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| Reviewed by Dawn Wilson |
2/15/2008 |
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| Karen, I see that this was written a few years ago, and I want to tell you what a strong woman you are in sharing this. Hugs and prayers to you. |
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| Reviewed by Mark Mahoney |
5/13/2005 |
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| Karen...i'm not gonna lecture you and offer advice from the other side of the ocean, all i will say is i'll say a prayer for you, i'm not over religious but i do believe in a good prayer and the strenght it can bring... your not alone for i as one count you as a friend...take good care of you and yours, and smile...believe me it does help xxxMark |
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| Reviewed by Muhammad Al Mahdi |
1/16/2005 |
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| One of the most truthful portraits of life I've seen published. It's nice to speak out. It's very relieving but it's a security risk. That's why one usually has to avoid it. As for me, researches in Ireland have revealed exactly the same reality. Something must be wrong. Thanks for reminding me. (But what is it?) |
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| Reviewed by Ali Khaghani |
5/8/2004 |
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| aaaah this broke my heart~hugs~ aching expression and very heartfelt indeed:( |
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| Reviewed by Alice Breaux (Reader) |
4/14/2004 |
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This is a very touching poem. At times we all feel lost. But in my life's experiences I have noticed that God will always work things out.
Best Wishes,
Alice Talbert Breaux |
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| Reviewed by Cherry Pie |
2/17/2004 |
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| You have one thing going for you and that is a heart of gold.Handicapped in body but strong in spirit.Take care of yourself and remmeber you can do anything in your mind if you have the imagination .Today i suggested we make snow angels in the snow dream it and see it in your mind sweet dreams. |
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| Reviewed by Mark Rockeymoore |
2/10/2004 |
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| you have gotten a lot of good advice! you see? this is home, and all things must pass...take care! and keep on writing and sharing! that's the way to move past these kinds of things...as well as going directly to the boss! LOL...unless you want me to come up there and beat some heads...hah! your friend in san marcos, mark! the roughneck! ROTFL! |
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| Reviewed by Robert Sheridan |
2/9/2004 |
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Soul-searching at its best - enjoyed your write immensely! Your friend, Lance (Robert).
*I saw that one of your reviews was never posted to 'My Reviews', but made it to my 'Gold Membership' reviews. Sorry I missed it - you know that I always look forward to hearing from you! |
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| Reviewed by Joyce Hale |
2/7/2004 |
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| Karen, I cannot add anything to the advice as it has all been said here already, very well and time and again; so I will just keep you in my prayers. Hugs. |
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| Reviewed by Janet Caldwell (author) |
1/24/2004 |
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Hi Sweet-Pea, you've got a lot of good advice here, I just want to say that I love you and there is alot of love, right here on the board. I can be a Royal Bit**!! If you need me, e-me and I'll call you and we'll see what we can do about the coward that is making you miserable.
Love, Janet xoxoxo |
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| Reviewed by Marilyn Seray |
1/23/2004 |
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Oh (((Karen)))
what an ordeal. write a letter, and mail it (registered) to the CEO cc: President, supervisor. Like Ed said, EEOC, stay on their asses, call AND write whoever you can think of. If possible find the address on the web for the parent co. Once it's documented, you will receive action. the CEO or head hancho doesn't wan a law suit, or unfavorable publicity.
I am so sorry Karen that you have to go through this. C'mon girl... Keep those legs kickin', and those arms movin', don't let them wash you out to sea.
Love,
Marilyn
check your message OK? |
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| Reviewed by joanne buchanan (Reader) |
1/22/2004 |
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Hi sweetie,
I agree with Lisa about a trip to the doctor is very suggested..I am very worried sweetie..Tonight I will pray for you..Please see a doctor for a check up and tell him of the depression..
I love you,
Dove |
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| Reviewed by . ShyPoet1 |
1/22/2004 |
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Hello there:
I've been there with a lot of bullies!
I know your pain.
If you let it go on, it will definitely get worst! definitely!
