On Thanksgiving Day of 2007, I was coming from visiting my granddaughters. I really didn’t want to go home, so I drove by the little social place, my girlfriends and I hang out at. I thought even if there is no one in there, that I know, I would still shoot a couple games of pool by myself.
When I walked in there, was two people I knew, and three I did not. I ordered my coke and French fries, and while waiting for my fries, I went to the pool table and starting practicing for my team that I shoot on Tuesday nights.
I have good ears, especially when people start whispering, I could see out the cornet of my eye, the gentlemen leaning over to the bar keeper, who is that chick, he asked.
She told him my name, and suggested, he ask if he could shoot a game. He pranced over, and laid his quarters on the table, asking if I minded if he played the winner. (Mind you I was playing myself)
“Sure,” I said, “ I need the practice. I shoot for Joe’s on Tuesday, night and I am probably the worst shooter.”
He made me feel good by saying, practice is always good, even for the best shooters. We played a few games; my fries came and I sat down at the end of the bar and was munching on the, when he grabbed his Mountain Dew and asked if he could have the seat next to me.
We chatted, and then he asked, “ How would you like to go to dinner tomorrow night?”
“Sounds fun,” I replied.
We seemed to hit if off and before I knew it, Christmas was around the corner.
I felt the relationship was going pretty good, I wasn’t looking for marriage, but a stable relationship was pretty cool.
At that time we were both going thru a divorce. He asked me what I wanted for Christmas, and I told him, my soon to be ex was giving me a hard time about the cell phone we had together, (you know the plans.)
He already had my phone shut off a couple of times, so the game was getting pretty tiring.
He told me he could not get a phone in his name, claiming his kids and wife had ran up the bill so high he had them shut off.
We entered a plan together. Mistake, mistake, mistake.
We went and got the phones, putting them in my name for my credit was good. We broke up for alittle while, then got back together. He said he would take care of the bill, which was cool, he did hold to that statement.
Just recently we, on a Tuesday night I was shooting for my team, when it was over, we all headed for our home base, which was Joe’s. Kurt and I were sitting at the bar, just chatting with people we knew, while were waiting for my turn to shoot.
His cell phone rang, he covered it up, answered it and headed out the door. I was wondering why I could not “listen to who he was talking to” so my instincts automatically kicked in. I over heard some of the conversation, before he realized I was standing there, then the conversation all of a sudden changed.
I asked, “ is there something wrong, and who was he talking to.”
He screamed at me, which was out of character for him, especially if he was talking to his dad.
I’m talking to dad, and then told me to go back inside. I knew he was not speaking to his father, for he would not have screamed at me like that.
I went around the corner and the conversation changed again.
The next morning, he went into the bathroom and he forgot to empty his calls received and I looked on the phone, I was probably wrong in doing that, but then again the phone was in my name and my instincts took over.
It was not his father’s number on the last number received.
I didn’t say anything right then, but asked, “am I the only one in your life/”
He didn’t look me in the eye, but his reply was, you are my only girlfriend.
When, I told my girlfriend what happened, she told me I asked the wrong question.
She said, I should have asked, ‘am I the only one you are sleeping with” ?
Later on that day, I thought about what I had found out, and decided, this is it.
I called him, and asked if he could explain, when did his father move, to a 906 area code, when I knew his father’s area code was the same as mine.
He didn’t answer his phone, but I knew he had received the message, he didn’t even call to defend himself so I had his phone suspeneded and had the bill transferred to my mailing address, to make sure I would not get mine shut off for him not paying the bill, plus ruining my credit.
Friday, the 14th, as I getting into my car, there was an envelope on my windshield. It was the phone bill, from the previous month.
Now, mind you this was the bill that he also used to call all “his” lady friends, so we now have a problem, for I am not going to let him by with having to pay all this past bill for him to call his “lady friends” while dating me.
When, I called the phone company, I was told, if I had his phone completely shut off, I would have to pay a $ 200.00 fee. WOW! I explained to the lady what happened, but it doesn’t matter of the situation, I would still have to pay the bill unless I could find a friend to take over the number.
So, beware my friends of who you trust and date and get into a signed contract with.
The phone is still suspended until I can either decide to pay the two hundred dollars or find someone who is trust worthy enough to take over the number.
Lessons are sometimes learned the hard way, but I am glad I found out the truth, for God only knows how many there were and how many there would have been, him using a phone that we shared, in my name and here he was calling every woman and meeting them, while I was trusting him.
Twenty minds has been lifted off me, though, for when your instincts tell you something is not right, usually they are correct and now I have a found a great guy, that I met thru trust worthy friends and we are taking it slow, and he has his own phone.
(My girlfriend who is on a dating site, (she’s single) called me Saturday, guess who I found on the same site as you had said. He goes by the name of Kleiner, his last name being Klein, she said, he hit on her, not knowing who she was, and he his looking for a woman between the age of 18 and 60, him being 42.)
Makes, your skin crawl doesn’t it, especially when he has a daughter in her twenties.