Family structures, if they do not honor their children as do the birds in Spring have as much utility as stagnant pools in a river of change. The shock of being pushed out of the nest is an initiation into self-awareness. It is a rite of passage that initiates the young to the death process that is the only path to life. This death represents an end to expectation & desire. It is a death to points of view - to ego. The life to be recovered is the completeness we are when our points of view are one. In other words, it is our thinking that keeps us away from who we are.
Because parents in general do not have correct information they usually react to over-protect. This in turn creates the expectations & desires that are the roots of pain. As children defer to the easier escapes the pain follows naturally as a corrective device. This is the eternal Way(a); the self-correcting way of nature.

Liberties taken, tempers flare
Need to cut loose on my cares
Need a safe place to vent the pain
Trusting your love I abuse your care.

All the passions of my past
Demand expression, won’t depart
All those things left unresolved
All my issues just won’t dissolve.

Feel like a funnel unable to flow
Pressure building, want to blow!
But I’m blocked - don't know how to go
No one taught me about the flow.

Frustration builds and so it goes
Many mistakes - attempts to grow
Like a prisoner with a million keys
Wish I knew the one that frees.

Maybe I am being a pest
Want security without the fee
But, they won’t do what birds know best
Too afraid I'll fail the test.


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Ref.(a)Tao Te Ching