I have been taking care of my family since I was 15-16 and I am now 46 and I mean in everyway.
My mother became ill with Rheumatoid Arthritis and I let her direct me to pay all the bills. I also did all for her.
I had an older sister and have an older brother , but It’s basically me doing all by myself.
I bathed her and clothed her, then I would drive her wherever she had to go and many times places she wanted to go to .
I left home when my father’s gambling . ( spending the entire season at aqueduct race track, then he helped me .
For more than 25 years I have been doing it all.
Now, in fact for quite some time we were given the option of having a home health attendant and Her first name is Maria and I felt relief and some freedom for the first time in my life.
Maria was wonderful and what I consider to be an outstanding Home Health Attendant and after she was with my mother for a long time, the situation arose when her father needed her to take care of him in her country came others who were outstanding too.
But also came the new age ones.
It’s something I have thought through well before writing this.
My father’s death in 2001 really affected our family very badly.
My sister had mover into position and did the Aids job for my mother and so we didn’t need an Aid, then My sister died and my mother and I both together now with my brother all joined with
A few, but strongly bonded loved ones who were extremely faithful. Then the next phase of the my sister’s sudden death during her sleep , and us dealing with it ; was awful!
And my Mother, Brother and I all dealt with it as we could.
My brother found a wife and for a while I held his disappearance on him and judged him harshly , but there I was in shock burn out state and depressed in my loneliness and being along . I have always adored my mother beyond words, but I became like a porcupine with the quills , or needles up just waiting to attack and all I had was my mother. I became resentful at times and I didn’t have the mental strength to comfort her and I was battling other realities in a complex to the best of my ability and I was so sad and angry and I feel it was the worse trial of faith and as time passed I began stripping away the lies in my life and I was trying to fulfill
adequate needs in inadequate ways. That was when I found fern Simon LCSW and I can never say enough about her AND her special ways that she has saved my life, my mother’s life and my family as a whole re-unified whole.