Recent Reviews for Lawrence P Adams
Lost Son?...A Bastard Child's Journey of Hope, Search, Discovery and Healing (Book) - 10/30/2003 5:32:48 PM|
I know what you have been through, because I traveled the other side of the road. I gave up two baby boys and so many nights and days I would wake up in cold sweats worrying about what had happened to my babies. If your journey was anything like mine, I am sure that the read is very worthwhile. I wrote "Notes from Nobody" a scant year after I reunited with both of my boys in 1998. It was published by PublishAmerica (AmErica House) in Aug 2001. I always worried about whether or not either of them or both of them were adopted or still forever sat in foster homes or, god fobid, an orphanage. When a birthmother gives up those precious little lives, she has no way of knowing what the fates will be. It is unfortunate in many respects, as most mothers would go back and get their children if they had any knowledge that the baby was not adopted.
WOrried, wondered, hoped and cried myself to sleep many years worth of nights over the giving up of my babies, but there was nothing I could have done at the time to change what was for me, inveitable. I am sure that over the years of long nights wondering about where and why and what happened with your birthmother, you came upon some of the same image soultions that I pictured in my minds eye.
Please contact me, as I think that we have much valuable information to share.
"Notes from Nobody", published by PA Aug 2001
Lost Son?...A Bastard Child's Journey of Hope, Search, Discovery and Healing (Book) - 10/27/2003 4:04:19 PM
Congratulations on your new book. I'm writing it down as one of my to buy books. Has your book been published yet? I looked at your copyright date. It's only a month before my second book's copyright date and it has not been published yet.
You might like to check out the free preview of "Trust In Me". It starts out with a boy who was kept by his mother and stepfather. His biological father raped his mother right before she met his stepfather. It's fiction, with a historical background. Also, check out the short story "That's Why I Love You". I think they might interest you.
A Final Letter to A Mother (Short Story) - 9/15/2004 11:32:19 AM
Why is it some of us seem to gather more than our share of pain? Very nice writing, Larry. I'm a PA author also, but can't get on the message board there yet. I wish you all the success in the world.
Stacy R. Butler
A Final Letter to A Mother (Short Story) - 8/21/2004 1:41:36 PM
I am so sorry for the pain you've experienced and the loss you have suffered - and continue to suffer. Your letter is filled not only with pain, but also, with so much warmth and compassion. I'll pray for your mother's soul, but most of all, I pray that you find peace within.
A Child's Horror (Short Story) - 5/17/2004 5:22:10 AM
I know you didn't write this, Lawrence, for us to read and feel "sorry" for you--it needed to be written for other reasons. We are all part of the society--it's not a pretty one--and we make the system much more complicated than it need be. A "people system"--people, not caring, understanding, or loving, just people. Thanks for sharing--maybe others will open up to share as well. It's a beginning, for we do need to hear and read. b
A Child's Horror (Short Story) - 5/16/2004 9:12:49 AM
It is as if a knife has been thrust inside of me and twisted and dragged across and through my inner workings...this is a painful write, one that I am glad I did not go thru, although there maybe some of me saying I may have inflicted some of this type of harm as a past incarnation of myself, when I was younger and had no sense nor worry about others feelings, when I went with my desires, not with my compassion and intelligence...what a hurtful life you did have, Lawrence, I am sorry that you had to go thru all that, and am glad you came thru it...but what of the rest? What can be done? Like fighting city hall, but I am sure anyone who reads this will try, albeit to a small degree...Peace thru Knowledge, Ed & Rufuz (w00f)
A Child's Horror (Short Story) - 5/15/2004 2:47:53 AM
This story is cool, strong write. Needed to be done. It is a wake up call because the Social Services system in the States is a flawed one. Especially when they take the child from the parents -- without even giving them a chance to be parents. It caused me to fall apart at the seams; which is the reason I am writing even harder so my son can find me.
A Child's Horror (Short Story) - 5/14/2004 10:40:13 AM
This is a wonderful story of survival but it is so sad that the systems that are in place to help and protect our children are in fact doing the opposite. Yes our Foster care, Social Service policies need heavy reviewing and changes. We can all sit back and wish for a change, but it will take story's like this to help wake up the policy makers.
