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Newsletter Dated: 4/17/2009 6:05:46 PM
Subject: The Seven Steps to Happiness
The seven steps to happiness….
The transformation process begins when you realize it is time to change and you finally develop the stamina to do what it takes to improve yourself. Your mind, body and soul all have to be on the same track, functioning as one or else it will not work for you. The most important part of this transition process is the beginning. You have to have the correct perception of what you will be doing now and where you will be are headed for the future.
I used these seven steps myself to help me change my outlook on life. I was able love myself and develop a clear outlook where I wanted to be in the future. I felt capable to live the life that I wanted too. I felt like a different person. I strongly believe that if you follow these tips it will help to live a happy, healthy and productive life.
Below are the seven steps to lead you to a new beginning living life in happiness.
PATIENCE - This is the first step to living a happy and healthy life. The most important characteristic to develop is patience. You will need patience to work the program I created successfully. Changing your outlook on life is going to take time, devotion and hard work. Succeeding with this program comes by being patient in wanting to see results.
This exercise will help you even if you are already a patient person because it will relax you and increase your motivational skills simultaneously.
1. Take a hot bubble bath for fifteen minutes. Also, place an oatmeal bath in the water.
2. Lie in the bathtub and close your eyes, take four deep breaths slowly.
3. While you are taking these deep breaths clear all thoughts from your mind. Focus on the feeling of the warm water touching your body and the breathing techniques that you are doing at that moment.
4. Think about something positive and pleasant. Envision something that makes you happy. Focus on something that makes you feel good about yourself.
5. Let go of any negative thoughts that you have stored in your mind. Just to think about one thing that makes you feel good about yourself.
6. Take four more deep breaths, relax for a minute and get out of the bathtub.
7. Get dressed, go to a quiet place and sit on the floor. Close your eyes and slowly bend forward, relaxing any tight muscles that are causing you tension. Bend to the left, stretching your arms as far as they will go, then stretch to the right, repeating the movement.
8. Take five more deep breaths and say aloud “I have the patience to change myself and become the person I want to become in life.” Say, “I can become and do anything I put my mind too.”
9. Repeat step seven and eight
10. Take five more deep breaths and listen to yourself when you are doing this exercise. Concentrate on yourself while doing this exercise. Do not let any distractions impose on your quiet time. Do not think about anything except this exercise and the techniques it involves.
Changing your outlook on life means not letting your negative emotions and thoughts control you. As I was growing up, my way of dealing with things was to go in denial and make believe the problem was not there. By doing this, I was only hurting myself. Accepting change into my life has helped me tremendously. I have released any anger or negative feelings that I was experiencing and have focused on other parts of my life; as a result, I have become a stronger person, extremely proud of the person I have become. You need to do the same. It may take time to get to this point. That is why you need to have patience to come to believe you can do anything you put your mind too. Thinking positive thoughts about yourself will help you get a long way in life.
Step 2 teaches you how to recognize all the wonderful things about yourself. Judging other people is very easy. Looking at ourselves honestly, however, is difficult. Sometimes we do not focus on ourselves because we have become so preoccupied focusing on everyone else that we forget number one. This step helps recognize all the good things about you. You will begin to have a more positive outlook on life. First, you need to ask, “What do I have to change about myself? What parts of my life need to be readjusted? What are my strengths? What are my weaknesses?
Before you answer these questions, get yourself a notebook to document your answers to these questions and keep track of your progress. The journal helps you see your characteristics and change the ones you dislike. Look at the positive things about yourself and commend yourself for the accomplishments that you achieved and work on changing the negative characteristics that we all carry within us. Begin the journal by listing all the positive things about yourself on the first page. Make a list that looks like the following.
THE POSITIVE THINGS ABOUT ME
Strengths – List 10 of your strengths
Your positive points are the strengths that will take you through life. Start your journal with these positive characteristics about yourself. Seeing your strengths itemized in your daily journal will give you encouragement. Each day as you open this journal, you will be looking at all the good things about yourself that will give you motivation to make this program achieve your highest potential. On the next page, create a list and write down your weaknesses. Make a list that looks as the following. Remember, be honest with yourself and make sure you focus not only on your strengths, but also on your weaknesses. Reviewing our weaknesses can help us see more clearly, what has to be changed in your lives.
THINGS ABOUT MYSELF THAT I NEED TO WORK ON
Weaknesses – List ten of your weaknesses.
