Have you ever awakened and got out of bed

only to discover to your dismay, that the bed

was torn up and the sheet was off the bed......

what a messy looking bed. This may have caused

you to wander....." How did this happen while I was

sleeping ? "

In marriages all across the globe the marriage bed

is torn up, especially among christians. It is not just

infidelity, but I submit to you it goes even deeper than

that. We bring people and things into the marriage bed,

along with anger, bitterness, hurt, and pain. Flashback....

On your wedding day, the organist or pianist ministered

powerfully......." Here comes the bride" and you brother

excitedly with joy in your heart walked the asle to receive

her! Your beautiful bride felt that she was now complete!

Over the years though, you have allowed the marriage

bed to be torn up. Yes, you man of God, because you are

the head and the priest of the home. You have allowed the

enemy to come in. God is holding you responsible for the

torn up bed, stop blaming your wife! Let us take a look at

Geneisi chapter 3:9 " And the Lord God called unto Adam,

and said unto him, where art thou ? " Yes, God is still asking

" Where art thou ? " While the marriage bed is being torn up.

God have given you man of God power and the authority to

drive the enemy from your home. The time has come for men

of God to affirm their wives like you did when you walked

down the asle, and lovingly brought her to the alter. She is

not your maid, nor is she someone who you should dominate.

She is your rib for God's sake! She is to be by your side and

not under your foot! Have patience with her, show her love

and affection! Stop manipulating and trying tocontrol her.

Treat her with love and respect! Truth be known you do not

know the last time it was that you took her into your arms and

said said to her......" Honey I love you ! " When was the last

time you gave her a massage ? You may even go as far as

this......" open the car door for her ? "

Wives, it is time to begin today right now cooking, washing,

and cleaning the house. Please iron your husband's clothes

too! For God is not interested in exacting vengenence for

neither of you. God wants to restore marriages! With the

understanding that God honors marriages so much He

likened it symbolically to the return of Jesus Christ. Look

with me at this verse from Revelation 21:2....." And I john

saw the holy city, New Jerusalem, coming down from God

out of Heaven, prepared as a bride adorned for her husband. "

In restoring the torn up bed, God needs both husbands and

wives to participate. Colossians 3:19 says, " Husbands, love

your wives, and be not bitter against them. " Wives, in verse

eighteen of this same chapter says to us  as wives, " Subit

yourselves unto your own husbands as it is fit in the Lord. "

Again wives God knew we needed to hear it again from 1

Peter 3:1-2 telling us in BOLD, " LIKEWISE, YE WIVES, be

in subjection to your own husbands, that, if any obey not

the word, they also may without the word be won by the

conversation of the wives. ' While they behold your chaste

conversation coupled with fear. " Husbands and wives it

is later than we all think, and today is the day for the torn

up bed to be restored: by beginning this day to forgive

each other. Hold and embrace right now! Begin to have

prayer together consistently. May God give an attitude

of Jesus Christ one toward the other. Keep renewing

your mind in the word, so that you can see the future

God has called you to share with each other. Never go

to bed angry with each other: for the word says in

Ephesians 4:26, " Let not the sun go down on your wrath. "

Make it your number one priority to work it out before going

to bed. Be kind to each other, and cover each other in

love. Keep forgiving one another, and as you walk in the

light of Jesus you will have true fellowship with each other.

In restoring the torn up bed. No longer will you awaken

from sleep to find your bed torn up with the sheets off

the bed. No longer will your marriage be torn up! Remember

to acknowledge God your Heavenly Father in all that you do

and never forget you both have a role to play......stay in your

lanes, and work dilengently together to be godly examples

for the whole world to see: that marriage is a ministry

scanctioned by God to bring order to the body of Christ,

restoring the torn up bed!