Blogs by Kathy A. E. Jones
The Dead and The Dying
9/2/2013 5:30:36 AM
The Dead and Dying
In 1980 My father Robert Drake Sr. died. Shortly after that it was my mother Icie Mae Drake, my sister Once L Drake, my cousin Vera Wright, choir director Abe Cook, good friend Gwen Boston, my young aunt Serta Williams. I was raised as a sister with her since she was only just a litter over one year older than me and I lived less than a city block away from her. Besides my family members, as Co Pastor of a nice size church I participate in the funeral services of many of our church congregants and their close family members. At some points death almost became impossible to bear. One year I think that my husband and I buried over 30 people. That is a lot of grieving / grief counseling to be involved in even for the most spiritual among us.
Each time someone got sick or died I can remember how disappointed I was that somehow they didn't make it. For those that I knew had a walk with God it was even more difficult to rationalize a loving God taking from the earth those that were loved so deeply by friends and love ones left behind. It may not seem like much to you but when you are raised to believe God is a healer and He can heal anything and anybody you see things in a different light.
So the questions keep coming as the people keep going. How do I as a Christian deal with some folks getting healed and others being healed by way of death. How do I accept the fact with grace that I am now the older generation that the younger people refer to as "Big Sis or Big Mama"? I didn't ask to be the oldest one living and I'm not choosing to be the next one to die. I didn't choose which flower in God's garden of people should be taken and which should be left. So how do I stabilize myself and the lives of others who are trying to make it among the living? I heard a minister on the radio say something that touched me deeply the other day. He said only say what you know. What is it that I know? What should everyone else should know?
Suffering Is Painful God Is Merciful and Heaven Is Real
Beyond doubt these three things are true. I'd like to add that I think it must also have a lot to do with the challenge of letting go. In life we tend to hold on to so many things that keep us bound to this earth and it's so called luxuries or disparities. It is not until we learn to accept that Christ is the only one we can depend on to be there always and forever, that we will be able to adjust to the "for certain" ups and downs of death and dying.
Pastor Kathy A. E. Jones in her book "Whose Man Is This" portrays several concept about the death and dying that takes place within unhealthy personal relationships. She talks extensively about the importance of confronting their challenges head on so that the grief of separation (as in a death) doesn't consume the most vulnerable among us. Unfortunately most unhealthy relationships need to go through the vigorous stages of "Painful Suffering" to find out that "God Is Merciful" and that love can and should be "Heaven On Earth". Woman of all ages have enjoyed this delightful read and have found the secrets to true love while cultivating healthy relationships that never die. Order your copy today from kaedj.com
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