|
|
|
|
Blogs by Niki Collins-Queen
A powerful tool to aid self-forgiveness
5/23/2011 6:53:51 AM
Colin Tipping's new book “Radical Self-Forgiveness: The Direct Path to True Self-Acceptance”
is a powerful tool for gaining freedom from excessive inner criticism and self-sabotaging beliefs. Based on proven techniques from Tipping's world-renowned forgiveness workshops
he guides us through resolving our deepest inner wounds and invites us to heal and transform our lives. He says radical forgiveness is not about telling ourselves a new story about what happened. It's about creating a profound shift at the spiritual level.
Tipping's practical exercises help us discover that we are an amalgam of many selves and helps us get to know ourselves better. He says most of us have a huge amount of guilt and shame. Carl Jung called it the shadow. When the shadow is unrecognized we find enemies on whom to project our anger and self-loathing. When a person “pushes our buttons” we have the opportunity to recognize they are mirroring something in ourselves we have denied, repressed or projected onto them. When we drop our judgments we automatically reverse the projection and forgive ourselves. Self-forgiveness involves a compassionate embrace of ourselves as wrongdoers in spite of our natural feelings of guilt and shame.
Tipping's makes the distinction between ordinary forgiveness which appeals to our human self or ego and requires continued victim consciousness and radical forgiveness where forgiveness is automatic and immediate because it appeals to our higher self or Spiritual Intelligence. Our Higher Self is also call the I AM Self. The I AM Self knows that nothing wrong took place and everything is in Divine Order. The I Am Self is the part of us that remains connected to the Divine. It's also the “Observer.”
Tippings' tool for Radical Forgiveness takes us through five stages. We can do the work as a victim or a perpetrator. The five stages involve telling the story, feeling the feelings, collapsing the story, reframing the story and integrating the shift. The first three stages are similar to traditional forgiveness the last two involve radical forgiveness.
There are powerful exercises to help us get to know ourselves. They help identify our authentic, false, ideal, modified, lost, disowned, saboteur and sexual selves. He also has tools to identify appropriate and inappropriate guilt and identify, neutralize and transform shame-based core negative beliefs.
Tipping offers six fascinating paradigms to identify our religious and spiritual beliefs and shows how they impact our lives:
The scientific/secular/rational (forgiveness is a conscious decision).
The religious where the world is a continuous struggle between good and evil (forgiveness is not ours to bestow. We can ask God or Jesus on our behalf).
Being intellectually interested in spiritual ideas (understand forgiveness intellectually but find it hard to do).
View that life as a mystery to be understood, figured out and experienced (forgiveness is extending compassion).
See the earth as a school and life the curriculum (forgiveness and everything that happens has a spiritual purpose).
Seeing all of creation as perfect and divine and a part of the Godhead (everything is in perfect divine order. There is nothing to forgive).
Another potent Radical Self-forgiveness tool is the Three Letters Process. The first letter is written from the victim's standpoint, the second from the perpetrator's standpoint and the third is a reframe written from our I Am Self. This is where we recognize what we did was meant to happen and declare our understanding that there is nothing to forgive on a spiritual level.
Tipping says we have three types of intelligence that enables us to function in the world. They are mental, emotional and Spiritual. Mental intelligence is located in the brain and is responsible for all our cognitive activity and the rational mind. It includes our thoughts, ideas, concepts, paradigms and theories. Emotional intelligence springs form the heart and guides our emotional responses to life – such as love, fear, guilt and pleasure. It also tells us when we are lying or in denial. Mental and emotional intelligence emanates from the ego. Spiritual intelligence comes from the World of Spirit and Universal Intelligence (God). Unlike the other two it operates below the level of awareness. Spiritual Intelligence guides us on our spiritual journey and helps us move towards growth and healing. It is not bound by time and space. The tools of Radical Forgiveness are designed to activate our Spiritual Intelligence.
There are also worksheets for the two forms of apology (the ordinary and a Radical apology) and a Radical Self-Acceptance Worksheet. The Radical Self-Acceptance Worksheet helps us recognize our shadow when we see what people mirror back to us. It's called the “If you spot it, you've got it” principle.
