New Orleans writer Nordette Adams believes she mentally prepared herself for her mother's death, but death has its own agenda. Her mother passed away earlier this month, shortly before Thanksgiving, at age 81, and the writer explores her family's loss through the gift of laughter in a post at the women's blogging webstie, BlogHer.
"I had to share what I was actually feeling not what people expect daughters to feel after the death of a mother," said Adams. "Anything else would have been dishonest."
She said that her late mother, a retired school teacher and preacher's daughter, used to say, "God abhors liars."
Nevertheless, Adams, who included in the piece about her mother a YouTube clip of a comedic monologue by the fictitious Father Guido Sarcducci, was a little concerned that some people could find mourning a mother's death with humor to be offensive. So, she's happy to have received personal notes telling her the tribute was both amusing and moving. Readers have also left comments on the post, and one shared sentiments that show some people understand what Adams wrote.
You did a smashing job on completion here, and you will move on so more powerful with your mother memories as contribution. You did not get stuck in a sad story, you dealt with your loss in a very beautiful, powerful and constructive way. (reader Wilma Ham)
"It's possible I'll go through a more traditional mode of mourning at some point, but right now I'm using my work, writing, to help me cope. My mother always believed in my talent to write, and so I think, in a way, I honor her as I pursue writing with passion," said Adams.
You can read more of her work at BlogHer, where she is a contributing editor, or browse Adams's blog WSATA, where she recently published her thoughts on future First Lady Michelle Obama's popularity as Mom-in-Chief, "Michelle Obama is Covered in Handprints." .