A Child's Horror (Short Story) - 5/12/2004 9:23:59 PM
A Final Letter to A Mother (Short Story) - 3/14/2004 3:49:14 AM
i am sad for your loss and for the lost hope of a good relationship with your mom,
sometimes it helps to know that most parents are doing/did the best they could under the circumstance and about the best we can hope for when we are the parent/mentor in the life of another is that we will do the best we can under the circumstance... and hope that the circumstance is not too full of stress for any of us.
A Final Letter to A Mother (Short Story) - 3/11/2004 8:34:08 AM
Larry, I can't explan why people can be so hateful. But as a mother of a son, I wouldn't care if he was green, purple, missing limbs, or from outyer space. He's my son, and I love him no matter what. And after what your mom did/said to you, you;d have every right to hate her, but within your letter is forgiveness, understanding, and compassion. If being kind is equated with being an outstanding human being, then I;d be proud to call you my son.
Excellent piece you've written. I hope it has been soul-cleansing.
Diary of an Unborn Son (Short Story) - 2/20/2004 11:48:50 AM
*tears* powerfully written--thank you
Diary of an Unborn Son (Short Story) - 2/14/2004 2:43:36 PM
This is excellent! There is a poem one my site,
The Soul of the Aborted, which might speak to you. Also I do not
know if you are aware of APPPAH - The Association for Pre and
Perinatal (In the Womb) Psychology and Health - Advocating for the
experience of infants as People while on their journey to be born.
The site is www.birthpsychology.com, among many others you can link to there. Vicky
Diary of an Unborn Son (Short Story) - 2/14/2004 2:07:47 PM
Diary of an Unborn Son (Short Story) - 2/12/2004 4:07:01 AM
What an emotional rollercoaster! Very, very moving.
Support of Open Adoption Records (Article) - 7/21/2007 7:40:52 PM
I, too, found my birth mother and have slowly developed a small relationship with her. What a relief it was to know where I came from. I enjoyed reading your article as I can totally relate. Thank you for sharing!
Foster Children Need Adoption (Article) - 11/12/2005 12:36:11 PM
Foster Children Need Adoption (Article) - 11/8/2005 9:16:20 AM
a much needed write; thanks!
(((HUGS))) and love, your friend in tx., karen lynn. :(
Foster Children Need Adoption (Article) - 11/7/2005 5:32:13 AM
Lawrence, thanks for bringing this article to our attention. I wish I could work with children again. However, I will take the message to my church and other groups. I'm 73 years old and live in a retirement community. I am feeling sad reading your article. Thanks for sharing. Love, Mother of the Universe.
An Open Letter to Foster Children (Article) - 11/4/2005 1:12:57 PM
Hi Lawrence, I'm glad I found your article. I found it quite interesting and, true. I was never a foster child but, I did a lot of work with children in group-homes and residential care. I was able to stand for the care of children and it was a positive experience. Thanks for sharing. I never lost one child. Thank God! Betty Torain
Mother...Do You Know? (Article) - 9/24/2005 4:24:41 AM
Mother...Do You Know? (Article) - 9/21/2005 7:44:28 AM
As a mother, I would never give my child to another. I've been fooled by a wayward fool into having a broken family, but I keep my son in contact with both me and his father. I know how important that is, to know one's parents who give us our true identity. Once you have lived your life in the care of others, they are mythical strangers, creations of rumor. But you can know yourself, your own heart and motives, and that is your origins.
A Time For Citizen Outrage! (Article) - 6/13/2004 9:18:29 AM
A Time For Citizen Outrage! (Article) - 6/9/2004 12:33:32 AM
"Elected officials need to be voted out of office and civil servants need to be fired when they fail in their duty."
Amen Brother to your words!
