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The Hugs I Missed
by Nancy S. Mure
Sunday, February 22, 2004
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The Hugs I missed.

 

When I was one, I couldn't tell you not to smoke while you were holding me, so I fussed.

 

When I was five, I would wave your cigarette smoke out of my face as I ate my dinner.

 

When I was ten, I would protest and cough when you lit up in the car.

 

When I was fifteen, the smell of smoke was so strong on your clothes that I didn't want to hug you.

 

When I was twenty-two, you insisted on smoking in my limousine on my wedding day.  You smelled of smoke when you walked me down the aisle and so did I.

 

When I was twenty-five, you had open-heart surgery and the doctor told you to quit.  You would sneak cigarettes and thought no one knew it.

 

You were so addicted to nicotine you said you would rather die than quit.

 

You got your wish.

 

You developed lung cancer when I was twenty-six, then decided you wanted to live.  You needed chemotherapy and radiation treatments.   The prognosis was poor.

 

Then, reluctantly,  you quit smoking.

 

When I was twenty-seven you closed your eyes forever.  I hugged you and you didn't smell like smoke anymore.

 

 

First rights, Nancy S. Mure©1999

 

 
 

 

 

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Reviewed by Regis Schilken 7/30/2013
Wow, Nancy, a very sad poem. Addiction is a real disease in itself. I hope you feel better now!
Reviewed by Keith Rowley 5/17/2012
Well written Nancy. On a lighter note (pun intended), when I used to see the warnings on cigarette packets that stated 'Don't smoke if you are breast feeding', I always wanted to complete the sentence with 'or you'll get ash on your baby's head'!
Seriously though, I think that individual liberty and choice are more important than the length of one's life. I used to smoke heavily, and gave it up as i approached 50, as I could feel the harmful effects catching up with me. Both smoking and not smoking were my personal choices. I would never, ever blame anyone but myself had smoking made me ill and I would not give up one single cigarette I enjoyed - and I enjoyed many over 35 years! So whilst applauding your poem and empathizing over your loss, I still think that liberty and individual choice must be the paramount values upheld in civilization. Some of our choices kill us, but they are our choices to make.
Reviewed by Amor Sabor 2/4/2011
I smoked all my life until I finally decided I had to quit before I would get some kind of cancer or emphysema. I quit smoking cold turkey close to two years ago and I am so glad that I did. I read this and noted how well crafted this write is and it makes a great piece to get some peoples attention. Well done although you have had to go through a great loss in your father.
Amor
Reviewed by Joseph Manzo 11/10/2010
What a touching story of a smoke filled life.
Reviewed by eliza keating 8/25/2010
what an incredible piece of writing...on a lighter note im just about to go order some of your wonderful books ...eliza keating
Reviewed by Paul Judges 11/9/2009
Well written, Nancy
Reviewed by Frances Seymour 10/14/2009
Oh my goodness! Every smoker needs to read this! Great description of life in the environment of nicotine. Blessings...Frances
Reviewed by Reginald Johnson 6/7/2009
This insidious pestilence can only be eradicated by starting at the source. Go to any suburban mall; you will find children, twelve years and older, smoking. All have deluded themselves into thinking it makes them look older. They don't wish to "be like Mike", they wish to be like their parents.

Regards ...

Reginald V. Johnson
Reviewed by Annabel Sheila 5/29/2009
Oh what a tragic story. You have captured so many emotions in this one. Indeed, smoking is a terrible addiction, and unfortunately some don't quit until its too late. Great job Nancy!

Anna
Reviewed by David Thompson 5/8/2009
I'm so glad I ran across this poem this morning. My wife and I both stopped smoking nearly thirty years ago. Our son was seven at the time. We had taken him to an allergist, and the doctor said, "This little guy doesn't feel well; you both really need to stop smoking." I'm so glad we listened to his physician. In 2005, my brother died from lung cancer. He was a smoker but had quit several years prior to his death. Still, smoking eventually had its way with him, and he died a most horrible death. It was heartbreaking to watch as the nurses suctioned him twice the night he died. I was sixty-one at the time, but still I sobbed silently and held his hand throughout this heartbreaking scene. It was the most difficult thing I ever had to do. But God saw me through it, and I'm glad I was able to be there for him. Thank you for this wonderful write. May it continue to be a blessing to others, just as it already has.

