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Hello, and welcome to the "Happiness Tips" newsletter. In addition to a helpful tip for increasing your happiness, you can find out where I'll be signing books, and how to contact me, along with "Happiness Tips from Tina" in every month's newsletter. Please remember to add tina.tinatessina.com to your "acceptable" list, especially if you're on AOL.
Newsletter Dated: 11/1/2003 8:04:36 PM

Subject: Happiness Tips From Tina - Surviving and Thriving

Happiness Tips from Tina


Dear Friends:

Welcome to our new subscribers, Iíd love to hear from all of you, and to share your e-mails with the newsletter list. Every month I print your e-mails at the bottom of this newsletter.

Happiness Tip:

Surviving Loss and Thriving Again

None of us wants to think about it, but the standard definition of a totally successful relationship is the old, traditional ďtil death do us part.Ē Any time we love, whether itís a life partner, a dear friend, a child, a sibling, a parent or even a beloved pet, we are risking the loss of that love.

When you're happy with someone, you often don't think about your happiness or even fully realize it. You may take your contentment for granted. You watch couples around you struggle, or even go through your own struggles, and realize youíre lucky to have a successful partnership, but you donít dwell on it.

Then comes the tragic event, and the world turns upside-down. If it's a long illness, the support system your partner used to be is gone, and you are required to be the support system. All the little things you took for granted become crystal clear in their absence. If the death is sudden (i.e. auto accident, brain aneurism) you go into shock at first, and go through the necessary awfulness -- identifying the body, making funeral arrangements, notifying people, comforting relatives, friends and children and the memorial itself Ė like a robot, mostly without feeling. Depending on the length of an illness, you may experience some of this during that period, also. It isn't until weeks or months after the burial that you really get to experience.....Grief.

Grief is an organic process, it has its own wisdom, and it needs a witness. An understanding friend can be that witness. There is nothing you can do to make such a tragedy less tragic, so the grief, anger and frustration that you feel are normal reactions to the circumstances. So you go through the stages of grief: shock, anger, seeking, depression and peace. It's normal to feel fear that this might happen again, rage that it happened at all, a need for prayer and comfort, bouts of being overwhelmed and thinking you can't go on, and, finally, acceptance and understanding that this devastating event is a part of the risky life we humans all live. These feelings will come jumbled up, they'll recycle, and come in different order.

Then, as the shock wears off, and the permanence of the loss sets in, some people may feel a bit relieved, some will be angry, some will pray or question God, and others just feel exhausted, disconnected, and overwhelmed . This jumble of feelings includes the anger, seeking and depression phases.
* If you feel inspired to do something hopeful (for example, setting up a memorial fund, or praying, giving blood, writing letters), do it.
* If you feel discouraged, just feel it -- it will pass, and it may indicate that you need a rest.
* If you feel like laughing, don't worry about it -- it's a good way to manage tragedy. It often signifies the beginning of healing.
* If you feel angry, remember anger is the underside of love -- it's an expression of the value you attach to the life lost, and very appropriate. But it, too, will come and go and fade with time.
* If you are afraid, of course you are. We are all programmed to want to live, and being so heavily confronted with the fragility of life is terrifying. Yes, it could have been you, but humans are resilient, and the fear, too will pass.
* If you feel hopeless, it is because you are realizing that life is not in your own control. This is when faith and a belief in a higher purpose to life is very helpful. If you haven't discovered a belief in higher purpose, then this would be a good time to search. Talk to clergy, read philosophy, meditate, pray, even get your fortune told. All these methods of attempting to understand the ineffable are imperfect, but they all can help.
* If you need support for your own struggle with these issues, gather friends, family and neighbors around you. We never need each other more than at times like this. We need to feel a part of a larger, safer group. Although you may want solitude from time to time, to get your thoughts together, be careful not to get too isolated
* Getting through the grief process will take at least a year, perhaps several. The first year is the hardest, because you encounter special days, birthdays, holidays and anniversaries all around the calendar. Once you've survived each of these once, it gets a little easier.

Eventually you will have survived and healed, and be willing to take another chance. The promise of happiness is strong enough that the risk is worth it. You'll probably experience some guilt, but know that if your former partner loved you, she or he would want you to be happy. This new relationship will feel even more precious than the previous one, because you'll know that it isn't here forever. You'll have a feeling of gratitude toward your previous partner, for the love you shared and what it taught you that makes it possible to have this new love.

To contact me or ask questions, you can visit my website at www.tinatessina.com

© 2003 Tina B. Tessina

Here's how we can get to know each other better.

Radio
Catch my radio show on TWO new web networks: "The Psyche Deli: delectable tidbits for the subconscious" every Thursday. 4-5:00 PM PST live on www.wpmd.org. Click on the"click here to listen" button, turn up your speakers, and join us!! Call in at 562-860-2451 x2628 or e-mail at tina@tinatessina.com to ask questions on air. We'll also be on Book Crazy Radio on www.BookCrazy.net on Fridays.

Online Classes for Continuing Education Credit
http://www.1shoppingcart.com/app/aftrack.asp?afid=92478

Through my website, you can get CE credits online based on my books:

It Ends With You
How to Be a Couple and Still Be Free
and
The Real 13th Step

To sign up for classes or browse my books, visit www.tinatessina.com
Remember, the holidays are coming, and what makes a better gift than a helpful book?

I welcome your feedback and support, please contact me at tina@tinatessina.com.

Wishing you joy,

Tina B. Tessina, PhD
www.tinatessina.com

MAILBOX

Hi Tina, I think your motivational tips are great. I am lucky enough to work for a good boss, everyone at work feels less pressure and feels more motivated.
John

Thanks, John:

I appreciate the positive feedback. Iím glad your boss is good, and I hope youíre also a good boss to yourself.

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