According to two recent surveys, financial infidelity, or dishonesty about spending habits, is a problem in approximately one-third of all marriages and committed relationships.
Ruth Houston, an infidelity expert who has spent the past 11 years researching the topic of infidelity, points out that both the Redbook/Lawyers.com Survey and the 2005 Women & Investing Survey from OppenheimerFunds fail to mention the link between financial infidelity and sexual infidelity.
Says Houston, founder of InfidelityAdvice.com, “My research indicates that financial infidelity often accompanies sexual infidelity.”
When Financial Infidelity is a Sign of Sexual Infidelity
According to Houston, the New York-based author of Is he Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, “If both parties in the marriage or relationship have freely shared financial information in the past, and one party (usually it’s the man) suddenly becomes secretive about money matters or begins withholding information about spending habits, it’s usually a sign of sexual infidelity. “
Husbands Resort to Financial Infidelity to Hide Extramarital Affairs
“If a man is involved in an extramarital affair, sooner or later it will be reflected in the family finances,” Houston explains. “A cheating husband will often resort to financial infidelity in order to conceal the fact that he’s spending money on his mistress. Affairs cost money. If he’s wining and dining the Other Woman, and buying her gifts, he’s going to be less than honest about these changes in his spending habits.”
Wives Resort to Financial Infidelity When Preparing for Divorce
If a wife suspects her husband of cheating on her, or has discovered that he’s having an affair, she resorts to financial infidleity in order to protect herself and the children in the event of a divorce.
Tip Sheet on Telltale Signs of Financial Infidelity
Houston says “A spouse who knows what to look for can usually find evidence of financial infidelity.“ Houston’s book, Is he Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs (Lifestyle Publications, $29.95). lists 52 financially-related telltale signs in the chapter on Financial Affairs. For a FREE tip sheet with 9 telltale signs of financial deception taken from that chapter, send an email to InfidelityInfo.gmail.com with “financial” in the subject line.
About Ruth Houston:
Infidelity expert Ruth is the author of Is He Cheating on You – 829 Telltale Signs which documents practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs most women overlook. Ruth has been quoted in the New York Times, the New York Post, Newsday, the Toronto Sun, the Houston Chronicle, Cosmopolitan, the Christian Science Monitor, Crain’s New York Business, MSN Lifestyle, iVillage, AOL Black Voices and numerous other print and online media. She has been a guest on The Today Show, Good Day New York, BBC, CBC, TalkAmerica, 1010 WINS and over 200 radio and TV talk shows in the United States, Europe, Canada, South America, New Zealand, and the Caribbean.
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