Sincerely,

David Lee Thompson
Reviewed by 000 000 11/16/2008
If kicking addictions were easy...no one would have them. This message is loud and I for one got the message. Thanks, CarolHawks
Reviewed by Cryssa C 10/31/2008
As so many have said... this is just powerful! I hope that there are many who will be touched by the message and change their lives because of it.
Thankfully, I have never smoked, nor has my husband, nor our parents or theirs before them...I am SO grateful for that!!! What a horrid addiction it is...

Cryssa
Reviewed by John Domino 8/16/2008
You have God given talent and a heart of GOLD. my first wife died of cancer at 37. It took 20 yrs. to write her story that I have on my website.

Success Always,

John Michael
Reviewed by Lois Christensen 6/18/2008
My husband Tom, another smoking casualty says right on his death certificate, death due to smoking. He was a schizophrenic person and could not kick the habit, smoked over 3 packs of cigarettes a day, developed emphysema, lung disease heart disease, COPD IT IS CALLED, DIED AT AGE 58 SO YOUNG AND IN HIS PRIME OF LIFE. i AM SO MAD AT HIM, He actually killed himself per se. It was a horrible time his last 6 months, could not breathe well and pains in his legs. But he did not complain one bit. He took it well and died peacefully too. Now he is at rest and no more cigarettes needed.
Reviewed by Phyllis Jean Green 5/12/2008
E x c e l l e n t. But for the grace, there went I !! So many of my generation lost the battle. Smoking was considered glamorous! All the Stars smoked, and many athletes. Nearly killed me to quit, but I would not be sitting here writing this if I hadn't licked the habit. Same goes for my husband. I feel a lot of guilt re second-hand smoke [an unheard concept until relatively recently], but there's nothing to be done about that. Thank you for writing this. You have done a wonderful job. Maybe it will convince someone to stop smoking before it is too late. I am so sorry that your loved one didn't make it.
Bless you!! <3 Phyllis <3
Reviewed by CAROL HEGBERG 1/27/2008
I love this poem, Nancy. People with families talk of love and yet miss the chances of love because of addictions and their reluctance to change. Thanks for writing out your sorrow over this missed part of life.
C.
Reviewed by Dark Knight 12/28/2007
Great poem-I lost both of my parents to smoking-Mother to Cancer in'96 and my Father in June/07 of Prostate Cancer-No I don't smoke and I am Cancer free
Reviewed by Elizabeth Price 7/24/2007
Heart wrenching poem. You spelled it out correctly. Such a loss. great write. Liz
Reviewed by William DeVault 7/20/2007
So often people don't realize what they, in harming themselves, are doing to those who love them. Thank you for this expression of the loss.
Reviewed by William Heffner 6/26/2007
Thanks for sharing this, it should be posted on billboards everywhere.

God Bless You and Your Loved Ones

Officer Bill Heffner

xxxooo
Reviewed by Ken Chartrand 3/9/2007
Hi! Nancy, A very beautiful poem. Very heartfelt and poignant. Best of luck with your writing! Please feel free to visit my site at www.freewebs.com/kendoo or here in the 'den'.
Reviewed by Bill Grimes Jr. 2/26/2007
Addiction touches so many more people than the addict realizes......I thank God I was given a 2nd chance. Thanks for sharing Nancy......

Bill
Reviewed by ~ Holly Harbridge (Reader) 10/21/2006
How sad, but it happens to so many. I've never smoked but see the effect is has on people. That power; or addiction that takes over them to such a degree. A powerful well written poem. Keep writing. *hugs* Holly
Reviewed by Phyllis Du'Gas 12/31/2005
Powerful - powerful - powerful! Did I mention ---this was powerful?
Wow!!
Reviewed by Felix Perry 10/14/2005
Strong statement with sadness overwhelming what is so true. As a smoker for 35 years and a non smoker for the past four years I know it is not easy but can be done.

Felix
Reviewed by Joe Fleckenstein 8/8/2005
Wow, the last line really got to me. That was some great work. --Joe

Reviewed by Masood Lohar 7/12/2005
My eyes misted reading this poem. It is very powerful
Reviewed by Emeka Nwogu 4/25/2005
What a poem, what a hug, what a smoke.
You have stayed away from poetry. What is the matter?

