Recent Reviews for Andrea L Conley
It's 10:00 p.m. Do you know WHO's your Baby's Daddy? (Article) - 2/3/2010 6:46:51 AM|
Not Your Average 'Joe' (Article) - 5/27/2009 6:35:19 AM
I'm a Saxman (Soprano) and I too know the Stop Six neighborhood very well. I lived on Vel Drive and Taneyhill Drive growing up. I knew a girl named Andrea Conley back in the day but I never got a four page letter from her. Anyway, I enjoyed the "Joe" story and now I'll hunt down the song and check it out. BTW, How's Jason and Adam and Brittney doing ?
A Different Kind of 'Prayer Meeting' (Article) - 12/26/2007 8:46:29 AM
Going Home Empty -handed (Article) - 3/14/2007 4:40:02 AM
Bravo! This one hits home. Also add: AMEN! Your use of scripture makes the point a divine one and reminds me of Nordette's poem, "Come to Me."
I think the silly bitches always ruin the fine ones. I also think they deserve each other. No, my panties ain't gonna fly off because you are fine. I talk about one of these types in my blog. Yes, I would love to have someone in my life. I'm in the Caribbean this week, and although it is not a pleasure trip, having a companion would have made it so.
Going Home Empty -handed (Article) - 3/4/2007 11:40:36 AM
Good introspective article. Waiting is more wise than people realize. Nice use of Gerald LeVert. I get all kinds of questions about him through my blog stats, which is why I posted "Answers to Questions About Gerald LeVert". You may enjoy the link there to an Essence magazine article. In it Gerald talked about the clubbing and getting tired of chasing skirts. Sounds like he wanted to settle down. I suspect it gets complicated to settle down, however, when you're on the road a lot, earning a decent amount of money, and already have three children. He did not even marry their mother(s).
"Dying alone is better than living a lie." Yeah, settling sucks. It's not fair to either party. If your partner's crazy about you and doesn't believe he settled, it still sucks for him even though he doesn't realize it. ;-) He'd be better off with someone who's as crazy about him as he is about you. And if you can't find someone with whom to share equivlalent passion and respect, then living a single life to its fullest is probably the better road.
Fools for Love (Article) - 3/4/2007 11:26:29 AM
You make many good points here, Andrea. I like the anecdotal information. I tend to go with the philosophy expressed in the book He's Just Not That Into You, which is the same as the title. I think even when a woman is needy or has other issues, if a man is into her, he'll leap over buildings trying to commit. It's probably a body chemistry thing.
I don't actually believe most men want a strong woman, however. I think they want a woman who can do her thing without them, but who will become submissive and docile when they want her to kowtow. Men like women on men's terms. It takes a strong man to let a woman be strong, have her own opinions even when those opinions disagree with his, possibly earn more money and be actually smarter too. Studies bear this out. Men tend to marry women that they feel are not as bright and successful as they are themselves. So, all these lines about "she was so needy" don't ring true. If she were needy and looked like Halle Berry or some other type of woman that aroused his physical interest, then some concessions would probably be made for her neediness.
That being said, in a true relationship between equally mature parties, both people compromise. If you're not willing to compromise and lose part of yourself (this goes for both male and female), then you're not ready for a true relationship. As for your friend Georgia, she wasn't paying attention, and it does sound like she has some self-esteem issues. On some level she thinks it takes a man to make her whole, or at least she thought that man was the one who would do it. Whenever we think it takes another person to complete us, we're headed for trouble.
I've learned from my own experience and from observing my friends that when it comes to statements like "I don't want to commit," if a man tells you what he is, believe him. ;-) Good advice for anyone, in my opinion, is avoid men who just came out of a long-term relationship or marriage. Be suspicious of the ones who want to hop right back into a relationship because they probably also have neediness issues. Get back to them when they've healed up and know what the hell they want themselves. Don't be desperate and grab at anything male.
And when we are too needy, and we know this about ourselves, we should wonder if the man is really attracted to us or actually attracted to damsels in distress. If he suffers from damsel-in-distress syndrome, then soon enough another damsel in distress will come along, most likely when you've gotten your act together, and off he'll go to that one. It takes discernment to know why some people seek us out, but often its our own desires that blind us.
And about the high-school sweetheart. That's probably the one he was really into all along. He was looking in his rear view mirror, hoping to go back in time.
As you can see, I enjoyed reading this topic. You give some good advice, but I'm older and have seen more nonsense. LOL.
PS: You might get kick out of this article by Iva Lawson.
Left in the Desert (Article) - 12/18/2006 10:55:43 AM
It does seem odd that a metropolitan area as large as Dallas-Fort Worth could not sustain a smooth jazz station. Sometimes that's the only thing I feel like listening to. Good story, well-told, Andrea. ~~Nordette