Isn’t if funny how pictures of mothers never surface in their children’s homes or should I say the son’s home until mother dies?  Finally she will get her place somewhere in the background of pictures.  Only then when someone asks who is the lady in the picture will someone proudly say that is my mother, God rest her soul.  She passed a few years ago.  The picture will probably be one they found of you with gray hair or a bad hair day or wearing a church hat and where you were at your all time heaviest.  The picture will be meticulously blown up for all to see.  Why do they treat us like that. 

I know why we do not show up in the son’s home and that is our daughter-in-laws (some of them) do not want us there.  I gave each of my 3 sons a picture of me taken some years ago that I thought was a great gift.  I even framed them all to match the green clothing that I was wearing.  One son that was not married had it displayed.  However, when he got married he watched his wife break the frame in a heated argument and tear up my picture (may I add that this son is no longer married and it is just not because of my picture).  With the other two married sons, I never did see the picture again.

My mother-in-law made it to the “picture fame area” of my home when she died, all 3 of them at the request of my husband.  I had one picture that she finally gave me before she died, but the truth is I just did not have a picture of her to display before her death or I would have had it out with the others.  I loved the woman.  I would rather display family then all of these stray pictures that people proudly give to me and expect to see when they walk into my front room to visit.  They scan the family room until they finally find themselves and then the beam of contentment rests comfortably on their faces. 

As of this day and writing, I still have not made it to the family picture table or photo album that I know of.  I guess the right picture just has not presented itself acceptable at this time.

Can anybody else relate to this observation?