Marriage is getting lots of play today. It is attacked by the lie, steal, kill and destroy crowd. Many substitute relationships are being designed and proposed. What is the secret of success in marriage?
Marriage is all over the news, media and web these days. The modern hook-up or union as the kids view it doesn't last. The sexually challanged are demanding equal time and rights under law and as usual the politicos are willing to sell you anything for votes. What is going on?
Marriage is a covenant relationship designed by God. It is the spirit, soul and body relationship between one male, one female and God. He leads them into it and blesses them as they do His will. He says “Be fruitful, multiply, and fill the earth, and subdue it [using its vast resources in the service of God and man]; and have dominion over the fish of the sea, the birds of the air, and over every living creature that moves upon the earth.” Genesis (Amp)Marriage is thus a supernatural kingdom relationship lasting for life and bearing eternal treasure.
Not every couple “married” by a pastor, priest or rabbi is joined by God. Civil unions certainly do not make couples “joined by God”. Humans mistake the traditions of man for God’s covenant and will. God joins those who are first submitted to Him and to each other in God’s rhema for them. A believing couple walks together with God sharing His provision for their needs. They hear and obey His calling. This threefold cord is not easily broken. They serve and disciple those in the family, CHURCH and community, both believers and the lost. They are a blessing in their community and add light, peace and stability for others. Jesus commands that humans not separate those God has joined. “In the same way you married men should live considerately with [your wives], with an intelligent recognition [of the marriage relation], honoring the woman as [physically] the weaker, but [realizing that you] are joint heirs of the grace (God's unmerited favor) of life, in order that your prayers may not be hindered and cut off.--Otherwise you cannot pray effectively.” 1 Peter 3:7 (Amp)
When God joins a man and woman in this way He provides the indwelling Holy Spirit for each to follow as guide. This is a union that can overcome the world’s problems and take the man and woman to eternal treasure and relationships. It is so powerful that the lie-steal-kill-and-destroy crowd has all kinds of counterfeits to tempt youth. Most of the feel-good temptations glitter on the outside but are hell inside. Many Christian groups do not prepare young men and women for God’s best nor show them how to walk with Him in marriage. They trust in traditions of men rather than God’s grace and His call to the couple. The divorce and separation rate in many religious groups and churches is close to that of the pagan community. This results in more youth going off into selfish hedonistic activity only to surface later as sadder but wiser victims. They suffer preventable disorders including HIV, STDs and habits they can’t shake.
Jesus said Moses permitted divorce for hard hearted men but marriage ordained by God transcends human lusts and hard hearts. Jesus indicated that it was so from the beginning. “For the Lord, the God of Israel, says: I hate divorce and marital separation and him who covers his garment [his wife] with violence. Therefore keep a watch upon your spirit [that it may be controlled by My Spirit], that you not deal treacherously and faithlessly [with your marriage mate].” Malachi (Amp)Dealing faithlessly with the one God joined you to cuts off prayer and your intimate relationship with God which is your very source of rhema, faith and LIFE.A faithful husband lays down his life for his marriage mate as Christ did for the CHURCH.
Jesus does not command you to stay with dogs or wolves. He commands you not to give them that which you have consecrated to God. If either the man or woman is not relating in God's LOVE through an intimate relationship with God, there is no marriage. It is a carnal relationship or human tradition“marriage”. Men make never-ending rules and laws to manipulate such lustful fleshly hook ups. The most recent such oxymoron is the Massachusetts rainbow ‘homosexual marriage’ for the sexually challenged.
Teresa Heinz Kerry approves of Homosexual “marriage”. She said, “If any of the Kerry children were to say they were homosexual and wanted to marry their partner, I would... share my joy and my pride with all my friends, just as if they were marrying someone of the opposite sex.” The United Church of Christ in New England has recently approved same-sex marriage too. Some cults including the Muslims hook up in polygamy and there is no end to human inventions for pursuing lust. However Porneia relationships are contrary to the laws of nature and nature’s God and should be terminated. They certainly are not to be legislated as “human rights.”
It is no surprise that the enemy is still violently attacking marriage. He began his assault on humans by tempting Eve to eat fruit from the tree which God had commanded Adam not to eat before Eve was created and joined to him in marriage. God told Adam, “in the day that you eat of it you will surely die.” Genesis Eating it was committing suicide. Satan still tempts humans to commit suicide, abortion and euthanasia. His terrorists are committing suicide and homicide under the delusion that it will net them paradise and a big sexual wingding.
Christian men are to avoid twisting scripture and breaking their vows by covering their wives with violence. Marriage is a picture of the relationship of Christ with His CHURCH and is under attack by the enemy. Satan wants to spread the lie that marriage is any old sexual hook up that a human wants.He neglects to mention that humans reap what they sow and much of the sexual, spiritual and heart clutter they reap is lethal.
Marriage as designed by God is the most desirable and treasured intimacy between a man and a woman. It provides for procreation and companionship and God’s supernatural glory. The husband is responsible for security and following the guidance of the Holy Spirit for God’s best. The husband is to be the peace, the bond of unity and harmony. Ephesians Husband is a Viking word that came into English and thence into our version of the Bible. Husband is the house-band or secure binding for the household. Scripture says the wife is from God and is a very good thing. Proverbs 31 describes her as the creative, energetic one overseeing the feeding, clothing and activity of the household. She is the manager of the household staff. She is also an entrepreneur and acquires property, plants crops, produces merchandize for trading and is paid in the marketplace. She is worth more than rubies, the most valuable of jewels. “She speaks with wisdom, and faithful instruction is on her tongue.” Proverbs 31:26 Of course the husband and wife are co-creators with God in bringing new babies into the family and training them up in God’s ways. All of this is done in intimate communion with the Holy Spirit. These relationships traverse eternity to glory that is greater than we can imagine.
Our relationship with the Holy Spirit is essential to furthering the kingdom here on earth. Once born again, we are both in the supernatural kingdom and physically on the earth. Marriage is an earthly and a supernatural picture of Christ’s relationship with His CHURCH. Marriage opens to us doors of immense blessing both in the flesh and spirit. By hearing the Holy Spirit we can, through grace, do our Father’s will here today and lay up eternal treasure.
Those who are not spiritually alive and unable to hear the Holy Spirit are in some other kind of union than marriage. Those hook-ups are temporary and not very satisfying. They reap what they sow.