Emeka
Reviewed by gaurishankar chemudupati 4/25/2005
"I hugged you and you didn't smell like smoke anymore."These words watered my eyes! After all I am also a papa! I read the poem many times as if my daughter is before me! Thank you my child!


Reviewed by L. Figgins 2/10/2005
My father, who smoked, had triple bypass surgery at the age of 42. He quit smoking and lived into his seventies. This poignant poem may save lives. Thank you, Nancy
Reviewed by E. Richardson 12/7/2004
a powerful write about all too common problems in this day and age. Both my wife and I smoke, but have committed outselves to beginning the new year, smoke free. We still have many moments of love to share and I still have many poems to write. We refuse to allow ourselves to be cut short. Thanks for this post. I look forward to more of your work.
Reviewed by Miller Caldwell 9/27/2004
How sad but true. A most moving voice of a child to a parent. Yet why he smoked was his decision and his generation are at a loss to see the drugs and guns killing a younger generation. Your message is clear. Love eachother first.
Well done
Best wishes
Miller
Reviewed by Jeff Mason 7/21/2004
My dad died from lung embolism in 1992, at age 59, on his birthday. I repeatedly prodded him to quit smoking and drinking (Vodka was his favorite). On June 5, 2002, I also had to turn off the respirator that was breathing for my mom, because she had smoked since she was 13; I also repeatedly prodded her to quit. I left home at age 17, and joined the Marine Corps, partly to get away from the smoke. Thank you for sharing this story. -- Jeff
Reviewed by Lori Torrio (Reader) 6/10/2004
Oh, my God! This poem hit home like you would never believe! I am a smoker and have been for years.. I am 43 now and my children have been telling me for years to quit. I have cut down a lot, but this really did it for me.. I have a new baby granddaughter, who I want to see grow up. I am going to print this out and read it every day until I finally reach my goal of never lighting up again. Thank you so much. You can never know how much this helped.
Reviewed by Jim Dunlap 5/22/2004
Such a sad story, and unfortunately, all too common. I have lost so many friends to cigarettes. It is a terrible thing. I wish the cigarette companies and the Republican politicians who work for them could suffer as people like your father and you suffered.
Reviewed by Hanley Harding 5/1/2004
Very nice! I had an acquaintance who regularly went downstairs, while in the VA hospital, to smoke cigarettes, all the while dying of emphysema. He had one last cigarette on the day his heart gave out. It can be more addictive than most of us know.

Hanley
Reviewed by Joyce Hale 3/29/2004
Welcome, Nancy!! What a poem with which to enter! Excellent, and sad.
Reviewed by Regis Auffray 3/2/2004
Powerful write about an very nasty addictive substance. This is much like the theme of my latest post at the Den. Thank you for sharing this, Nancy. There is so much truth and valid emotion in this poem. Love and peace. Regis
Reviewed by Candy T (Reader) 2/27/2004
This is stark, powerful and has left me feeling really disturbed. It has all the makings of a good poem (ability to move reader, etc) and all the makings of a sad loss. I don't know you but almost feel like I do now.
Reviewed by Michelle Kidwell Power In The Pen 2/22/2004
Wow, this is a heartbreaking write, keep up the great work...
God Bless
~Michelle~
Reviewed by Alain Gracio 2/22/2004
i had to get my kleenex out and wipe my tears. This is very touching and a profound statement to quit smoking. Thank you for sharing it.
Reviewed by Karen Cino 2/22/2004
Excellent write Nancy. I'm so sorry for your loss. I finally quit smoking after having my kids beg me to stop. Very strong verses and imagery.

Welcome to the den. IT's a great place to call your second home.

Karen
Reviewed by Karen Lynn Vidra, The Texas Tornado 2/22/2004
heartbreaking write, nancy! thanks for sharing! welcome to the den; we are so glad you are here!

(((HUGS))) and much love, a new tx. friend, karen lynn. :D (live just south of fort worth, on the johnson county line, in burleson.)
Reviewed by E T Waldron 2/22/2004
Oh my! This is heartwrenching! A superbly crafted write! Welcome to the Den, Nancy;-)Eileen



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