Draw a line in the sand - Look that SOB straight in the eyes and tell him point blank, you don't want him. All bullies hate the light of day, let him know you'll report him to the supervisor. If the supervisor is an asshole, go to the suopervisors boss. Suggest, dipomatically, that this situation is best handled quietly. No company wants rumors of sexual harassment circulating, especially these days. Tell the supervisor you really want to keep your job and don't want to make trouble for the company. That shows you are a team player. If this doesn't work, quietly approach a woman, with some status in the company, and ask for her help and advice. Chances are she can stop this in its tracks.
I'm 250, I've grown from 145 in the last 2 1/2 years, I tell those who would have my soul, point blank, I'll hurt them so bad they want want to get up in the morn. I mean it too and - NOT a single one has come back for more! God Bless!
-- The things people of peace must do to have serenity!
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| Reviewed by Trixie Love |
1/22/2004 |
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Hello Karen,
I am so sorry that you
are going through this.
Sexual harassment is a
crime...
He had no right, morally
and legally to treat
you in this mannor...
Body languish speaks
out loud.
He probably senses your
fear, and feeds off
of it.
Karen, There is nothing
to fear, but fear it self...
You don't have to speak spanish to get your point
across.
Show no fear, watch him
back off.
If that does not work,
REPORT HIM...
God bless you Karen...
Love & Hugs
Trixie :) |
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| Reviewed by Floria Kelderhouse (Reader) |
1/21/2004 |
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| Dear Karen....In any language...NO means NO...anyone can understand NO...just scream it out NO...and if you do not get any help I am wondering if the police would help just by talking to this lurch....I am so sorry you are having all these problems..I wish I had an easy answer..Me....I would just quit...but I know you need your job...what a low life....as far as them not speaking english...well when you speak to your english friends they do not understand that either right? so there...tit for tat....gosh darn...I wish I had some great answers for you....like right now...prayer always helps..if nothing else it will give you the strength to see this through...blessings to you...floria |
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| Reviewed by Ed Lupinacci (Reader) |
1/21/2004 |
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Just say these kind words to him and then report him
Si usted fuera un hombre verdadero me ofenderían pero usted no es
nada a menos que un bolso grande del comentario siguiente del ego
falso que usted hace sea divulgado usted entienda
"If you were a real man I would be offended but you are nothing except a big bag of false ego
Next comment you make will be reported
Do you understand" |
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| Reviewed by Ronald Hull |
1/20/2004 |
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| Karen, there are crisis intervention centers for women in every city. Ask for a phone number from your church or call Fort Worth City and ask for a contact. For help with keeping or changing your job call the Texas Rehabilitation Commission (TRC-in Fort Worth) (Soon to be called DARS (Dept of Assistive Services)). They have helped me several times. You can locate them in the Net. Good luck and get from under this as soon as you can. Love, Ron |
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| Reviewed by Retta (Reindeer) Mckenzie |
1/20/2004 |
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Dear Karen, I am so sorry you have to go through this, there is much excellent advice here, the top one being REPORT HIM! You don't have to put up with this, let the supervisior know that you are starting with him and will not stop until this situation is dealt with, life is hard enough without you having to be subjected to this! I like Sandie's advice also, hand him the translation! Let him see that you will not take it anymore, I am praying for you,
Reindeer |
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| Reviewed by OnepoetGem * |
1/20/2004 |
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| Karen, I don't mean any harm when I say this, but if you can put rhyming words together this good, you'll keep on swimming and figure something out. In the meantime, DON'T PANIC, YOU'LL DROWN, KEEP YOUR HEAD! love and luck G |
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| Reviewed by Jennifer Ragan (Reader) |
1/20/2004 |
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Karen,
May you find comfort in knowing that so many people do care.
Jennifer Ragan |
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| Reviewed by A PAX |
1/20/2004 |
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oh my goodness.......have you tried church???
