Ernie R Heavin
· Are You In The Transformation Mode? Jesus Then and Now
· World 1 & World 2, a study of 1st Peter
· Living By the Power of Faith..a unique study on Romans
· For Better Or For Worse, a marriage football story
· Discussing Scripture and Eating Crow
· What do you want? An egg in your beer?
· Don't let the worst get the best of you
· When God Shows Up
· God is Hearer
· When God Confronts Us With Comfort
· What Is God Like?
· You are not the center of the universe
· Oasis Pastoral Care--December 21, 2013
· Oasis Pastoral Prayer---December 20, 2013
· Oasis Pastoral Care--December 19, 2013
· Oasis Pastoral Care--December 18, 2013
· Oasis Pastoral Care--December 17, 2013
· Oasis Pastoral Care--December 16, 2013
· Oasis Pastoral Care--December 15, 2013
· Oasis Pastoral Care--December 14, 2013
· Oasis Pastoral Care---December 13, 2013
· Oasis Pastoral Care---December 12, 2013
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Ellie Loved To Laugh
The Second Viewing
Heaven, you haven’t seen anything yet!
Regarding sin, death, and Satan: God Is Not A Gracious Winner
When Facing death, think like a mom
Romans 8…More Than Conquerors. How Can You Be More Than That!
My younger sister, Ellie, passed away last week and I spoke at her funeral. Being the micro-manager she was (probably still is) she had to approve the message. I wanted to share with you the Gospel portion of the address and left the very personal comments out. I think Ellie, God, and His Message, the Gospel, can help us face death from a different perspective. As I mentioned, Ellie pre-approved everything I was going to say but didn’t give me permission to post this online……………well, if she doesn’t like it, what is she going to do to me:)…………at least for now:)
ELLIE LOVED TO LAUGH
Kevin was my best friend in Harrington, Kansas. He lived just down the street, maybe a half a block or so. I was five years old. Ellie was three. I don’t recall what he said to her or what name he called her but before I knew it he landed on the ground on his back and her three year old fists of fury were wailing on him, left and right……..left and right. As I said, I don’t remember what he said to her or what name he called her but I promise you he never did it again.
I have conducted numerous funerals in my twenty-six years of ministry but not once have I purposely planned to start out with a funny story. However, I did it for one reason. I wanted to remind you that Ellie loved to laugh. I want you to remember her laugh, that, whatever sound she made when she laughed. I want you to remember that even in the most challenging times of her life, Ellie could still laugh. I told her that story several months ago but she didn’t remember it….but she did laugh. Kevin passed away when he was a teen-ager. Cancer I believe. He’s in heaven, where Ellie now resides. I wouldn’t be surprised if God has re-introduced them to each other and reminded them of a little incident that happened over 47 years ago. I’m certain the three of them are having a good laugh.
THE SECOND VIEWING
Taylor (Ellie’s 18 year old mentally retarded son) had a way of making Ellie laugh and most recently the story that made her proud and beam was when Taylor turned 18. Alex and Ellie, as good parents do, told Taylor that he was now a man, that he would no longer be able to remain in his old Sunday School class and so he told the children good-bye, that he was going to attend the adult class for he was now…….a man.
However, there is another story about Ellie and Taylor that is even dearer to me. In the movie, Radio, a mentally challenged teen-ager is raised by a single parent, his mother, who sometime around the middle of the movie dies leaving the boy with no one to take care of him except the high school football coach. About ten years ago my nephew, Taylor, watched the movie at home one afternoon. When the mother died Taylor began to cry and was sad for the rest of the day.
The following morning Taylor handed the video to my sister and said, “Watch again, mommy”? My sister, Ellie replied, “No honey. Remember how the movie made you sad”? However, Taylor persisted, asking again and again, “Watch again, mommy”? Finally, Ellie gave in and allowed him to watch Radio one more time.
When the sad part, the “mom passing away part” arrived, Taylor started crying again. Ellie walked over to him and said, “Honey, that’s why I didn’t want you to watch the movie again. It makes you sad. To which Taylor replied, “She died again”. Taylor’s perspective was that maybe, just maybe, the next time he watched the movie, the ending would change and Radio’s mother would live.
How prophetic he was. That’s where the movie, “Radio” applies to our situation. In this life, (the first viewing, if you will), we had to watch Ellie die. But in the next life, (the second viewing, if you will, the Resurrection), the next time we see Ellie she will be ALIVE! In the second viewing the ending changes……………She’s Alive!!!!! Maybe Taylor’s understanding is not so unrealistic after all.
HEAVEN…………YOU HAVEN’T SEEN ANYTHING YET!
Heaven………the second viewing…………….the ending really does change! I’m sure that we are all relieved Ellie is being well taken care of and not suffering any more but I would be willing to wager that there are a good number of you in the audience that really are not looking forward to going to heaven.
When my daughter, Krissy, was 12 or 13 we were sitting on our front porch steps and she turned to me and said, “Dad, I don’t think I want to go heaven.” Some comment for a preacher’s kid to make. Obviously I was puzzled as to why she would make such a statement so I asked her why she didn’t want to go. “Well, if heaven is going to be like a church service for eternity I don’t want to go. I don’t want to be bored for eternity.”
Krissy’s concept of heaven is probably how a lot of you think it is, a 24/7 church service……….bored for eternity. So this is what I told my daughter. “Do you really think God created this beautiful world with every kind and color and shape and size of creatures imaginable; oceans and stars and galaxies that reveal the awe and glory of God so that we could be bored for eternity? Do you really believe God thought to Himself, “I think I will place people on the earth to enjoy everything for 70-90 years and then bore them to death forever? Kid, you haven’t seen anything yet!” Neither has Ellie! And neither have you!