On the next page, list ten goals you want to do this week to change your outlook on epilepsy and how you feel about yourself. This will help you gain some insight into what you need to start doing for yourself. Start planning what you want the new you to be like. Each time you accomplish a goal, put a star next to it. Write down the date of when you achieved the goal. Create a list that looks like the following:
MAKING THE NEW ME
Goal for the Week - List ten goal goals for example:
1. January 1st - Wrote a letter to five who I had problems with in the past.
Then I want you to list ten long - term goals of what you want to have accomplished and where you want to be in a month’s time. Focus on how you are going to accept the changes in your life, be proud of the person you have become in life. Focus on how you are going to change the characteristics about yourself that you do not like. Make the list look like the list I have created below:
CREATING THE NEW ME – List 10 goals for the month.
Create a page in the beginning of the book called the priority calendar. Ask your self these questions.
Priority Calendar - What do you regret not having made more time for? List 10 things.
• If you had more time, what would you do with it? List 10 things.
• What are the top ten priorities in your life right now? List 10 things.
• What are your family - related goals? List 10 things.
• What are your business goals? List 10 things.
In the back of the journal, take a quarter of the notebook and title it your Daily Diary. Dedicate the diary to someone you care about and feel close too, someone who would be proud to see you changing the negatives things about yourself, improving yourself you’re the better and living the life, you want to lead. Dedicating the journal to someone, you care about gives you motivation to want to change for the better. Write about the goals you accomplished and explain how it made you feel to reach them. Write about the achievements you are accomplishing that are turning you into a better person. Write about how they are helping you become the person you want to become in life. Describe what you had to do to achieve the goals.
Step 3 is about the importance of self determination and how to develop it within you. Self - determination requires that you make an agreement with yourself and keep it. You must have faith in yourself that you are going to do anything that you put your mind to. Your motivation to accomplish this program will become easier as each day goes by. Saying you are going to improve is easy, but you cannot just say you are going to improve; you have to get out and accomplish the goals that you have set for yourself. You cannot accomplish too many goals in one day. Changing takes time and as step one says, "You need to have patience.” Try to accomplish one goal a week at first. Maybe two goals, if you have the time. Then accomplish another goal each week until you get to ten goals. These goals do not have to be difficult. You can set several little goals maybe only one large one. Working on yourself can be tough if you have a busy schedule; nevertheless, do not let that stop you. You have to make time for yourself. Remember; you come first in life. You need to believe that you are the best. You cannot take care of the people who mean the most to you or do the things in life that you want to do, if you are mental, physical and spiritual well - being is not intact and strong.
Reward yourself every time you achieve a goal. Your achievements are important and you should not treat them lightly. For example, take in a movie or reward yourself with some quiet time to relax and focus just on yourself. To me there is nothing better than having sometime alone with you. Do something that makes you happy. Remember, you cannot make others happy until you are happy with yourself.
In your journal, make a list called Record of Successes and itemize all the achievements that you have accomplished. Create a list of everything good you believe you have done for yourself. This will make you feel good about yourself. For example, include the following:
RECORD OF SUCCESSES THROUGHOUT MY LIFE
My Achievements - List 10 things.
RECORD OF SUCCESSES DURING THIS PROGRAM
My Achievements - List 10 things.
Develop a special time in the day for quiet time. Studies have shown that individuals who have a daily quiet time are less likely to become ill, and heal faster from illness than those who do not. Take a few minutes during the day to write in your journal. Try to make it the same time each day. Perhaps when no one is home or just before you start the day in the morning. You could also wait until everyone goes to sleep so that no one will bother you. Give yourself at least fifteen minutes to a half hour. Relax, and while you are writing and relaxing ask yourself the question; “Where am I headed in life and where do I want to be a year from now?” Then write about it. Make sure you are focusing on the things you want to accomplish in life.
The only way you will succeed in this life is making sure that your negative emotions and thoughts do not control your life. You need to feel proud of the changes you are making. Focus on what you have accomplished. Think about how you feel about making changes to improve your life while writing in this journal. The goal is to let yourself open up and write intimately and honestly about how you feel. This method helps heal your wounds so you can get on with your life. You have to learn to understand why you have developed these negative feeling, accept them, change them and then let go and free them. Think of ways to strengthen yourself spiritually and emotionally. Make sure you do not limit yourself because you feel sorry for yourself because you are not where you want to be in life or because you have a condition, disability or anything that has become an obstacle in your life. This self - pity is unhealthy. You will never get anywhere in life if you pity yourself. Free yourself from any walls you have built around yourself. Become the person you were meant to become.
Now repeat the seven - step process each day. Once you complete the seven steps go back and review the things you have written in your journal. These steps are a new way of life. Keep doing these seven steps each day until you get to where you want to be and you have become completely satisfied with yourself. There is so much knowledge out there for us to learn. It is there for anyone who wants it. I always add more goals to my list. You should always work on bettering yourself. Everyone is special everyone has something unique about them. It is your job to find out what those unique qualities are in you and how to make them work for you.
Health - and - Happiness - Columnist Stacey Chillemi
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