Give A Voice to the Voiceless and Forgotten (Article) - 5/8/2004 4:30:52 PM
you said 'child-centered policy posture'
What Foster Children Need (Article) - 5/8/2004 4:20:24 PM
as a teacher i saw many foster children living in many homes, some homes were great others were not, some kids were adopted, or in long term situations, most were not. i wonder if a type old time orphanage... not the huge institutions with hundreds of kids, but a house with 20 or so kids, and staff might not be better. kids would then come back to the same house each pm, have the same staff on hand, etc until they were adopted, or aged out.
best wishes to you, i am sad to read of your heart ache and lonliness
Give A Voice to the Voiceless and Forgotten (Article) - 5/4/2004 9:58:06 AM
not all foster care is negative; there are some people who shower their foster kids with much love and positiveness! but too many times you do hear of the negative! i can see where you are coming from!
good article, though!
love, your tx. friend, karen lynn. :(
Give A Voice to the Voiceless and Forgotten (Article) - 5/4/2004 3:26:33 AM
I'm sorry that your experience with foster care was so terrible, Lawrence. But, your article reads as though all foster homes are riddled with abusive foster parents that could care less about the children in their care. I personally know two women who have taken in foster children, throughout their entire lives and have nurtured and loved the children in their care and were deeply saddened when the time came for the children to leave their homes. They can attest to many other loving and caring homes that provide a safe harbor for children that have nowhere else to go. Sadly and unfortunately, they can also tell horror stories of exactly what you have written, told to them by children put in their care, after being taken out of another home. This is when they need to step up to the plate and let these children know that there are good people in the world and to give them back some kind of hope. My prayers are with you, Lawrence, that you can reach others who have gone through what you have and that they don't need to feel alone.
Dear Mom~ (Article) - 3/24/2004 1:43:07 PM
Your Dear Mom was a tearjerker for me. I have an adopted brother whom I love dearly. He is one of my best friends in addition to being my little brother. He helped me tremendously with my published book. I don't know if he has ever made a search for his real parents yet, but our mom has asked him to wait until she's gone before he does it. Anyway, your poem is very special. Congratulations. Penni Weston
An Open Letter to Foster Children (Article) - 2/25/2004 3:03:28 AM
Larry, what a touching letter! Several of my closest friends were either foster mothers or was a child of a mother who took in foster children. They would never have changed a thing! Susan loved being a foster sister and has had many, many foster sisters and brothers (whom she calls simply sister or brother) and Tammy has raised many children that have called her mom over the years. Tammy says it is one of the most fulfilling jobs she has ever had. Foster parenting can be successful and that there are just as many happy foster homes as there are horrible ones. It takes a special person to be willing to be a parent to other children outside your own and I've been fortunate to call these people my friends. Thank you for sharing your story, Larry.
Why Share My Story in a Book? (Article) - 2/23/2004 3:21:40 PM
No need to validate your writing, Lawrence, but since you did your reasons are outstanding and well worthy of writing down. Best wishes!
Why Share My Story in a Book? (Article) - 2/21/2004 1:31:15 AM
Great, I have not read it yet, but fully intend to!
Was Search Worth It? (Article) - 2/20/2004 10:26:50 PM
I felt your pain as I read your words, Lawrence. I also felt sad for you that your birth parents were unable to embrace you; yet, I am far more sad for them at having had missed a wonderful opportunity to share in the life of an (obviously) wonderful, strong man. I do understand how you have found strength through your journey.
Peace and Blessings,
Why Share My Story in a Book? (Article) - 2/20/2004 10:13:42 PM
I'm glad to have crossed paths with you, and I've been meaning to return to your Den to read more of your work. I have been part of the adoption triad, and you'll find two letters in my Den as well. I'm also working on two separate manuscripts (one about sexual abuse). I respect you for the work you do, and I look forward to returning here again to read more of your work.
Very best regards,
Dear Mom~ (Article) - 2/14/2004 2:05:24 PM
Dear Mom~ (Article) - 2/10/2004 11:03:22 PM
Beautiful, Lawrence, and so full of insight and wisdom for one so young. I was especially moved by this:
"Your decision has made my life today what it is. True, it would have
been different, but I cannot say it would have been either better or worse. I am a product now of what I have lived and experienced."
I am glad youand your mom got a chance to re-connect before her passing. I'm sure she was proud of her son. :) This letter must have been a gut-wrenching, soul-searching write for you. Well done.