REGARDING SIN, DEATH, AND SATAN: GOD IS NOT A GRACIOUS WINNER
Both of my daughters played high school soccer and I always tried to emphasize regardless who they played or how the other team responded, when they won, don’t mock the other team………….be gracious winners. It really gets on my nerves when I’m watching a certain sport (Ellie refused to allow me to use a football illustration in the Eulogy. She told me she hated football, it’s her funeral and not to mention the sport) and a player scores and then begins mocking the opposing team flapping his arms like a cocky rooster and basically in their faces says, “Who’s the man? Who’s the man?”
However, regarding sin, death and Satan, God tends to do a bit of mocking Himself. Regarding sin, death, and Satan………………God is certainly not a gracious winner. Consider the words that Paul wrote, words inspired by God……..about sin and death (1st Corinthians 15: 55).
Death is swallowed up in victory.
O death, where is your victory?
O death, where is your sting?
It’s as if God is saying to death, “Who’s the man? Who’s the man? Where, O death is your victory? Where, O death is your sting? Who, O death……is the man?
There is an interesting passage in 1st Peter 3:19 that tell us after the crucifixion of Jesus, for three days Jesus preached to the spirits in prison. In my opinion, Jesus during those three days in the grave was giving the demons who followed Satan and deserted the heavenly realms the what for the “I scored…….I win”. I’m suggesting that Jesus is thumbing His nose up at them, mocking the demonic world, proclaiming, “Who’s the man?”
Think about it for a moment. Satan and the spirits caused sin and death to God’s creation—human beings made in the image of God. Then they tried to destroy God Himself by executing Him (Jesus) on the cross. And just when they thought they had won, Jesus begins making His three day proclamation to them in essence saying, mocking…………….regarding sin, death, and Satan, “Now where is your victory? Now where is your sting? Now……who’s the man?”
So here is what I’m thinking. If, when regarding sin, death, and Satan, God is not a gracious winner through the resurrection of Christ ………….then why should I be? If Jesus saw fit to thumb His nose at the demonic world…………then why shouldn’t I do it? I’m sure there are some in this audience that don’t believe Satan exists or that demons are real. He does. They are. But even if you don’t believe it, would you at least humor me for a moment if I practice what my Lord preaches.
Because I want Satan to know that I despise him for the cowardly, sniveling snake he was at the beginning for turning God’s most precious creation, people, against one another and against God as well. I want Satan to know that I despise him for the cowardly, sniveling snake he is today for what he has done to my baby sister and then has the audacity to try to get people to think this is the handy work of God. Because it is not! God has been cleaning up Satan’s mess since the beginning, and ultimately destroying his reign with the cross and resurrection of Jesus Christ.
Jesus is coming back!
Scripture says it like this: The heavens will pass away with a terrible noise, and the very elements themselves will disappear in fire, and the earth and everything on it will be found to deserve judgment…..and there will be new heavens and new earth which God has promised, a world filled with God’s righteousness………..(2nd Peter 3:11-13)
I say it like this…..and Satan’s 15 minutes will be up!
WHEN FACING DEATH…….THINK LIKE A MOM
Many people think like this, “If God is so good, then why does He allow suffering? Why does He allow death?” Scripture thinks like this, “I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us” (Romans 8:18). When facing death………think like a woman, think like a mom.
There is nothing or anything that brings more pleasure and passion to a mother than her children. And mom’s love to celebrate their birthdays and days or weeks prior to their birthdays they will be thinking and talking and planning how to celebrate with and for their children.
Mother’s don’t walk around thinking about how much discomfort they were in during the pregnancy, they don’t talk about how many hours they were in labor…………..because that’s the past, that part is over…………once the birth happens the labor pains will never occur again………..and it’s party time! Celebration time! Happy Birthday time!
We view death as the woman in severe labor. In Christ, God views death as the birth. God and moms think like this, “I consider our present sufferings, the labor, not even worth comparing to the pleasure and passion of being with my children……….forever!”
Ellie said it like this in one of our telephone conversations: “The ones I really feel sorry for are all of you guys”………….and then I thought she was going to say, “Because you’re all going to be sad and grieving”……………..but that’s not what she said because she really gets it.
What she said was, “The ones I really feel sorry for are all of you guys”…………..because you have to be left behind in this world and I get to be with God”. (The rest were very personal comments so I will close here as I did at her funeral with a portion of Romans 8).
MORE THAN CONQUERORS, HOW CAN YOU BE MORE THAN THAT?
31 What shall we say about such wonderful things as these? If God is for us, who can ever be against us? 32 Since he did not spare even his own Son but gave him up for us all, won’t he also give us everything else? 33 Who dares accuse us whom God has chosen for his own? No one—for God himself has given us right standing with himself. 34 Who then will condemn us? No one—for Christ Jesus died for us and was raised to life for us, and he is sitting in the place of honor at God’s right hand, pleading for us.
35 Can anything ever separate us from Christ’s love? Does it mean he no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or hungry, or destitute, or in danger, or threatened with death? 36 (As the Scriptures say, “For your sake we are killed every day; we are being slaughtered like sheep.” 37 No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours (or, more than conquerors) through Christ, who loved us.
38 And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. 39 No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord. (Romans 8:31-39)
If you wish to donate to the Challenger Program of the YMCA (for mentally retarded children) here is the address:
YMCA of Greater Kansas City
Attn: Financial Development
3100 Broadway Street STE 1020
Kansas City, MO 64111-9847
If you wish to donate to Hospice I suggest you volunteer instead. The more volunteers the more funding they receive.
P.S. I did tell Ellie’s other son to tear down the “Oxygen In Use” sign from the window. It’s no longer needed. She’s breathing just fine, now.
Site: Challenger: YMCA