In playing bridge or similar card games finesse
refers to withholding one's highest card or trump
in the hope that a lower card will take the trick
because the only opposing higher card is in the
hand of an opponent who has already played.
As used in this expose finesse refers to the game
of life, a game that is much larger than a card
game. Finesse refers to "skill that is artfully and
tactfully used in handling a difficult or highly
sensitive situation." While class or stye may be
involved, primarly finesse is about refinement
and delicacy of performance and diplomacy.
And while persuasion, seduction, even wooing,
may be associated with finesse, coercion,
crassness and crudeness are not.
Succinctly, finesse is about doing the lovely thing
diplomatically in handling a situation. This idiom
aptly conveys the practical meaning of finesse,
"You catch more flies with honey than with
vinegar." Love is the honey in finesse. Let it be
said by those you encounter, "He/She got finesse."
Copyright 2012 by Uriah J. Fieldds