Tipping says in spiritual terms everyone is doing what they are supposed to be doing – sometimes for reasons known only to Spirit.
This is a life-changing book.
Post a Comment new!
More Blogs by Niki Collins-Queen
• “Toms River: A Story of Science and Salvation” - Sunday, May 19, 2013
• A literary naturalist powerful memoir - Wednesday, May 08, 2013
• Transforms suffering into art - Thursday, May 02, 2013
• Women's trail blazer - Sunday, April 14, 2013
• A powerful, poetic exploration of grief though sacred pilgrimage - Sunday, April 14, 2013
• The emotional peaks and valleys of six recently widowed friends - Wednesday, March 20, 2013
• Is there a connection between poverty, drugs and violence? - Monday, March 04, 2013
• Amazing teachings about human consciousness - Friday, February 15, 2013
• A stunning portrait of the survivors of Japan's 3/11 disaster - Friday, January 25, 2013
• A must read for all truth and spiritual and truth seekers - Saturday, December 22, 2012
• A moving memoir about ruin and redemption - Saturday, December 22, 2012
• Empowering truths about life after death - Thursday, December 20, 2012
• Self-care for counselors and other caregivers - Thursday, December 20, 2012
• How a Rooster helped a husband become a Family Man - Thursday, October 18, 2012
• Four Letters, Twelve Songs, One Story - Tuesday, October 09, 2012
• Rogue River Journal: A Winter Alone - Tuesday, October 09, 2012
• The End of Your Life Book Club - Tuesday, August 28, 2012
• Can America become a mindful nation? - Tuesday, August 21, 2012
• Christians shouldn't judge homosexuals - Tuesday, August 21, 2012
• Living Deliberately - Tuesday, August 14, 2012
• A Memoir of Love and Revolution - Tuesday, August 14, 2012
• A different kind of advice columnist - Monday, August 13, 2012
• Renewable energy versus Fossil fuels - Monday, August 13, 2012
• The Barefoot Sisters' Appalachian Trail thru-hike - Monday, August 13, 2012
• Life Lessons - Sunday, July 01, 2012
• Healthcare in America - Monday, June 25, 2012
• Hiking three pilgrimage trails in Spain, Japan and the Ukraine. - Monday, June 25, 2012
• Hiking the Appalachian Tail's 2,135 miles from Georgia to Maine - Monday, June 25, 2012
• The healing power of meditation - Tuesday, May 01, 2012
• Stories that have the power to change lives - Monday, April 02, 2012
• King Peggy: An American secretary changes an African village - Thursday, March 29, 2012
• A-six-year-old summits forty-eight of New Hampshire's mountains - Thursday, March 29, 2012
• 32 empowering stories - Thursday, March 29, 2012
• On Writing Well - Thursday, February 23, 2012
• Why be happy when you could be normal? - Saturday, February 11, 2012
• The Great American Book Tour - Monday, February 06, 2012
• From Lost to Found on the Pacific Crest Trail - Tuesday, January 10, 2012
• A walking star - Tuesday, December 06, 2011
• Tools to create an exceptional life - Monday, November 28, 2011
• A Lamp in the Darkness - Sunday, November 20, 2011
• RV travels life-changing effects - Monday, November 07, 2011
• Lessons on learning what matters - Saturday, November 05, 2011
• Life in life in Tokyo - Thursday, September 15, 2011
• A new definition of success - Thursday, September 15, 2011
• Arctic anthology - Thursday, September 08, 2011
• The Amazon River's last uncontacted tribes - Thursday, September 08, 2011
• "Everyone will fall into one of life's crevasses" - Thursday, August 11, 2011
• Life as a chaplain to search-and-rescue workers - Thursday, August 11, 2011
• Sailing solo around the world at age sixteen - Tuesday, June 21, 2011
• Spiritual insights that offer many “ah-ha moments” - Monday, June 13, 2011