I feel so bad for you.....I had a similar problem yrs ago...now get this...lol...its laughable now, but at the time I was UPSET!!!I used to work in Taiwanese imports. Our business closed down,and I went to work for a guy from the co. who started up his own branch..there were not many of us. I am hispanic, there was this guy in the warehouse who was from Cuba, remember when Castro let all the lunatics out of the hospitals etc. Well a bunch of them settled around here! So this guy, who was in prision for trying to kill a local cop, and was a drug addict who became a christian, gets a crush on me. One minute he is praying for me and saying god bless you, the next he is shaking his groin at me!! I was sooooooo scared of him. He made up all types of stories about me, as though we were great friends, told people i was some different nationality?? no idea why!!! drew pictures of me, and was constantly asking me how much i weighed...my office coworkers used to say to me that he was going to cut me up into little pieces and mail me to Castro! lol...so i asked the warehouse foreman who was a friend from my old co. who was also from taiwan to talk to him....so can you imagine this poor guy who wants to be my knight in shining armor talking to a lunatic who is screaming about jesus and making lewd gestures at me.....while he has a language problem himself??
it was a nightmare!!
end of story........I left! lol
please smile a bit....you are bright,and warm and intelligent, with a fantastic heart....thing will turn around, nothing is engraved in stone, and if you learn a few phrases to embaress the jerk, maybe he will back off...see, in spanish culture is a borderline crude/compliment thing with some guys, they just don't get it...they might think they are giving you a compliment, but they are scarey!
oh i ramble....
hey
hugs!!!
A |
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| Reviewed by Sarah Tagert |
1/19/2004 |
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Sounds like you and I are in somewhat of the same boat,
Please know I am here for you in any way I can be. You are in my thoughts and prayers, let me know what I can do |
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| Reviewed by Simon Thurlow (Reader) |
1/19/2004 |
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Language is becoming a big problem in multi-cultural societies like the USA. From my understanding, Spanish is fast catching up with English as the most common language spoken in the Southern US States (I had a great deal of difficulty finding many people with any command of the English language in Miami Airport last Summer). It is due to many cultures settling in such countries as the USA and determined to protect their culture at all costs. However, I still think it wrong to go to an English speaking country like the USA without any basic knowledge of English as it makes a mockery of the indigenous culture already there.
That said, nobody should have to tolerate harrassment of any kind in the workplace and if your company has any morals then it will have a policy stating as such. Even if this harasser cannot speak English, then you have a right to expect your HR department to be able to communicate with the guy and tell him that he is out of order and facing a possible dismission (or even lawsuit) for sexual harassment. If he was doing it outside of work then you would be within your rights to ask the police to intervene. That right will also extends to your workplace if your HR department will not help you and could even make your HR dept liable for prosecution !! |
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| Reviewed by Jill Eisnaugle |
1/19/2004 |
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Karen, I just now found your post, sorry for taking so long to get back on this. I can pretty much echo what everyone else has said. Harassment should not be tolerated by anyone and can be stopped, but you need to tell your boss and if you cannot get satisfaction there, report him to the police, if he takes it too far. I have had to do that sort of thing before and though, it seems embarassing, it might just be needed. As far as your mood goes, whether it is depression or loneliness, I am not one to say. If you feel that you cannot cope with things anymore, BY ALL MEANS, go to your doctor and at the least, talk to your doctor about the things going on in your life. They might prescribe medication for depression, if they feel you are depressed, but it might just be that you need someone to vent upon. I'm always here if you need me!
Hugs, thoughts and prayers, sent your way, always.
Love,
Jill |
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| Reviewed by La Belle Rouge (Reader) |
1/19/2004 |
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| Karen I'm so sorry. People are just people, in spite of race. Everyone wants much the same things in life, some just don't know how to properly pursue those things. I'm sure you will handle it as a true lady and perhaps end up with a treasured friend. Life can be so overwhelming at times. You are stronger than you feel. |
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| Reviewed by Sandie Angel |
1/17/2004 |
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Sexual harrassment is a crime in the workplace. You should report him to management if he doesn't stop bothering you.
Write the following down on a piece of paper and hand it over to him. It says, "Leave me alone! or I'll report you to management!"
I went to www.freetranslation.com to translate it in Spanish for you, it turned out like the following:
¡Sálgame sólo! o yo lo informaré a la administración!
Just copy the above onto a piece of paper and give to him. Hope he will get the message.
