Blogs by Robert Scott Petranek
best man s-peach
7/19/2005 6:31:24 AM
I was asked to share a few words at my brothers wedding....
Tonight this room is filled with many faces from both sides of the aisle, many familiar to me, and many others I am eager to get to know as the coming chapters unfold in the ongoing story known as Our Lives.
We are gathered here today in celebration of the union of two extraordinary individuals, Mark and Michele. I cannot tell you how honored I felt when I was asked to be the first to address the new Mr. and Mrs. Mark Petranek.
What can I say? Well, when it comes to Mark, I can say a few things. I’ve known him a while now. As the youngest of three brothers, I think Mark benefited from witnessing how our lives progressed, and as the son of two loving parents in Bob and Carrie, I believe he was provided with a grounded moral foundation upon which he determined how to graciously conduct his life.
Mark was, from an early age, a very particular person who always believed strongly in his convictions, one who worked hard to achieve his goals, conducted himself in a respectful manner, believed in fairness, and never, ever settled for second best.
And I will be the first to agree he certainly did not settle for second best when he chose a partner with whom he plans on sharing the rest of his life.
Michele. Michele I haven’t known quite as long as Mark, certainly, but I can tell you some important things about Michele. She has been a shining star in our family. She possesses a radiance that is refreshing, a stunning beauty, and genuine warmth that always makes me smile.
Michele is also one of the hardest working people I have ever met- She works a full time day job, a part time job in real estate, and still manages to find the time to front a fantastic gigging rock n roll cover band at least 3 times a month. Unreal.
Last summer, she must have showed me at least 30 places before I found the one that was just right for me. So, patience is another virtue of hers I must mention. Along with compassion.
I’d like to briefly share a personal story regarding Michele and how she affected my life. Last summer when I was going thru my unexpected divorce, some of my darkest personal days ever, I received an envelope in the mail from Michele. At this point in my life I felt like I was a man ready to jump from a ledge.
I opened it. It was a card. It read:
"Sometimes on the way to a dream, you get lost... and find a better one"
Inside she had written:
"Rob- I am sorry you are going thru such a difficult thing. You are very lucky to have a family that would do anything for you no matter what. They will help you through it and things will get better. Hang in there.
I read it twice. Then I read it again. I literally felt myself step back from that ledge. I felt myself exhale. I felt myself physically loosen up… ever so slightly… but, at that critical moment, it was enough.
It was enough to make me realize that life goes on. And there was a future where all things were yet still possible. I felt it give me strength. I felt it give me hope.
It is amazing how the smallest gesture from one human being to another, in a time of need, can affect them. I will never in my life forget it. So thank you once again Michele, for your caring, and your kindness.
I believe these two very special people, who stood before all of us today, to announce their commitment to one another, will make a fantastic husband and wife. I believe their attributes complement one another in a powerful combination of ways. I believe theirs is a bond built to withstand the trials that life will throw their way.
Marriage is not easy. We live in the light-speed age, where every kind of distraction, and temptation is available at all hours of the day. And, every year, every month, every day, as individuals, we change. Sometimes for better, sometimes for the worse, however slightly, we change.
The challenge lies in our ability to change, to become who we are, and who we are yet destined to be tomorrow, and yet remain that person who was so appealing to our spouse, to maintain the attributes which made us attracted to one another in the beginning, when there were no bills, no deadlines, no kids, no obligations, no troubles. Just love. Love is simple. Love is easy. It is life that complicates everything for all of us.
If I can offer you anything beyond my sincerest wishes for all that you have ever wanted in life, it is this. Always be honest with one another. Always foster and fortify trust and openness in your communications. And remain considerate of each other’s needs. And remain considerate of each other’s dreams.
Build the walls of the fortress known as your marriage so strong that no one, and nothing in this world could ever possibly tear them down.
Together, I believe you will achieve everything you have ever hoped for. EVERYTHING you ever wanted. I wish you every happiness life can possibly deliver your way.
I love you both, and I'd like to raise a toast: Congratulations!!!
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