• A Skeptic's Search For Health and Healing from Pain - Saturday, June 11, 2011
• A pilgrimage to the worlds highest mountains - Tuesday, May 31, 2011
• A powerful tool to aid self-forgiveness - Monday, May 23, 2011
• A life-changing book about the ego's negative spell - Tuesday, May 03, 2011
• What can Americans learn from the country of Bhutan? - Monday, May 02, 2011
• Edgar Cayce on Reincarnation - Tuesday, April 19, 2011
• A remarkable Afghan woman - Tuesday, April 19, 2011
• Is India's modernization only skin deep? - Friday, April 01, 2011
• Are there parallel universes? - Friday, April 01, 2011
• Helping Hands: Monkey Helpers for the Disabled - Thursday, March 31, 2011
• A powerful tool for cultivating compassion - Thursday, March 31, 2011
• Wise counsel on managing our fear of change - Thursday, March 31, 2011
• Are you ready for a pilgrimage to Mount Kailas in western Tibet? - Thursday, March 10, 2011
• What is an Epiphany? - Tuesday, March 08, 2011
• How can we be more mindful and awaken? - Tuesday, March 08, 2011
• The reality of widowhood - Sunday, January 30, 2011
• Living in Bhutan, the Happiest Kingdom on Earth - Thursday, January 20, 2011
• Is fifty the new thirty? - Tuesday, January 11, 2011
• A compelling argument for 'less is more” - Monday, December 20, 2010
• When is a Limited Liability Company (LLC) necessary? - Saturday, December 18, 2010
• The power of kindness - Saturday, December 18, 2010
• Qigong a life-enhancing guidebook to health - Friday, December 03, 2010
• Parallels between walking the Appalachian trail and walking the faith - Wednesday, December 01, 2010
• Sacred lessons learned from a grizzly bear - Tuesday, November 09, 2010
• A Simple life on a Georgia Pond - Tuesday, November 09, 2010
• 54 Simple Truths with Brutal Advice - Friday, October 29, 2010
• A True Survival Story on the Open Sea - Wednesday, October 27, 2010
• An Appalachian Trail Adventure - Thursday, October 21, 2010
• A journey across South America's Inca Road - Wednesday, October 06, 2010
• A great story about spending a year in Japan - Wednesday, October 06, 2010
• Appalachian Trail Challenges - Friday, September 24, 2010
• Canine Assistance service dogs for people with special needs - Friday, September 24, 2010
• A transformative journey not to be missed - Monday, September 06, 2010
• Vietnam: A Vagabond Travel Guide - Monday, August 23, 2010
• Life and Death on K2 - Wednesday, August 11, 2010
• A magical love story - Thursday, August 05, 2010
• Extraordinary travel tales - Monday, August 02, 2010
• Female Nomads - Wednesday, July 28, 2010
• Making peace with marriage - Wednesday, July 28, 2010
• Toxic Relationships - Wednesday, July 28, 2010
• A fascinating true-life story - Monday, June 28, 2010
• Great information for caregivers - Sunday, June 20, 2010
• A book about the joys and sorrows of aging - Tuesday, June 08, 2010
• A groundbreaking program to alleviate pain and stress - Tuesday, June 08, 2010
• The moral and practical dilemmas around assisted suicide - Tuesday, April 13, 2010
• First Woman Senator of the United States - Tuesday, April 13, 2010
• The real meaning of love, judgment and forgiveness - Thursday, March 25, 2010
• The joy of ordinariness - Friday, March 12, 2010
• The End of Suffering? - Tuesday, March 09, 2010
• I treasure the wisdom in this book - Tuesday, March 02, 2010
• Radical Forgiveness by Colin Tipping - Sunday, February 21, 2010
• “Emmanuel's Book III: What Is an Angel Doing Here?” - Tuesday, February 16, 2010
• “Emmanuel's Book: A Manual for Living Comfortably in the Cosmos” - Thursday, February 11, 2010
• “Prayerfulness: Awakening to the Fullness of Life” by Robert J. Wicks - Saturday, January 30, 2010
• “Unconditional Confidence” by Pema Chödrön - Saturday, January 30, 2010