Sandie Angel a.k.a. May Lu :o)
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| Reviewed by Regis Auffray |
1/17/2004 |
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| I think that you have already received enough advice and I don't know that I could add anything worthwhile. I wish you love, peace and strength, Karen. Ton ami de la C-B, Canada, Régis. |
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| Reviewed by Ed Matlack |
1/17/2004 |
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| Karen, Spanish men, specifically mexicans have this code, this macho code, if all else fails, kick him in the balls next time he makes an approach and make sure others of his nationality see you do it, it will make him "lose face" so to speak with his "compadres" (sp?). Also, prior to this, the reporting thing for sexual harrasement is THE WAY to go...even the shear depression in this write, shows thru it all, that you are so strong in life...I envy you, your strength...Find Peace, Ed & Rufuz (rufuz wants to come and bite his balls off for you, hard to restrain him) |
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| Reviewed by Poetry Deborah |
1/17/2004 |
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| Hi Karen, I do know that "Stop" in Spanish is Alto! Perhaps you could quietly but very firmly (with the next inappropriate action) look him directly in the eye and say "ALTO, pour favor." Ask God for his guidance and his strength to get through this. I have been in similar situations...the Lord's strength is my fortress. Chin up - when you keep your chin up Karen, then you cannot see the shadows. I could very much relate to this piece - it moved me, I've been there. (((Hugs 'n' Stuff))) Deborah |
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| Reviewed by jude forese |
1/17/2004 |
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| Dan has excellent advise ... |
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| Reviewed by E T Waldron |
1/16/2004 |
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| I almost missed this! Karen,I'm sorry you have to go through this. somtimes we get so overwhelmed we can't face anything. That's the time to get alone with God and let it all pour out,then wait for Him to give you peace. You can do as Anna Marie said,never be afraid of your boss Karen, there are a lot of laws to back the help these days. You have a right to tell him what's going on. That shouldn't be your burden alone.My thoughts and prayers are with you... |
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| Reviewed by Lady Peg |
1/16/2004 |
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Three deep breaths relax smile for it always will stress us sweetie,
HUGS and Prayers
Peg |
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| Reviewed by Rebekah Rosie Lang |
1/16/2004 |
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Oh Karen! I am so sorry this is happening
to you! I shall be praying for you! This is
not right! Report the s.o.b. and then move on
with your life! You cannot let it get you down!
I speak from experience! Contact me later if
you want details.
Hang in there! |
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| Reviewed by - - - - - TRASK |
1/16/2004 |
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Simply Say: F--k Off You El Loco + You Can Punch Him In Mouth+ You Can File Police Report + You Can File Discrimination Report,i.e. Wannnnnnnnaaaaaaaaa Hear Some More Things Ya Cin Due Ta Him Too!
TRASK |
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| Reviewed by SilverCeltic Moon |
1/16/2004 |
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Karen,
As a former manager of a restaurant, report the creep. We have it drummed into our heads at every meeting about sexual harrassment...this is not something you should fear..and as far as jobs go...I know your age isn't a problem and the not having a car is something that is only a problem if it affects you getting to work. Go to your supervisor, explain your fears and worries...have the incidents written down. Sexual harrassment is not based upon whether you can understand his words..it is based upon your comprehension of his actions.
Let me know if I can help. I have been a customer of the Golden Corral and can ask around for you about the procedures if going to the supervisor doesn't work.
Love and Blessings to you, my friend.
;) Silver
PS: if that doesn't work...like others have said...we love you and I will fight them for you! ;) |
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| Reviewed by Dan Summerfield (Reader) |
1/16/2004 |
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Karen;
Tell your supervisor. If he, or she, does nothing contemplate filing with EEOC. They are a bitch to get action from, but if you do go that route I can walk you through the steps because I've been there. No one needs to take grief while on the job. The Supreme Court says so, Congress says so, and the EEOC, lazy as those bastards are, must enforce the law. Please let me know if this harassment continues.