An Adult Adoptee/Birth Parent Search Guide (Article) - 10/29/2003 5:24:59 PM
good informative article
Hear The Children's Anguished Cries! (Article) - 10/29/2003 8:16:49 AM
thank you Larry i think they need to hire you to run the foster care system you would certainly from what i know of you be a proponent for the children the only reason the system exists love you your friend kathie
Hear The Children's Anguished Cries! (Article) - 10/29/2003 7:16:51 AM
Amen, Lawrence! Can't wait to review your book. Should be a welcomed eye-opener.
How Many More Must Suffer? (Article) - 10/26/2003 7:30:29 AM
Maybe if they were forced to pay for
their failures they might concentrate more on
providing the best possible care in the very best
interest of the child placed within their care...it's
..alas it seems that money speaks louder than words...hmm..it has been so for too long!
This was a heart-wrenching write...thankyou for being so informtative..many people don't know the truth...perhaps that's why you had to experience it..to be that "voice in the wildeness"..bless you and thankyou for beingYOU!!
What's It Like?? (Poetry) - 8/1/2007 7:38:57 AM
This is excellent proof of the reason it is damaging to interfere in natural families.
Maybe (Poetry) - 3/5/2004 7:08:05 AM
How sad, and yes you do have the right to know. No one should keep this from you. If they can help they should.
What's It Like?? (Poetry) - 2/20/2004 10:44:18 PM
I can feel the emptiness and pain in this.
I Was The Child Left Behind! (Poetry) - 2/20/2004 10:41:07 PM
I can only imagine the pain in your heart.
Do You Wonder? (Poetry) - 2/20/2004 10:38:18 PM
I've been wondering for years. Thanks for this.
Maybe (Poetry) - 2/20/2004 10:34:03 PM
A poignant write, and a slice of reality. So much said here. Thank you.
Maybe (Poetry) - 2/20/2004 7:42:03 AM
Keep going forward and turn that "Maybe" into reality. I wish you luck and hope that you find what you are searching for.
Maybe (Poetry) - 2/20/2004 4:27:37 AM
There is always a bond to your birth mother, no matter how happiness and love was presented to you by your adopted family who are as equal importance to you as your birth mother.
Your birth mother had every reason to believe that she was sacrificing for your own good no matter what the circumstance triggered it.
Good luck with your search! Hope something wonderful will come out of it for you all.
~ May Lu a.k.a. Sandie Angel ~
Maybe (Poetry) - 2/20/2004 2:17:42 AM
Good luck in your search.
I Was The Child Left Behind! (Poetry) - 2/14/2004 2:09:08 PM
I Was The Child Left Behind! (Poetry) - 2/13/2004 7:14:27 PM
A life of loneliness, sad but so true in many cases.
I Was The Child Left Behind! (Poetry) - 2/12/2004 12:31:44 AM
Very touching -as seen by the eyes of the young.
I Was The Child Left Behind! (Poetry) - 2/11/2004 4:34:39 PM
Hugs to you, but there is so much more in life, being here on authors den you'll soon feel like this is family, take care, your words were so sad but beautiful too, Val
I Was The Child Left Behind! (Poetry) - 2/11/2004 2:20:36 AM
So sad. Nice write.
What's It Like?? (Poetry) - 2/7/2004 8:21:06 PM
Read my poem, Oedipus Wrecks, and keep in mind that not all life stories of children growing up with their birth parents turn out so fortunate either. There's always two sides to everything. Interesting monologue anyway.
What's It Like?? (Poetry) - 1/29/2004 6:06:04 PM
I know what it is like to have those questions answered and feeling fortuneate to have had that life I adopted a foster child along with giving birth to other children, too.
I am sorry you never had what you always wanted.
All I know is that I gave all of the above to my adopted former foster child daughter and as soon as she could she left for her birth roots who were deemed inapropriate by the state to raise her...and that 's why a foster family and then our family did raise her.
I believe she can answer those questions. But alas she has chosen what she didn't have but must have always wanted.
I am sorry, Larry...may you find the peace and security you seek inside yourself...it really was there all along...peace and love...
perhaps giving another child a home may help you heal the deep wounds...I hope so...life is a beautiful thing...sometimes doens't seem fair...sometimes it just isn't...