Shadow Wisdom Teachers
If you are committed to your spiritual journey, sooner or later you will encounter at least one shadow wisdom teacher. Your designated shadow wisdom teacher will challenge every cherished belief, both spiritual and mundane, as well as your integrity, your self-esteem and your patience.
In my experience, shadow wisdom teachers are masters of impression management. Since intuition is one of their many resources, they are masters of reading your energy. Remember that energy is information. Once they attune to your vulnerabilities and your strengths, they work skillfully to become your ideal friend, lover, advisor, or colleague. For example, if you value sensitivity, your designated shadow wisdom teacher will ooze sensitivity. If you value adventure, he/she will enthrall you with tales of intrigue and invite you to co-create a life of mystery and allure.. If you value, knowledge, he/she will impress you with cognitive mastery. If commitment is a cherished value, expect your shadow wisdom teacher to overwhelm you with his/her dedication and readiness for enjoying a committed relationship with you. They may also promise protection, advancement, or special powers, all the while feeding on your energy and light.
A shadow wisdom teacher will promise you the world . Depending on your vulnerability, he/she may sweep you away with offers of protection, security, love, power, fame, financial abundance, or travel. However, beware because a huge chasm exists between promises and reality. They excel as master manipulators who thrive on dominance and control while they publicly profess their generosity, love and even awe of you. Look beyond the words to the behavior. Be aware of your vulnerability and your unfinished business. Why? Because your chosen teacher is an expert at reading your energy and uncovering your deepest longings. Psyching out your deepest needs and desires is easy for an energy vampire. Remember you are engaging with a master manipulator. However, when you ask the essential question, “Are you in alignment with the light?” his cover is blown.
Why include “wisdom” in the title shadow wisdom teacher? Simply because this person teaches you what your soul values in reverse. In other words, you embace your inner wisdom through embracing your shadow self. For example, you might discover you value kindness as a result of experiencing its polarity, which may be cruelty. Or you may realize trust is one of your values by experiencing suspicion and distrust. If clarity is one of your values, you may experience feeling crazy thanks to your shadow wisdom teacher. If you value honesty, your shadow wisdom teacher will bring you in collision with the gulf between words and actions through dishonesty.
The first step in taking back your power is to reflect on how you attracted your designated teacher into your life. Be honest. Were you bored, lonely, scared, ready for an adventure, without direction or seduced by an offer of financial abundance? Did you enjoy the attention or the pursuit? Be aware you might have been motivated by multiple needs.
Discernment is seldom present during the seduction phase or even the take over phase. Important questions to ask yourself include include:
Are you growing in the relationship?
How does your deginated teacher treat you when you are alone?
How does your designated teacher treat others?
Does your designated teacher encourage your friendships with others?
Does your designated teacher honor your knowledge, values and your light?
Does your designated teacher support you in pursuing your individual passions?
Firing your shadow wisdom teacher can be a fierce struggle. Some describe the encounter as a life or death duel. Remember your designated teacher is an energy vampire and it is unlikely that he/she will cooperate with your desire to end the free banquet. Yet your commitment to end the toxic relationship is a desire to be free in your own energy and to realign with your soul purpose.
First, take responsibility for allowing or inviting your teacher into your life.
Next extend forgiveness to yourself and your teacher. Why? Resentment and judgment dim your light and decrease your ability to love yourself and others.
Now it is time to create a release ritual. Why? A ritual creates a boundary between who you were and who you are coming to be. Freedom and sovreignty are essential values to reclaim as you release your shadow wisdom teacher from your consciousness and your life. Take a look at my example of my rease ritual.
I walked to the beach. It was almost high tide and the waves crashed to shore.
Nobody was around. I selected a large stone and imagined pouring all the energy draining incidents that I associated with my shadow wisdom teacher into the stone. When I felt finished with my story, I said out loud: I, Rosalie Deer Heart, from the Essence of my Being, release you to the schools of wisdom where you may grow within the light. I hereby dissolve and disintegrate all my links and cords with you from the past, present, and the future.
I thank you for teaching me the consequences of not listening to myself, not loving myself, and for teaching me in reverse how much I value kindness, peace, love, creativity, and community. i command you to leave. Now.
Then I inhaled in a big breath and breathed out from the bottom of my belly, expelling a not- very-lady-like noise. I repeated the breathing exercise a few more times to be certain I was no longer energetically connected to this life sucker. When I was satisfied that I was free, I flung the stone into the ocean.
Since I had created a vacuum in my energy field by releasing my shadow wisdom teacher, I consciously breathed in qualities that I valued, filling my field with clarity, self-love, trust, self-honoring creativity, power and joy. Then I celebrated my freedom by dancing barefoot on the wet sand. My return to myself felt like a glorious homecoming and I gigled and yelled “Yes” to the universe and to my heart.