Blogs by Laura Davis
My Friend Died Today
5/6/2008 2:17:59 PM
A memorial to Jane.
A good friend of mine died today, her name was Jane. She suffered many years with cancer. First it was breast cancer, then she was in remission, but it came back with a vengeance. By the end she was riddled with it, but she was a woman who would not be defeated. Up until the end she refused to get into a wheelchair, even when it was obvious she couldn't stand.
I want to tell you about my friend Jane. This is more for me than it is for you, but maybe in my telling you will be blessed by Jane's life as I was.
I have known Jane for a little over 20 years. I first met her in our church choir where we sat together in the soprano section. I loved to sit beside Jane because she was so incredibly funny. A sense of humour that she had right up until the end. I will give you an example of her sense of humour. Many years ago, after she had had a breast removed and while she was in remission, a group of us went to Tim Horton's for a cup of coffee. Jane wasn't in our party at the time, but we were delighted when we saw her walk into the shop. She got her coffee and came over and sat with us. I remember she had on sweatpants and an old ratty top. She said she was so embarrassed because she just threw them on to go out, get a coffee and go back home. She wasn't expecting to see her friends so she figured she was safe to go out. That's one thing you should know about Jane, she always liked to look good when she went out (and she always did).
Anyway, we begged her to stay and said her appearance didn't matter because it's her company we wanted. So she stayed. As she was taking off her coat however, she realized too late, that she had forgotten something. She grabbed her chest and with a look of utter surprise shouted for all to hear, "I forgot my boob!" I'm laughing as I'm writing this because I still remember the look on her face and the squeals of laughter around the table.
Jane was also an incredible prayer warrior. She was always concerned about what was going on in your life and would ask for specifics so she could pray accordingly. I always felt weird about that, because while I was praying for her, my problems were minute compared to hers. But she always got upset with me when I would say something like that and chide me for not allowing her the opportunity to serve the only way she could - through prayer. I loved that about Jane, she was such a giving person.
The most important thing about Jane that you should know, is that she LOVED the Lord. She had an incredible faith. She knew where she was going when she died and that gives me peace, because I know she is no longer in pain and she is so happy right now. I'm told she died peacefully, with her brother and another dear friend at her side. I'm glad she wasn't alone.
The last time I saw Jane, a group of us girls had gathered for a birthday party at a friend's apartment. She was in so much pain, but tried valiantly throughout the evening not to show it. She decided to go into the bedroom and lay down and we spent some quiet moments talking about what she was going through. I took her hand and prayed for her, remembering all the times she had prayed for me. I realized that while we had always prayed for each other, we had never prayed alone together. I prayed that God would bring her relief from her pain. I always prayed that she would sleep well, because the pain kept her awake. We both knew her time with us was drawing to a close.
The following week she rebounded and I talked to her on the phone as we planned a surprise party for someone we both adore. She was laughing with delight as we made plans. She sounded so good I actually thought she might make it to the party. I'm still going to have that party and use Jane's ideas.
Jane I love you. I'll see you again - of that I'm certain.
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