Infidelity expert Ruth Houston recently appeared as a guest on Ireland’s Late, Late Show to discuss why men cheat. http://www.rte.ie/tv/latelate/
After quoting the shocking infidelity statistics provided by Ms. Houston (50% - 70% of men cheat on their wives), and commenting on the rising rate of infidelity in Ireland, talk show host Pat Kenny read excerpts from Ms. Houston’s book, Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, which documents nearly every known sign of infidelity. Then Ms. Houston, an internationally- recognized infidelity expert from New York who was once an infidelity victim herself, answered questions about various aspects of infidelity, including why men cheat. Some of Ms. Houston’s comments appear below:
What are the signs of infidelity?
“There are 21 major categories of telltale signs of infidelity – most of which are subtle. Categories include physical appearance, conversational clues, day-to-day behavior, work habits, how he relates to you, telephone tip offs, and more. If a man is really cheating, there will be more than just one or two telltale signs. You’ll find clusters of signs from several of the 21 categories all at once. Where there’s one sign, there will always be other corroborating signs. Knowing what to look for is the key.”
Why do men cheat?
“Men usually cheat for sexual reasons. They want more sex, a different type of sex, sex with a different person, opportunistic sex. But there are other reasons as well - ego embellishment, a sense of entitlement, cultural reasons, and more. A woman should never blame herself when her husband cheats, because it’s NOT her fault, though he may try to make her feel that it is. Cheating is a personal choice he made and usually has very little to do with anything his wife did or didn’t do.”
What should a women do if she suspects her husband of cheating?
“Speak up. Let him know you know about his affair. The worst thing you can do is sit back and say or do nothing. Know the signs. Document them by jotting them down in a journal, and use this information to confront your husband about his cheating. There are questions you need to ask him so you can determine the best way to handle the situation. Before you can make an intelligent decision about whether to leave him or to remain in the marriage and try to work things out, you need to know the extent of his involvement with the Other Woman, what he intends to do now that you know, why he initiated the affair in the first place, his attitude about the affair and more. What is the likelihood that it will happen again?”
Ms Houston advised women to have an Infidelity Game Plan in place, since based on current statistics, the likelihood is very high that most women will become victims of infidelity at some point in their lives. “Become familiar with the warning signs of infidelity -- not just the obvious signs, but the subtle signs as well. The sooner you spot the signs, the better your chances are of saving the relationship -- or of protecting yourself legally and financially if the infidelity happens to lead to divorce."
Ms. Houston, who has spent 12 years researching infidelity said, “There was so much more I wanted to share with the women in the audience. I do hope viewers will visit the website (www.InfidelityAdvice.com) where they can find a wealth of practical information on infidelity, including articles like 5 things You Shouldn’t Do If He’s Cheating on You, How Wives with Cheating Husbands Can Gain the Upper Hand, Signs of Infidelity, Reasons Why Men and Women Cheat, and much, much more.” Women who want to know more about the warning signs of infidelity can request a free tip sheet which describes the 21 categories of infidelity signs by sending an e-mail to InfideltiyAdvice.gmail.com with “ 21 Categories-AD” in the subject line.
Also appearing on the Late, Late Show’s infidelity segment with infidelity expert Ruth Houston were playwright Peadar de Burca whose play "Why Men Cheat" is based on interviews with cheating men from all over Ireland; Marguerite McDaid, the former wife of a prominent Irish politician, who wrote a book about her personal experience as an infidelity victim, and Ian O'Doherty, columnist with the Irish Independent.
Ireland’s Late, Late Show is the world’s longest running talk show (over 40 years) in the world , and the number one talk show in Ireland.
About Ruth Houston:
Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs which documents practically every known sign of infidelity. An internationally recognized infidelity expert, Ruth has been quoted in the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, Cosmopolitan, the Toronto Sun, Sante, Flare, Visao, iVillage, MSN Lifestyle, UPI, Reuters, Agence France-Presse, the Observer, Mail & Guardian, the South African Star, China Daily, Turkish Press, WebIndia123 and numerous other print and online media worldwide. She has also been a guest on The Today Show, Good Day New York, Ireland’s Late Late Show, 1010WINS, TalkAmerica, BBC, CBC, and over 250 other radio and TV talk shows in the United States, Canada, Europe, South America, the Caribbean, Australia, and New Zealand. Please visit the PRESS ROOM at www.InfidelityAdvice.com for additional information about Ruth Houston, her book or about infidelity.
To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston, please e-mail InfidelityExpert.gmail.com or call 718 592-6039.
About the book:
Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs by Ruth Houston lists practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs women usually overlook. The signs are conveniently grouped into 21 major categories so a woman can easily find the signs that apply to her mate. Each category consists of 19 to 92 individual signs, which can be found by any woman using nothing more than her own eyes and ears, her personal knowledge of her mate, and the information in the book.
Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs, can be ordered from, www.InfidelityAdvice.com , from Amazon.com or from 1-800-431-1579.
For the convenience of international customers, Is He Cheating on You? – 829 Telltale Signs is also available as a downloadable e-book from Booklocker.com at http://www.booklocker.com/books/1755.html