Do you worry if your friends may not like or approve of you?  If so, you probably have some reactive charge within you.  Perhaps it may be the feeling of a child who does not like disapproval or ridicule and perhaps as a result you are avoiding feeling the childhood feelings again.

Intellectually, we may know that we should not care what other people think about our thoughts, careers or how we express ourselves.  However, we may not understand this emotionally!

If we, in the past, were ridiculed and have not resolved what we have felt, then we are carrying a charge within us.  To remove or let go of this charge, usually negative, we are sometimes required to feel the same feeling (remember) when we were shamed or ridiculed.  By facing, welcoming, and loving what we are feeling, the reactive power of that event will be able to be released.

Shame of Being 

Lurking in the dark corner of the room
a person stares at me.

The critical voice of an adult
index finger wagging.

You should not be this way.
What is wrong with you?
You are stupid!

The voice echoed with a tone of superiority
crushing the young soul.

Willing to face the critical voice,
the fear and threat of humiliation
are transmuted into courage. 

Focused eye of a child
now in an adult body
looks toward the dark corner.

I am no longer afraid of you! 

I do not need your approval!

I forgive you!

I allow me
to be comfortable
with me!

I am more than I ever imagined! 

Copyright . 2012 by Shervin Hojat