Recent Reviews for Marcia B. Roberts
Feelings... (Article) - 4/5/2012 8:29:40 AM|
Thanks, Laura for your friendship!! I wrote this today for a fellow survivor who was sharing that she has difficulty sharing her story but really, I wrote it for all of us who have or are in that "spot". Passing it on to you and everyone else out there:
You are brave!! Always remember how brave and strong you are. On the days I want to quit and stop telling my story because it hurts too much, I remember how it felt to be so alone and with no one wanting to hear, believe, or help. Then, I take a deep breath and I SHOUT my story at the top of my lungs. And I make enemies, and sometimes I make friends but mostly, I am so loud that others find me and we, are stronger, because we are not alone!! You hang-in there and never give up. Be patient with yourself. When the words spill out, let them. When the tears spill out, let them. Trust your very excellent instincts and if you or anyone you know need something, let me know!! <3
Dynamics of an Abuser's New Relationship (Article) - 2/17/2012 7:30:08 PM
Signs that your abuser is NOT changing:
•He minimizes the abuse or denies how serious it really was.
•He continues to blame others for his behaviour.
•He claims that you’re the one who is abusive.
•He pressures you to go to couple’s counselling.
•He tells you that you owe him another chance.
•You have to push him to stay in treatment.
•He says that he can’t change unless you stay with him and support him.
•He tries to get sympathy from you, your children, or your family and friends.
•He expects something from you in exchange for getting help.
•He pressures you to make decisions about the relationship.
Just found this. This was how I knew he wasn't changing and how I know he still hasn't changed. My abuser still displays many of these attitudes, even almost three years after I have left.
The Tools of an Abuser (Article) - 11/29/2010 9:54:09 AM
This is so sad, Marcia. I do hope many are reading your articles dealing with this subject as I am certain they could fine solace and encouragement through the experience that you share so honestly. Love and best wishes,
Things to watch for. (Article) - 11/24/2010 9:44:42 AM
Thank you Regis and Laura! Your friendships and support are sooo appreiated! Best wishes for the holiday! <3
Things to watch for. (Article) - 11/23/2010 12:03:35 PM
I am sure many can find much to learn from your experiences and sharing, Marcia. Thank you. Love and best wishes,
Things to watch for. (Article) - 11/23/2010 10:01:20 AM
Bravo my dear friend!
Feminism (Article) - 11/22/2010 12:45:36 PM
Truly a thought-inciting article, Marcia. It makes total sense to me. Love and best wishes to you,
Back to Center (Article) - 11/21/2010 8:25:53 PM
You offer fine advice and counsel born of experience in this article, Marcia. I am sure that many will find your words most helpful and encouraging. Thank you for sharing. Love and best wishes,
Back to Center (Article) - 11/9/2010 12:35:07 PM
How right you are keep up the good work!
ghostgirl (Article) - 11/3/2010 6:33:07 AM
You go GIRL! Like the song by Helen Reddy from the 70's -I am woman hear me ROAR!
Feelings... (Article) - 10/19/2010 7:44:18 PM
You must be remain STRONG and never give up ,read some of my Articles as I overcome the wicked storm with God given strength for my kids mainly! Amazing article and touches my heart deeply.
Do you know Who you are? (Poetry) - 10/19/2012 6:03:35 AM
I now work as a consultant in situations like this. Let me start by saying that I have many police officers and social workers that ask me how they can help. Part of it is a lack of education in the area of domestic violence and abuse. Sometimes I also think there is fear involved on the part of authorities. Often, outside of the home, abusers are charismatic, well-liked, powerful, wealthy, and influential. What police and Judges wait for and are eager for is for evidence that is undeniable. There must be a crime committed and proof that a defense attorney cannot overturn to get a conviction. Without those things, even the most well-meaning officials cannot do anything. That being said, abusers are clever. One of the best things to do but it takes time and diligence and makes lots of enemies is to create a paper trail, a folder of "minor" allegations that have been substantiated by professionals that can then act as evidence. Even with that, success is limited. One of the best things that can further justice in these areas is education. The best book I have ever read on the topic is "Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men" by Lundy Bancroft. He also has a website with contact information. If we could get every official to read this book, I believe things might change. However, barring that, all that one can do is hope that the abuser commits a crime other than abuse for which he can be arrested. This can be tough but I believe it is only a matter of watching and waiting. The criminal profile of an abuser is similar to that of a serial killer. He views women and children as objects just a serial killer and therefore believes that he can do whatever he wants to them. He is manipulative and enjoys "the game" with the system. He lies chronically and appears to have no conscience about what he does also like a serial killer. He maintains outside appearances, covers his tracks well, and works hard to make sure he is well-liked and very functional in society so that no one would ever believe such a thing of him. Part of what I do as a consultant is watch and wait. Serial killers are caught when they cross legal lines and make mistakes, eventually they do something that police can arrest them for. Like Al Capone who went to prison for tax evasion, the only way to help the legal system to help victims seems to be that gather the sort of evidence that a Judge will not be able to turn a blind eye to! Best of luck and feel free to contact me for more ideas!
