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Newsletter Dated: 3/14/2003 12:21:23 PM
Subject: Happiness Tips From Tina - Eyes of Love
Happiness Tips from Tina
This is the first issue of my newsletter -- welcome!
Learn to see through the eyes of love.
When I was about 7, I had a doll, originally a "Betsy-Wetsy" doll, who had eyes that would close and who drank and bottle and wet her diaper (big toy technolgy when I got the doll, about 1949) I had had the doll a few years, left her out in the sun and rain, so her latex skin was blistered and dirty, and her eyes were rusted. Grownups were always telling me to throw her away. But she was my favorite, and I took her everywhere. Thanksgiving that year, we drove the 3 hours to NY city to spend the holiday with my favorite aunt, my father's sister Ida.
Aunt Ida was a very special lady, a seamstress in a laundry, who, with her loving husband Tom, had raised three children. Their budget was very tight, but she always cooked a sumptuous feast for all of us -- she was the matriarch of our large, Italian family.
After spending a warm and cosy family weekend in the city, we drove home, where I discovered to my dismay my beloved baby doll was missing. I had left her at Aunt Ida's. Many tears later, my parents called to verify the doll was there, and my aunt said she'd keep her safe until we came back to visit again at Christmas. I longed for that doll, and worried about her, because I thought no one understood how much I loved her.
When Christmas came, and we drove again to the city, There was a big box under the tree for me, from Santa. In the box was my doll, looking as forlorn and abused as ever. But, with her, carefully wrapped in tissue paper, was a long, white christening dress, with lace, and matching hat, slip and panties. A peach brocade dress, again with all the accessories, and a lovely gingham puffed-sleeve dress with a lace pinafore and a sunbonnet. That poor, battered doll had clothes fit for a princess! Aunt Ida's loving heart and gifted hands had created these exquisite outfits for my doll. It was the most beautiful gift I have ever received. The dresses were magical enough to have come from Santa, but it took an adult who could see through the eyes of a child to understand how important it would be to me.
It wasn't until many years later that I understood the deeper meaning. My doll represented the parts of myself that were not perfect, my faults which were frequently criticized and for which I felt in danger of being rejected. My warm and understanding aunt, a wellspring of maternal love, had seen my need and my vulnerability, and showed me in an unforgettable way that even the imperfect parts of me were deserving of love and attention.
Aunt Ida died when I was 15, and the rest of my family were all gone by the time I was 18. The memory of her love and acceptance has carried me through many hard times since. She truly saw with eyes of love.
Here's how we can get to know each other better.
My new radio show: "The Psyche Deli: delectable tidbits for the subconscious" airs every Thursday. 4-5 PM on KUCI 88.9 FM, and is simulcast on www.kuci.org. People can tune in, and call in at 949-824-5824 to ask questions on air.
Online Classes for Continuing Education Credit
I now have classes at CE-credit.com for three books:
It Ends With You is now being offered as a Continuing Education course online http://www.ce-credit.com/Clinical/b_itendswithyou.htm
How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free http://ce-credit.com/Clinical/b_howcouple.htm
The Real 13th Step http://ce-credit.com/Addictions/b_13thstep.htm
4/14/03 radio interview Mr. C.R. Power, Producer/Host KTRC- 1250 AM "Good Morning Live" Santa Fe, NM
Upcoming "It Ends With You" book signings:
Tuesday March 18, 2003 7:00 PM I'll be leading the "Body, Mind & Soul" discussion and signing books at
Barnes & Noble, 26751 Aliso Creek Road, Aliso Viejo, CA on
Tuesday, March 25, 2003, 7:00 PM Barnes & Noble, Marina Pacifica, Long Beach, CA
Saturday, March 29, 2003, 2:00 PM Barnes & Noble, 111 W. Colorado Blvd, Pasadena, CA
April 13, 2003 Society for the Scientific Study of Sex -- Western Region Conference --workshop: "It Ends With You"April 10-13, 2003 in San Jose, CA! http://www.sssswr.org/Prog03/cover.html
Friday, April 18, 2003 7:00 PM Barnes & Noble, 901 S Coast Dr # B150
Costa Mesa, CA 92626 (714)444-0226
Wednesday May 7, 2003 7:00 PM Barnes & Noble, 7777 Edinger Avenue
Huntington Beach, CA 92647 (714)897-8781
Saturday, June 7, 2003 2:00 PM Barnes & Noble, 111 W. Colorado Blvd, Pasadena "Making Love Last: Freedom and Flow" joint talk with Susan Perry, author of Loving in Flow -- features Couple and Free
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Wishing you joy,
Tina B. Tessina, PhD