way. In order to continue to feel this way, I need to understand why it happened. I feel that I want to be a social worker/music therapist/psychologist. I really want to help people. I really want to make a difference. I feel that I can do it with this path I have chosen. I can use my music this way as well. It’s not like I’m abandoning my passion for music. This is very comforting. Hopefully, I continue to want to pursue this career path. I also would like to write a book and song write. These two things I can do on my own. Great plan!!!
I need to stay centered towards the reason I am on this earth. I do not know why, but I am able to easily place myself in others shoes so I can imagine what it would be like to be in their situation. I like to know what it is like to be in their position. I believe that we all should be like family. We all should come together and treat one another with respect. This will not happen unless we all believe that we are alike in some way.
What is it to be perfect? What do you or I need to do in order to be of this rare or impossible entity? What do we see as pure perfection?
Many see something as perfect, something that is untouched, valuable, or flawless. In a way it makes sense. In another, it does not. Many times, we see perfection through the exterior of something or someone. We think someone has it all simply because they are flawless or because they have it all in the material world. Is this really what matters? Let’s not joke about it for a moment and really think about it. What does it mean to see perfection? Is it reachable? In what way may it be reachable? Can we see through into someone’s interior and find out how close to perfect they really are? People like to see God as perfect in all ways. He does not have it all materialistically, he has it all spiritually. Many, even, who practice this faith, do not attempt to have it all in the correct way. What do we need in order to see that what we are doing is not what we should be striving for? Are we this imperfect that we cannot see?
My views on the well debated subjects:
I do believe that we all have the ability for changing for the better within us; therefore I would oppose the death penalty. I do not believe that anyone, by any means, is ever “broken”. There is always hope for the better.
Abortions should not be for those who would like a quick and easy way out of the mistake they had made. I would rather see the birth mother make the decision to place the child in a home where they can be cared for.
Being gay is not something one asks for. I would say that if they would want to marry, that would be absolutely up to them, as long as, which this would be for every one else as well, they need to make a good decision as to whom they choose as their partner. As for being a parent, they aren’t unable just because they are homosexual. They would be unable to parent a child for the same reason that everyone else would be unable-because they aren’t ready.
Religion in public schools is a good idea only if we teach it just as we do history, to celebrate our triumphs and learn from our mistakes.
I believe that not only the majority should rule, but the minority should have a say as well because they are living just like everyone else. If the minority does not believe in God, we should respect their wishes as well.
I sometimes feel it is my responsibility to improve our world. I feel I need to do it and that I want to do it. Other times I just lose sight of what is really important to me morally and I want to get sucked into the material world. I need to stay focused. Or should I put them together?