A Man's Perspective on Strong Women
2008-04-16 - A Man's Perspective on Strong Women
The lessons I learned from the strong women in my life.
My lessons came early in life. I had a hard working father, a very hard working father, he had two jobs and yet he could not keep up with all the needs and desires of his 4 boys. That is when I first encountered the strength of mom. When her boys wanted a television, because all the people in the neighborhood had one, Mom went out and took an evening job at Pepperidge Farms bakery. Mom made enough so that we not only got our TV but that Christmas was one of the most special ones for 7 to 10 year old boys.
My mom is strong in faith.
She is a strong believer in God and it is her strength that has helped her 6 children through their trials in life. Mom lost two Sons in 2003 when my Second brother died, I was concerned about mom, and decided to stay with her that evening of Vinny's death. That evening I was up most of the night. Mom, though deeply saddened by the death of her son, slept through the night, got up and prayed. Because of her faith mom accepted the passing of my brother. As a matter of fact I would put her faith up against anyone I know.
Mom is strong in character.
Josephine lives her life with honor and integrity. Her core beliefs are that everyone is doing the best they can. If you do not have anything good to say about someone do not say anything. Always tell the truth, be kind to everybody, and take care of yourself
Mom is an independent woman.
At 92 she still lives at home she has been a widow for 16 years. Mom's has prided herself on being strong; she is and has been one of the strongest people I have seen in my 65 years. We still run the plant nursery she started from scratch 50 years ago.
Mom is a very hard working woman. Mom raised 6 children, planted a garden, and started a farm, which eventually became a nursery, grew and sold flowers and plants for years. She was the strength and inspiration behind Palmieri Nursery in Westport Connecticut. Mom worked all the time in the winter she grew plants inside, Mom did whatever was need to be done to make the lives of her children
Mom was above all a wise woman. She filled our heads with great and meaningful stories, Mom did not know how to read or write in English so we learned through the oral tradition of the past. Let me tell you now that because she did not read or write did not mean that she was not educated, mom spent thousands and thousands of hours listening to the educational radio and TV shows.
Mom is a woman of courage.
Mom was willing to take on anything, although mom never learned to drive, that did not stop her, I remember The days we walked to the bus stop, and used it to take us shopping for school clothes. She managed to get to our schools to meet with the guidance councilors.
Mom came to the United States when she was 18, a farm girl from a remote hill town in Italy.
While I cannot say for sure what mom would have done if she was born and educated here, but I can give a good guess?
She would have been an A student and gone to college
Most likely she would have become a business woman, owning her own business,
Second to that she would have been a teacher, or a motivational speaker.
I'm sure mom would have written many self help books as her passion was to help others and to continue with self improvement.
I believe real men (gentlemen—Men who are strong enough to be gentle) embrace women who are strong, independent and hardworking. I myself married a strong and very independent woman who devotes her life to helping others; Susan has developed work shops, for women to help them create the life they want. One of her workshops is called The art of creating your life.
I know the full spectrum of men from the ones looking for a mother to the men who want to love, honor and experience life with a real women. My definition of a real man is one who lives his life with honor and integrity. My definition of a real woman is one who is strong enough to her man to be the boss and yet be in charge. My wife Susan is great at this I go along feeling like the king of the castle when in reality I know deep down that it is her world and that I am walking through it. One of my workshop leaders once said. "Do not believe anything a man says, and do not disbelieve anything he does"
The bottom-line for me is that the women of the world have an opportunity to bring it to a level of
Peace and serenity that we have never known. I just hope I have an opportunity see that.
My first book the Platinum Rule... suggests that if we lived life by the platinum rule we would not have the conflict we have today, especially suicide bombing, rape, and murder "do unto others as they would have you do unto them
One final note- today the 12th I attended the Funeral of my 95 year old Aunt Jenny. Now she also was a woman's woman. She lived independently in her own home, and with failing health, told her two sisters Mary 99 and Josephine 92 that she was ready to go. The reason she was ready is she believed she reached the point where she would be dependent on her children and did not want to be a burden. She told them on the 8th and passed away peacefully on the 10th.
My book JOSEPHINE IN HER OWN WORDS is filled with words of wisdom and advice to her children, both Sons and daughters.
My book RELATIONSHIP MAGIC that is an interactive book has proven to take relationships to higher and higher levels.
I am especially proud of my book THE FOOD CONTRARIAN , as it has helped people to better deal with food issues. While I lost two brothers due to food related issues I am keenly aware that the women in our culture are under so much pressure, on so many fronts that eating has become an outlet. For them the book addresses many eating issues for people of all sizes.
TUCHY’S LAW is filled with words of wisdom from people in my life, many of whom were women.
Tuchy Palmieri is the author of several books, including "Josephine, In Her Words: Our Mom,: which is about his mother, and "Tuchy's Law And Other Contrarian Quotes To Help You In Life's Journey." These among others give wisdom and insight and are a great addition to any bookshelf. Or coffee table
A Man's Perspective on Strong Women
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