Contrary to popular belief, not every cheating husband is dissatisfied with his marriage or unhappy with his mate.
Infidelity expert Ruth Houston says, “It comes as a surprise to most people, but happy husbands, cheat too.”
“This is probably one of the best-kept secrets about infidelity, cheating husbands and extramarital affairs,” says Houston, who is frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news. A cheating husband’s happiness, or lack thereof, is not a determining factor in his decision to have an extramarital affair. Researchers have been aware of this for quite some time, and several infidelity studies support this claim.”
Infidelity Studies that Support This Claim
Houston, the founder www.InfidelityAdvice.com and author of Is He Cheating on You – 829 Telltale Signs, is anationally-recognized infidelity expert, who has been researching infidelity for the past 15 years. Houston’s own research in the mid-1990’s revealed that happy husbands cheat, but she cites four corroborating studies below:
- Early research done by the late Dr. Shirley Glass, often referred to as the “Godmother of infidelity research”, revealed that when a husband cheats, it doesn't mean he has problems in his marriage. Over half the cheating husbands in Dr. Glass’s landmark infidelity study, said they were happy with their wives.
- Earlier this year, an infidelity study published in the Journal of Sex & Marital Therapyfound that75% of the cheating husbands questioned, said they did NOT have "lots of marital problems" prior to their affair.
- A study in the May 2008 Journal of Marriage and Family reported that despite couples describing their marriages as being “ pretty happy” or “very happy,” one spouse still had an extramarital affair.
- In an infidelity study published in the June 2008 issue of Family Process, couples who said that either they or their spouse had an affair, reported no signs of unhappiness.
Perpetuating The Myth
Says Houston, “The research proves that happy husbands cheat, too. But because people continue to perpetuate the myth, the general viewpoint is that only unhappy husbands, or men in problem marriages cheat on their wives or have extramarital affairs. Nothing could be farther from the truth. Unlike female infidelity, most male infidelity is unrelated to unhappiness or dissatisfaction with the cheating husband’s marriage or his mate.”
The Danger in Believing the Myth
Houston continues, “Believing in the myth that happily married husbands don’t have extramarital affairs gives wives a false sense of security. 50% to 70% of men cheat on their mates. At least 2/3 of the women being cheated on have no idea their husbands are having an affair. Wives who believe that good marriages are immune to infidelity, and that happy husbands don’t cheat, are likely to end up being one of the 26 million unsuspecting wives oblivious to the fact that their husbands are having an affair. Believing this myth almost guarantees a wife that if her husband is cheating, she’ll be the last to know.”
An Infidelity Expert’s Advice
Houston advises wives to familiarize themselves with the early warning signs of infidelity, saying, “Many of these signs are subtle and easy to overlook. But the wife who knows how to spot the early warning signs of infidelity may be able to keep infidelity at bay. The earlier an affair is detected, the easier it is to stop infidelity in its tracks.”
Houston has a free tip sheet, entitled “21 Ways to Spot a Cheating Mate,” which can help wives spot the warning signs of infidelity. To request a free copy, e-mail InfidelityAdvice.gmail.com with 21 Ways - ad in the subject line.
About Ruth Houston:
Infidelity expert Ruth Houston is the founder of www.InfidelityAdvice.com and the author of “Is He Cheating on You? - 829 Telltale Signs,” which lists practically every known sign of infidelity, including the subtle signs women usually overlook.
Frequently called on by the media to comment on infidelity issues in the news, Ruth has been quoted in “USA Today, the New York Times, the Wall Street Journal, the Los Angeles Times, New York Daily News, Cosmopolitan, the New York Post, the Chicago Tribune, the Houston Chronicle, the Toronto Sun, Maclean's, MSN Lifestyle, FoxNews.com, ABCNews.com, msnbc.com, Divorce360.com, iVillage, Reuters, AP, UPI and numerous other print and online media.
Ruth has been a guest on “The Today Show, Good Morning America, CNN, Fox & Friends, The Morning Show with Mike and Juliet, NBC News, BBC, CBC, WCBS, ABC News, Fox News and over 440 other radio and TV talk shows in the United States, Canada, Europe, South America, Australia, New Zealand and the Caribbean.
To interview infidelity expert Ruth Houston,
call 718 592-6039 or e-mail InfidelityExpert.gmail.com