• Eyes Wide Open by Mariana Caplan - Tuesday, January 12, 2010
• “Women Writing for (a) Change” - Monday, December 14, 2009
• The Tao of Womanhood: Ten Lessons for Power and Peace by Diane Dreher - Monday, September 21, 2009
• Transforming Trauma by Carolyn Myss and James Finley - Monday, September 21, 2009
• "Beyond the Horizon" by Colin Angus - Monday, September 07, 2009
• "Children of the Horn" by Rosie Swale - Monday, September 07, 2009
• Two enthusiastic paws up - Sunday, August 09, 2009
• Simply an Inspired Life - Friday, August 07, 2009
• An amazing man - Monday, July 06, 2009
• A Powerful Spiritual Teacher - Monday, July 06, 2009
• A Map for Awakening - Friday, July 03, 2009
• Gwen Roland's memoir “Atchafalaya Houseboat: My Years in a Louisiana Swamp” - Saturday, June 20, 2009
• “Seeking the Spirit of The Book of Change” by Master Zhongxian - Monday, June 08, 2009
• What Would Bushman Do? - Thursday, June 04, 2009
• “The End of Your World: Uncensored Straight Talk on the Nature of Enlightenment” by Adyashanti - Wednesday, May 27, 2009
• A Course in Miracles - Sunday, May 03, 2009
• Lao-Tzu’s Tao Te Ching - Sunday, May 03, 2009
• Illusions: the Adventures of a Reluctant Messiah by Richard Bach - Thursday, December 18, 2008
• Prophecies and Predictions" by Moira Timms - Thursday, December 11, 2008
• The Gospel of Inclusion” by Bishop Carlton Pearson - Thursday, December 11, 2008
• Mother Teresa: Love in Action - Thursday, December 11, 2008
• Would Increasing U.S. Oil Production Effect Gasoline Prices? - Friday, August 29, 2008
• Do Big Box Stores Pay Sales Taxes? - Saturday, March 22, 2008
• Live and Let Live - Sunday, January 20, 2008
• Rocky Creek’s watershed in Georgia is the wrong place for a reservoir - Saturday, December 22, 2007
• Global Warming is Real - Friday, December 21, 2007
• Why Property Taxes Should End in Georgia - Tuesday, November 06, 2007
• Roosevelt began a shameful American legacy - Monday, August 20, 2007
• National security depends on energy independence - Monday, August 20, 2007
• High Levels of Carbon Dioxide Are Harmful - Monday, July 23, 2007
• Concerns About the Super Wal-Mart site and Monroe-Bibb County Line Dispute - Tuesday, November 21, 2006
• The Real Facts about Clean Water - Thursday, October 05, 2006
• Water Operation Permits Are Difficult to Get - Monday, September 11, 2006
• Stantec Consulting Services was Unaware of Rocky Creek’s Problems in Monroe County, GA - Tuesday, August 29, 2006
• Watershed Woes - Monday, August 28, 2006
• Healing guided imagery music - Friday, March 17, 2006
• Water Wars in Monroe County Georgia - Tuesday, February 21, 2006
• The Price of Oil - Sunday, December 18, 2005
• The Art of Service & Healing - Sunday, November 20, 2005
• The Global Warming Controversy - Monday, September 19, 2005
• Monroe County , GA's erosion control and the inspector - Sunday, July 03, 2005
• An amazing film—“What the Bleep Do We Know?” - Tuesday, May 17, 2005
• Alaska’s Wildlife has not flourished since oil development - Sunday, April 03, 2005
• Opening the Alaska Refuge for oil drilling would be a tragic loss - Friday, March 04, 2005
• War is the Terrorism of the Rich - Wednesday, December 01, 2004
• God Help America - Thursday, November 11, 2004
• A Double Standard in Embryonic Stem Cells Research - Monday, October 11, 2004
• George W. Bush and the Environment - Monday, September 20, 2004
• Trees Reduce the Risk of Catastrophic Flooding - Thursday, July 08, 2004
• The Human Cost of War - Friday, July 02, 2004
• Are We in the Iraq War for the Wrong Reasons? - Friday, June 11, 2004
• A Partnership to Prevent Litter - Tuesday, May 18, 2004
|
|
Bookmarks
