Hillary Clinton’s interview on the Tyra Banks Show has resurrected the question of why some women choose to stay with a cheating husband rather than get a divorce.
It’s hard for many people to understand why a woman like Hillary Clinton would stay married to a husband like Bill Clinton who reportedly has a history of extramarital affairs, and is rumored to have cheated on her on more than one occasion ( Monica Lewinsky, Gennifer Flowers, and Paula Jones)
Reasons Women Stay with Cheating Men
Below are just a few of the many reasons wives choose to stay with husbands who cheat:
· Financial reasons
· Not willing to give up lifestyle
· Insufficient proof of infidelity
· For the sake of the children
· Fear of change
· Low self esteem
· Bad timing
· Thinking the cheater will change
· To achieve career goals
· Hoping counseling will help
· Fear of being alone
· Religious beliefs
· Desire to keep the family intact
· Belief that it won’t happen again
There could be many other reasons, as well -- reasons which make sense only to the woman involved.
In the end, it comes down to a woman doing what she feels is in her (and her children’s) best interests.
In her interview with Tyra Banks, Hillary Clinton stated "I really had to dig down deep and think hard about what was right for me, what was right for my family."
No Woman Should Have to Explain Her Choice
Having been a victim of infidelity myself, I feel that no woman – not even Hillary Clinton -- should have to explain or defend her decision to anyone (other than her children) why she has chosen to leave or to stay with a husband who cheats.
Choosing to leave, or to stay with a cheating spouse is a personal matter. Some women may make a spur the moment decision when they find out about the affair. And many times they may regret their choice. For other women, whether to stay or leave is a carefully thought-out decision in which many factors have been taken into consideration.
So, while we can speculate, no one can presume to know the real reasons Hillary chose to stay with Bill, except Hillary Clinton, herself.
What NOT to Do When a Husband Cheats
Friends, family members – even total strangers – who know about the affair like to weigh in on what a woman should do when she finds out about her husband’s affair. But it’s more important to know what NOT to do.
Most women react blindly when they find out about their husband’s affair. They let fear, anger, hurt, or a desire for revenge cause them to do things they later regret.
Regardless of whether a woman ultimately decides to stay with her husband or leave him, doing the wrong thing in the initial stages of discovery will only make a bad situation worse. And it can sabotage the course of action she later decides to take. Hillary Clinton was wise to avoid making a decision in the heat of the moment, and to take ample time to think through the situation and decide what was right for her.
For Hillary Clinton, the right decision was to stay. For someone else, leaving may be the right things to do. Each woman must decide for herself. The most important thing a woman can do is avoid making a mistake that could sabotage the final course of action she decides to take.
How to Avoid Making a Mistake
If your husband is having an extramarital affair and you want to avoid making a fatal mistake, you may want to request a copy of the free special report entitled 5 Things You SHOULDN'T Do If He’s Cheating on You. It covers five things a woman should avoid doing immediately after discovering that her cheating on her, and explains the reasons why. To get a free copy, e-mail InfidelityInfo.gmail.com with 5 things-ad in the subject line.
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About Ruth Houston:
Infidelity expert, Ruth Houston is the founder of InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs which documents practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs people usually overlook.
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