Dan S. |
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| Reviewed by Robert Blackwell (Reader) |
1/16/2004 |
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| I have left you a private message. |
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| Reviewed by Karla Dorman, The StormSpinner |
1/16/2004 |
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(((karen)))
number one: don't give up.
number two: TELL THE BOSS--he speaks spanish, he needs to tell the person(s) in question that such behavior will NOT be tolerated and you shouldn't have to feel intimidated by him or those creeps.
number three: know you are loved by many here at the Den, but especially by me--i'll fight those creeps if i have to
(((HUGS))) and love,
karla.
i'm praying for you--i know you're really stressing over this :( keep writing |
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| Reviewed by Tinka Boukes |
1/16/2004 |
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You are in my thoughts and prayers Karen!!
Where there is darkness.......there has to be light somewhere!!
Just try and be strong okay!!
Love Tinka |
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| Reviewed by Michelle Kidwell Power In The Pen |
1/16/2004 |
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Karen:
I hate to hear that you are going through this, it must be hard I wish there was something I could do or say to make this easier for you...
God Bless
~Michelle~ |
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| Reviewed by George Carroll |
1/16/2004 |
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| All of the suggestions here in the den are excellent. The best way not to drown is to keep swimming. Don't lose hope. My prayers for you, are already in God's ears. Above all things keep praying |
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| Reviewed by Leland Waldrip |
1/16/2004 |
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Lots of good advice here, Karen. I think there are anti-harrassment rules that you could invoke for your protection.
Best wishes,
Leland |
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| Reviewed by john zimmerman |
1/16/2004 |
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karen,
ageism, unemployment, underemployment
not nice--i've been there
i'm sorry that that is happening to you--
Let me play the smart aleck for a moment
Learn Spanish! ;{d>
john+ |
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| Reviewed by Anna Marie Fritz |
1/16/2004 |
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Karen, all I can offer by way of advice, that hasn't already been
said is this:
Tell this guy...loudly...and with a stern face, while putting your palms up towards him:
"Vaya! Por Favor...vamonos!" Phonetic spelling:
(Vi-ah...pour fah vor...vah mah nos)
If that doesn't do it...go to the boss and complain. This is a viable
option nowadays, and you should not be worried about losing your job
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| Reviewed by Andy Turner (Reader) |
1/16/2004 |
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Yes as a shop steward and manager I had the same, don't sit and mope go see human resorces off record and explain, health is more important than wealth, maybe someones telling you theres a better place of work for you, in the mean time "just say, what the heck" God may just be telling you, ageism is now becoming experiance, and I neither have a car, your find a friend who will drive you, just watch it unfold, don't doubt, GO FOR IT, lifes two tracks side by side one good one bad, jump on to the good.
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| Reviewed by Mr. Ed |
1/16/2004 |
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Karen, really feel your pain and anxiety here. Find a sympathetic soul who speaks Spanish and English, and tell them your dilemma. Then ask them to help you reason with this clown. But I agree, if that doesn't work, report this person.
And life gets all of us down, from time to time. We just have to ride it out and hope for better days. What else can we do?
Hang in there! |
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| Reviewed by Kate Clifford |
1/16/2004 |
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| I care and you know your in my prayers. both Jim and Southern Horizons have given you excellent suggestions. Tell you co-worker your not into mixing business relationships with private relationships. If that doesn't cool him off simply tell him your not interested. If he continues, report him. |
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| Reviewed by Jim Dunlap |
1/16/2004 |
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| Unfortunately, modern society tends to isolate people. You need some friends -- and you won't find them by sitting home feeling sorry for yourself. Go out and look for people with similar interests. Join a writers' group, go to the library, find some organization in which you may have an interest and spend some time getting involved in that. If you don't do that, you will be in far worse shape soon. Nobody promised us a rose garden, but most of the time, we make our own problems. You could get involved in politics right now, since this is an election year, possibly the most important one in all of American history. You could find a hobby, there are lots of those. Go to the zoo, the Art Center, look for something to occupy your time. Be happy when things go right and quit dwelling on it when they don't. Read Desiderata. |
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| Reviewed by Lisa Hilbers |
1/16/2004 |
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| Karen, many go through this. It's not uncommon for one to sink into depression. Maybe a trip to your physician? Our moods seem to make things so much darker than they really are. You have me in tears..so I'll pray even harder that you find peace of mind. Lisa |
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