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What the Media have to say
"Sam Vaknin is the world’s leading expert on narcissism."
Tim Hall, New York Press, Volume 16, Issue 7 - February 12, 2003
New York Times Interview
United Press International Part I Part II
"Vaknin’s a respected expert on malignant narcissists ... He set about to know everything there is about the psychopathic narcissist."
Ian Walker, ABC Radio National Background Briefing, July 18, 2004
What Mental Health Professionals and Authors have to say
"Sam Vaknin's book is THE bible on Narcissism!"
(Mary Jo Fay, author of 'When Your Perfect Partner Goes Perfectly Wrong - Loving or Leaving the Narcissist in Your Life')
"I consider this book to be the compass for Narcissistic Personality Disorder education" (Jen Emmerich, LMSW, ACSW)
"There is no more important work than this one on the subject ... You may very well discover yourself."
(Heyward Bruce Ewart, III, Ph.D., author of 'Am I Bad')
"Read Malignant Self Love so you will understand that you are NOT crazy, you are just embedded in a crazy making relationship." (Liane J. Leedom, M.D., author of 'Just Like His Father?')
"Vaknin's depth and breadth are unmatched anywhere else and by anyone else. He knows everything there is to know about narcissistic and psychopathic abusers and how to cope with them effectively." (Yomtov Barak, family therapist)
"I was stimulated just as I was challenged and enlightened." (Robert L. Mueller, author of 'Bullying Bosses')
"The only source of such vast, serious, elaborated and thorough first-hand information about Narcissism available. Useful for victims as well as therapists." (Dr. Nili Raam, author)
'Provides the partners, family and friends of NPD sufferers, and the sufferers themselves, with deep insight into the numerous expressions of this devastating and often insidious disorder." (Esther Veltheim, author of 'Beyond Concepts')
"One powerful healing tool in our therapy with these people is Dr. Vaknin's book. The most accurate portrayal of the 'typical' cult leader we have ever seen." (Robert Pardon, Director of MeadowHaven)
"A must read for psychologists, social workers, and all individuals who want to learn how to deal with the narcissists in their lives." (Laurie Anthony, teacher and author)
"Required reading for any codependent - to understand how the other side works."
(Dr. Irene, psychologist and Webmistress of drirene.com)
"If you wish to get under the skin of a Narcissist, if you wish to get to know how he thinks and feels and why he behaves as he does, then this is the book for you."
(Dr. Anthony Benis, Mount Sinai Hospital, New York, and author "Towards Self and Sanity - On the Genetic Origins of the Human Character")
"Sam Vaknin is a leading authority on the topic of narcissism."
Lisa Angelettie M.S.W., BellaOnline's Mental Health former Editor, "What is Narcissistic Personality Disorder"
"...This book has an important purpose. I am sure it will be appreciated in a library, classroom or among the mental health profession."
(Katherine Theriault, Inscriptions Magazine, Vol. 2, Issue 20)
"Now, for the first time, a much-needed first hand account of what Narcissistic Personality Disorder is like. Offers insight and clarity."
(Howard Brown, www.4therapy.com )
"I cannot recommend this book enough to those of you who have this disorder, to families and friends who are trying to understand."
(Patty Pheil, MSW, www.mental-health-today.com )
Sam Vaknin's study of narcissism is truly insightful. The author has done probably more than anyone else to educate others to this poorly understood condition. In this, his twelfth book, he shares his considerable knowledge and experience of narcissism in a comprehensive yet easy to read style.
(The late Tim Field, http://www.bullyonline.org/workbully/ )
Sam has plugged all the loopholes, exposed all the plots, and introduced a new language to confront the Narcissist. A 'hands-on' tool that can immediately bring relief. If you want to breathe again, if you are at your wits end, if everything has been tried and failed, if you NEED a change, then Malignant Self Love can give you your life back. This book is a lifesaver!