Do you know Who you are? (Poetry) - 11/28/2010 4:08:36 PM
I appreciate the fight you are taking against abusive relationships and bringing it to the reader. Very well done.
Path. (Poetry) - 11/25/2010 2:34:20 PM
Beautiful, Marcia. To have compassion for the one who took your place is evidence of your generous, loving heart. This is quite an amazing poem; the last verse caps it so well.
Here. (Poetry) - 11/25/2010 2:31:43 PM
Enjoy your pajamas--they stand for your safety and happiness. Well done!
We Never Wore Pajamas. (Poetry) - 11/25/2010 2:30:16 PM
Heartbreaking. You again reveal so much in a handful of verses. Well done.
Do you know Who you are? (Poetry) - 11/25/2010 2:28:23 PM
A life-story in a few short lines. This is passionate and powerful. As a volunteer at a Pregnancy Care Center, I appreciate writing that gives me more understanding. Thank you for sharing.
Do you know Who you are? (Poetry) - 11/24/2010 7:56:28 PM
How true this is, been there and done that a long time ago...
Be always safe,
Do you know Who you are? (Poetry) - 11/24/2010 3:18:55 PM
Heck, I've been to court over 40 times and nothing is worse than her lying and the judge believing her diatribe of lies.
The pathological liar just stands there looking in-control, faking it, because they are unable to feel.
Yet the decent person feels for their child, the angst and pain is misinterpreted by the judge.
The assailant stands there knowing how to hurt you and con the judge.
Do you know Who you are? (Poetry) - 11/24/2010 12:49:39 PM
I cannot imagine the traumatic experience that such a situation would be to go through; although I hear and see evidence of it all of the time. I can only empathize, Marcia. Thank you for sharing and love, peace, and best wishes to you,
Fairy Tale. (Poetry) - 11/11/2010 9:09:26 PM
Your compassion shines via your verses here, Marcia. Love, peace, and best wishes,
Here. (Poetry) - 11/9/2010 11:39:49 AM
Sweetly shared, warm with gratefulness that the reader (me) can feel emanating from your verses, Marcia. Love and best wishes,
We Never Wore Pajamas. (Poetry) - 11/9/2010 11:38:14 AM
Truly a soul-tearing sharing, Marcia. It is sad that your verses express a timeless and universal theme in this world/life as I have stated many times before. I admire and respect your honest sharing of your "self." Love, peace, healing, and best wishes to you,
We Never Wore Pajamas. (Poetry) - 11/9/2010 7:39:00 AM
Wow you are truly writing from the heart and do keep them coming as how true your words are and helpful to others indeed and in need!
Faces. (Poetry) - 11/8/2010 12:32:06 PM
Harsh, real, honest, and sad; but your verses do express a universal and timeless theme of this life/world, Marcia. Thank you for sharing. Love, healing, and best wishes to you,
Faces. (Poetry) - 11/8/2010 11:17:47 AM
Wow! What powerful writing! Very full of emotion and conveyed well through the writer to the reader. Very nice Marcia.
Fairy Tale. (Poetry) - 11/8/2010 11:01:44 AM
I am speechless this was true and touching. Yet very deep and heartfelt! Well done friend.
Faces. (Poetry) - 11/8/2010 10:58:17 AM
Well done, bravo friend and keep them coming as you are on a deep roll and awesome work indeed!
Only But For You. (Poetry) - 11/6/2010 10:03:04 AM
A wonderfully fine, loving, and respectful tribute of thankfulness, Marcia. Very well-expressed. Love and best wishes to you,
Only But For You. (Poetry) - 11/6/2010 6:38:22 AM
A wonderful expression of feelings. Your Bill must be one special man.
Only But For You. (Poetry) - 11/6/2010 4:01:42 AM
Wow now that's a poem well done girlfriend and thumbs up as I am speechless. See how writing from your heart it comes out and perfectly done! Awesome job!
Battlecry! (Poetry) - 11/4/2010 8:52:20 AM
A powerful and assertive and expressive write that stands as a testimonial to a mother's (your) love for your children. Thank you for sharing, Marcia. Love and best wishes to you,
Battlecry! (Poetry) - 11/3/2010 8:33:31 AM
It is good that you got out of that abusive relationship once it extended its ugly tentacles around your children. You shall make a good voice towards abuse so others may gather that strength. Good write.
Battlecry! (Poetry) - 11/3/2010 6:12:13 AM
Very good write my dear friend and sad to say, Yes they do threat and become very anger when you stand strong instead of weak .Since that is what they want power to hold and control you. I have been there took 14 years to finally walk away .You can do this as a mother will fight the DEVIL himself for her BABY'S!However, a tough road you may face but worth it in the end as good does overcome evil.Plus friend be safe always!