Have you ever awakened and got out of bed
only to discover to your dismay, that the bed
was torn up and the sheet was off the bed......
what a messy looking bed. This may have caused
you to wander....." How did this happen while I was
sleeping ? "
In marriages all across the globe the marriage bed
is torn up, especially among christians. It is not just
infidelity, but I submit to you it goes even deeper than
that. We bring people and things into the marriage bed,
along with anger, bitterness, hurt, and pain. Flashback....
On your wedding day, the organist or pianist ministered
powerfully......." Here comes the bride" and you brother
excitedly with joy in your heart walked the asle to receive
her! Your beautiful bride felt that she was now complete!
Over the years though, you have allowed the marriage
bed to be torn up. Yes, you man of God, because you are
the head and the priest of the home. You have allowed the
enemy to come in. God is holding you responsible for the
torn up bed, stop blaming your wife! Let us take a look at
Geneisi chapter 3:9 " And the Lord God called unto Adam,
and said unto him, where art thou ? " Yes, God is still asking
" Where art thou ? " While the marriage bed is being torn up.
God have given you man of God power and the authority to
drive the enemy from your home. The time has come for men
of God to affirm their wives like you did when you walked
down the asle, and lovingly brought her to the alter. She is
not your maid, nor is she someone who you should dominate.
She is your rib for God's sake! She is to be by your side and
not under your foot! Have patience with her, show her love
and affection! Stop manipulating and trying tocontrol her.
Treat her with love and respect! Truth be known you do not
know the last time it was that you took her into your arms and
said said to her......" Honey I love you ! " When was the last
time you gave her a massage ? You may even go as far as
this......" open the car door for her ? "
Wives, it is time to begin today right now cooking, washing,
and cleaning the house. Please iron your husband's clothes
too! For God is not interested in exacting vengenence for
neither of you. God wants to restore marriages! With the
understanding that God honors marriages so much He
likened it symbolically to the return of Jesus Christ. Look
with me at this verse from Revelation 21:2....." And I john
saw the holy city, New Jerusalem, coming down from God
out of Heaven, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. "
In restoring the torn up bed, God needs both husbands and
wives to participate. Colossians 3:19 says, " Husbands, love
your wives, and be not bitter against them. " Wives, in verse
eighteen of this same chapter says to us as wives, " Subit
yourselves unto your own husbands as it is fit in the Lord. "
Again wives God knew we needed to hear it again from 1
Peter 3:1-2 telling us in BOLD, " LIKEWISE, YE WIVES, be
in subjection to your own husbands, that, if any obey not
the word, they also may without the word be won by the
conversation of the wives. ' While they behold your chaste
conversation coupled with fear. " Husbands and wives it
is later than we all think, and today is the day for the torn
up bed to be restored: by beginning this day to forgive
each other. Hold and embrace right now! Begin to have
prayer together consistently. May God give an attitude
of Jesus Christ one toward the other. Keep renewing
your mind in the word, so that you can see the future
God has called you to share with each other. Never go
to bed angry with each other: for the word says in
Ephesians 4:26, " Let not the sun go down on your wrath. "
Make it your number one priority to work it out before going
to bed. Be kind to each other, and cover each other in
love. Keep forgiving one another, and as you walk in the
light of Jesus you will have true fellowship with each other.
In restoring the torn up bed. No longer will you awaken
from sleep to find your bed torn up with the sheets off
the bed. No longer will your marriage be torn up! Remember
to acknowledge God your Heavenly Father in all that you do
and never forget you both have a role to play......stay in your
lanes, and work dilengently together to be godly examples
for the whole world to see: that marriage is a ministry
scanctioned by God to bring order to the body of Christ,
restoring the torn up bed!