(Kathy Stringer, http://www.toddlertime.com )
"The 6000+ members at our learning, resource and discussion forums enthusiastically and unanimously recommend Dr. Vaknin's book. It is an essential and crucial 'Must Read'. Dr. Vaknin dissects and describes not only the mind of the Narcissist but what the narcissist's targets/victims can do about it. The result: Our members go zooming up the learning curve of understanding the Narcissistic Personality Disorder. Our members say the knowledge gained is essential for their lawyers who successfully counsel and litigate in cases where narcissists are involved, and our members' therapists who treat both narcissists and their victims and families."
(Darla Boughton, http://thepsychopath.freeforums.org/)
FIVE STAR rating at Barnes and Noble - Read what more than 120 readers have to say - Click HERE!
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You should read ...
"Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"
This is no ordinary book...
And no ordinary author.
"Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" was written under extreme conditions of duress. It was composed in jail as I was trying to understand what had hit me. My nine years old marriage dissolved, my finances were in a shocking condition, my family estranged, my reputation ruined, my personal freedom severely curtailed. Slowly, the realization that it was all my fault, that I was sick and needed help penetrated the decades old defenses that I erected around me."
"This book is the documentation of a road of self-discovery. It was a painful process, which led to nowhere. I am no different - and no healthier - today than I was when I wrote this book. My disorder is here to stay, the prognosis is poor and alarming."
The result is a penetrating personal autopsy of the motivation behind a life that has veered haphazardly from rags to riches then back again, more than once.
All before the age of 35.
You can read Readers' Reviews at the Barnes and Noble webpage dedicated to "Malignant Self Love" - HERE:
What exactly is a Narcissist?
"The Narcissist is an actor forced to remain backstage in his own monodrama.
The scenes, not him, take center stage.
Contrary to his reputation, he does not cater to his own needs at all.
Nor does he "love" himself in any true sense of this loaded word.
He feeds off other people, who reflect back at him whatever image he projects to them.
In his world this is their only function :
to detest - in a word, to assure him that he exists.
Otherwise, he feels, no one has the right to tax his time, energy, or emotions."
A quote from the book "Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited" By Sam Vaknin Ph.D.
"Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Re-Visited" was never originally intended for Publication, (Dr. Vaknin is far better known in Israel for his highly acclaimed short stories and in many countries for his economic and political commentaries and columns). It was a personal catharsis.
Later, almost as a kind of penance, Dr Vaknin published the work on the internet "in case it might help someone..."
The printed version was produced in answer to public demand.
Which has also lead to mailing lists 6000 members strong of which Dr Vaknin is the Moderator.
Further information is available on the web:
On the author and his work:
And on the Book:
Also, of course, directly from Sam Vaknin:
By Email: palma.unet.com.mk
Phone (in the Republic of Macedonia):
You can buy the ENTIRE SERIES of e-books about relationships with ABUSIVE NARCISSISTS -
The EXCERPTS, the FAQs, the ESSAY, the BOOK, and the DIARY of a narcissist - here:
And you can download the FREE Narcissism Book of Quotes - here:
The eighth, revised printing (January 2007) is available in print and as an e-book from the Publisher, from Barnes and Noble, and from others:
The eighth, revised printing contains two parts.
The Essay describes and analyzes the Narcissistic Personality Disorder using a new psychodynamic vocabulary.
102 Frequently Asked Questions relate to the various aspects of Narcissism
Together: 600 pages (E-book: 671 pages).
"Malignant Self Love - Narcissism Revisited"
The Narcissistic Personality Disorder and abusive relationships with narcissists described and analyzed. 82 frequently asked questions (FAQs), excerpts from the archives of the Narcissism Revisited List, essay, journal entries and appendices.
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Topic
A Primer on Narcissism:
Narcissistic Personality Disorder Webliography:
Read the transcript of the CHAT with Sam Vaknin in HealthyPlace HERE:
Read the transcript of the CHAT with Sam Vaknin regarding abusive narcissists HERE:
Read the transcript of the WebMD CHAT with Sam Vaknin HERE:
The Infinite Mind Radio Show - Narcissism
Read the transcript of the Mental Health Today CHAT with Sam Vaknin here:
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Listen to an AUDIO INTERVIEW with Sam Vaknin - HERE: