Always say I love you. There is this song written by Stevie Wonder I think the title is “These Three Words.” It is about saying I love you to those you love.
My friends and family often tease me because I say I love you to them whenever we are on the phone or whenever I say goodbye. If we are disconnected I call back. I always want this to be the last thing they heard me say just in case we never talk again.
“These three words,” are often difficult for people to say perhaps based on their childhood. But they can mean so much to a person. I notice at first some people are uncomfortable when I say this to them and they stutter saying it back or sometimes they just say ok. When I’m speaking with a male friend and say it for the first time they often misinterpret the meaning. They either say huh or you love me (question mark). Then I explain that it doesn’t mean I am IN love with them just that I love them as a person.
Not only is it of the utmost importance to tell people you love them it is equally important not to hold grudges against people, especially those you love. Life is extremely fragile and if by chance you lose someone how insignificant a disagreement would seem. I listen to people who don’t even remember why they aren’t speaking to a family member or close friend, yet pride prevents reconciliation. I haven’t conquered the ability to let hurtful things run off my back like water on a fish. However, I do try to resolve the situation as soon as possible. For people who are impossible to get along with I attempt to leave the relationship on a good note and keep them at arms length. Loving someone and forgiving them does not include tolerating unacceptable, hurtful behavior. But if you end on a bad note and they pass on you carry this in your spirit.
Cleanse your spirit with forgiveness. Forgiveness also doesn’t mean they were right or that you deserved the mistreatment. It simply means to release them and let the karma of the universe deal with it.
There were times when someone wronged me, I not only wouldn’t forgive them but I also would seek revenge on them. Vengeance is the Lords! My spirit was heavy with anger that poisoned my body and my mind. Sure I am human and I resent behavior that insults me but now I see people as they are, love them and let them be.
At first I thought that I not only needed to forgive I needed to reinstate them into my life. But I realized some people are entertained by making another person miserable or they are so miserable that they can’t help but induce misery on others. I learned to let them be.
Love everyone. Some close up, some from afar. Treat people as you would like to be treated. When you reflect on your life there will be no regrets. When you lose someone dear you will mourn because you miss them not because you missed the mark.