Some feelings hurt deep inside like the feeling when a loved one passes on. Or the feeling we have when we are in an abusive relationship or ending an abusive relationship. That feeling usually is of fear, anger, and rage.
The feeling of loosing a child is a very painful feeling. Feelings like those are very deep and painful. Deep feelings like these we may have to talk about it with someone we feel safe with. We do not want to become numb and hide, we want to over come the feeling and grow from the experience.
There are other feelings such as if someone has a terminal disease like Cancer or Lupus, MS, or HIV Illnesses like those do not have cures. They can cause some painful feelings also cause anger and even rage.
Feelings from an illness is one of the hardest for me to accept because it is a feeling I cannot just let go of I have to learn to accept what is going on in this situation and I have to do what I have to do to get myself better and healthier. I have to accept the illness and I have to accept the feeling I am having at that moment and each day this has taught me to stay in the now all I really have is this moment now.
No matter what the feeling is. I have to walk through it, not push it away and not let it take me over, if I let it take me over then I become angry and get into a rage.
I have to see it and feel it and no that the feeling is not here to hurt me. We have feelings because we are human beings living life. As long as I am alive I will have feelings
Some feelings are happy and positive; some feelings are sad and negative. I am learning not to run from my feelings. When I run from my feelings I am running from myself. I have found I have to accept the feelings that I have, at the same time I cannot let the feeling take me over.
I am told feelings are not facts, and that feelings do not mean anything.
I don’t believe that.
I believe feelings mean a lot when were doing something good for someone our feelings we have is out of love, and love is a positive feeling, or at least it should be a feeling of love, when we do something for someone else.
I have also learned not to let feelings run my life because then I get into trouble, I have experienced that I have acted on my feelings and really had some bad consequences from acting on some of my feelings. So now when I have a strong feeling I try to walk through the feeling, feel exactly what it is that I am feeling. And see if it is a positive feeling that will turn into a positive action. I have to ask myself these questions before I act on any feelings.
I used to run hide from my feelings, I also used to act on my feelings doing either one of those can cause harm to myself and another person. I have to make sure what feeling I take into action and ask myself will this cause any harm on anyone or myself? I have to really take in consideration and not just jump in to a feeling that I have with out taking time and really knowing what I am getting into.
Today I stop and just BE I just BE STILL and listen for the answers that are within me. Before I take any actions.
I have to get myself calmed and become centered not rush I have to take it slow, so I can know what action to take. Either act on the feeling or let go of the feeling.
Some feelings are important for us to act on some we may have to let go of. The choice is ours on what we choose to act on.
Today I choose to act on positive feelings so I receive positive actions.
Copyright © December 12, 2007 by Denise Contreras